Naughty old yearbook

Not recommended! I am an example myself. My parents gave birth to a younger brother when I was a freshman. Then more than ten years later, I still didn't accept him. My mother always said to give birth to someone to discuss with me. I mean, talking about my ass. My brother belongs to the kind of person who may not respond to you when you talk to him. Then I was behind him for so many years. What is there to discuss? Is it to discuss whether to unplug them in the future? I only have one son myself now. I will definitely not have a second child. I am willing to give everything only to him. Parents are selfish, and giving birth to a child is to support the elderly. There is no need to euphemistically say that they were born for the boss. I believe the nursing home will be improved in the future.

I am determined not to have a second child! When I gave birth to my daughter in the hospital, my mother-in-law began to say that I had no son, making her laugh! My mother has repeatedly stressed to me that it is good to have a second child, and the children will take care of each other in the future! I insist. Don't! The reason is simple! ! 1, my daughter was brought up by myself, and I have been in poor health. Every time she gets sick, I get sick again. I have had the experience of having a high fever, going to the clinic for intravenous drip, showing the tablet computer to the children and coaxing them. It's really a collapse! 2, my husband, my parents are the oldest in the family, they are all old and have been tossed about by various kinds. My parents think everything should be the boss, my brother and sister think everything should be my brother, and my only daughter doesn't exist. I don't want my daughter to face this in the future!

My wife and I never regret having a second child. Our family is still two sons.

When I was an old man, I had no experience and spent a lot of time in anxiety. I spent a lot of money and did a lot of useless work. In the blink of an eye, the boss grew to be five years old. I felt that I had never been here when he was growing up, so I looked at him carefully.

With the second child, because of the experience, many things are not anxious. I can savor the fun of raising a baby, which is equivalent to playing back the happy time of supporting the elderly in slow motion.

The boss is also very happy, because someone can play with him, and the pressure of studying is much less. When they are together, they can tear down their homes.

As for the cost of raising children, of course, raising two children is more expensive than raising one, but I don't think it will be much more expensive than raising one, because with experience, you can save a lot of useless expenses, and at the same time, many things of your boss can continue to be used. And once you have a second child, your psychology of spending money will change a lot. If you only have one child, you will want to give him the best things in the world, and you will spend more money invisibly. Once you have two children, you will spend money more wisely. Isn't there a saying that the boss cares for the elderly by the book and the second is a pig? In fact, this sentence is still half. When you have a second child, not only is the second child a pig, but the boss will also be automatically demoted to a pig.

It is also good to have two treasures if conditions permit. If the conditions are not so good and there is no leader when you are born, you might as well not be born. It is not easy to raise a child now. Not only does it cost a lot of money, but it also takes more effort in energy. So you must think carefully before you are born. In your case, I dare not have two treasures, so I'd better concentrate on cultivating Dabao.

My wife and I don't want a second child. My child is over eight years old. If we wanted a second child, we would have already had it. It's nice to have a child experience the feeling of being a parent and then forget about it. A few years ago, my family urged me not to talk about it now. As long as you make up your mind, your own life is your own master. You can say whatever others like, reply when you are happy, and find an excuse to leave if you don't like it. A few years ago, when his family strongly urged him, my husband told his in-laws that he was not feeling well. They said they would have a second child when they were cured, and then they stopped for a long time. Later, they could not help it. Anyway, it's good to play Tai Chi with them during the period.

1, I didn't want it, just a child, not because I didn't want it, but because I was afraid that I would wronged my child and reduce my quality of life.

Now the family planning policy has changed, and the second child is fully open, but the fertility rate has dropped. It seems that many people choose the same as me.

3. Having children is different from other choices. Be responsible when you are born, you can't regret it, you should consider it carefully.

4. Different cities, different family economic conditions and different elderly people make different choices.

5. Many people around me choose to have a second child. Therefore, they all have different degrees of regret now. A family with two only children is simply too busy.

6, ordinary families, four parents, two children, two middle-aged people, simply can not take care of both. What anyone owns is a big deal.

7. In the past, it was basically impossible to raise children for old age. There are very few people who are not old at 30. To tell the truth, when we are old and the pension is not enough in the future, what can we ask our children to chew?

8. Calculate the cost of raising a baby again. Now we have a child who spends more than 65,438+00,000 yuan a month and has no mortgage.

9. Nowadays, giving birth to a child pays more and pays less. The promising ones are not around, and the worthless ones are old. When we get old, we still have to look at the money in the bank.

10, giving birth to a second child is easy to say, but the threshold is quite high, and it is to contribute to society.

1 1. When the children are older, they need to attend remedial classes, and they have independent space in their lives and have company. My parents are still weak and sick, and I am tired to think about it.

12, some people say that two children are companions, that's right! When I was a child, I was a companion. When I grow up, I think about my parents' money.

13, people only have 30,000 days in this life. Why are you so tired? Now a child has no hesitation in eating, playing and tutoring after class. I also have time to rest and take care of my parents.

14, a second child can be born, but it must be rich enough. You can have a baby if you have a nanny, a private education, no work and a few sets of first-tier cities.

20 13 My family Dabao started to attend the kindergarten middle class. According to my life plan, I should arrange a second child plan.

Tell my husband that my husband doesn't agree, and he mainly cares about several aspects:

1, the economic pressure is too great. At that time, the income was unstable, and sometimes I couldn't live for a few days. My husband earns money by himself, and my mother and I spend money, so life is stretched.

I finally hope my children will go to kindergarten. I can help with bricklaying and loading occasionally. If I want to have a second child, once I get pregnant, I must stay at home.

3. At that time, it was only discussed that the second child policy was about to be released, and relevant policies had not yet been formulated. I am afraid that I will face considerable social support after giving birth to a second child, which is even worse for us.

However, my determination to have a second child, my life plan, and the growth of my age, I don't want to be an elderly woman, which is irresponsible for my children and myself.

After careful consideration, I naturally decided to have a second child!

Having a second child is to keep a companion for the older child in the future. When we are old and encounter diseases or disasters, at least there is someone to discuss. It is conceivable that one child bears the pressure of two old people. Having a second child can at least relieve Dabao's pressure.

This was my consideration at that time, and now it seems that the idea at that time was correct. If you have the idea of having a second child, it is still recommended to make a decision early. After all, the older you get, the greater the risk of childbirth. Not good for children and adults!

Strongly support the birth of a second child! I am 40 years old. I have a son and a daughter. Son 10 years old, daughter 4 years old. I have never regretted having a second child. Besides, I come from a second-child family and have a sister who is 4 years younger than me. When people reach middle age, they encounter some family changes, which makes me feel that it is better to have two children!

I was born in a small mountain village in Jingmen, Hubei Province. My parents are farmers, and they have been short of food and clothing since childhood. My parents are busy with farm work, and they don't have much time to take care of our sister, so as long as I can remember, I have taken my sister to play and take care of her to eat, dress and sleep.

We have a good relationship. She is my little follower, and I protect her from everything. Although there were occasional quarrels and fights, we were really each other's best playmates in our childhood together.

Because of each other, we never feel lonely, and we don't worry that some only children are locked at home by their parents alone. Moreover, because of my sister, as the boss, I learned responsibility and responsibility, and I know how to care and take care of it.

My mother is illiterate and my father has only a junior high school education. They tried to give up me and my sister. I was admitted to Zhongnan University of Economics and Law, and my sister was admitted to Huazhong University of Science and Technology. After graduation, they all worked, bought houses, got married and had children in Wuhan. It can be said that parents, based on their educational level, can do nothing about our study and can't help at all. But we can read all the way and benefit from mutual influence and help.

When my sister was admitted to college, she was worried about filling in her volunteers. I gave her an idea: "You are good at math and physics, so take the South China University of Technology!"

When I was in college, I was heartbroken. She encouraged me: "Sister, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve better."

In the first year after graduation, my mother had a lumbar spondylolisthesis operation. The next year, she suddenly had pericardial effusion. In the third year, she got uterine fibroids. She had three operations. At that time, I was not married and my sister was still in college. I am responsible for taking my mother to a hospital in Wuhan and tongji hospital, and my mother and father help with nursing in the hospital. Our family spent that difficult time together.

This year, my father found out myelodysplastic syndrome again. In April this year, the cost of the first chemotherapy treatment in tongji hospital was 6.5438+0.2 million yuan. Now he is in the provincial hospital of traditional Chinese medicine for the second chemotherapy, and the estimated cost is tens of thousands, followed by the third chemotherapy and subsequent medication and blood transfusion, which is not low every month. Blood transfusion is a self-funded project, with one unit of red blood cell 240 yuan and one unit of platelet 1500 yuan. During Tongji treatment, my father was hospitalized for 28 days and transfused blood for 7 times, and the cost of blood transfusion alone reached 10500 yuan.

If all these expenses are borne by me, it must be too much. Fortunately, I have a sister, and we agreed that my father's medical expenses would be shared equally by us.

My father lives in his hometown, and every time he comes to see a doctor, someone has to go back to pick him up. I can drive, and I basically go. My father's hospital is close to my sister's house, so she handles all kinds of formalities, deals with doctors, delivers meals to my father and runs errands temporarily.

I am very confused about whether to give my father chemotherapy, and it is difficult to make a decision. I have a sister to discuss and analyze, and soon I have an opinion.

In a word, I am grateful that my parents gave birth to a sister. It was their wise decision that gave me a relative to share when they were ill in hospital, and the pressure was reduced by half.

We can also help each other in our daily life and work. I was short of money to buy a house, and she supported me by 65,438+10,000 yuan. She bought a car and I lent her 70 thousand. I have a child who cooks for me. She gave birth to a baby and I ran to take care of her. We support and take care of each other.

We thought it was good to have a younger brother and sister, so despite the mortgage, we gave birth to our second child without hesitation.

The cost of having a second child. So, is the cost of having a second child really as high as some people say?

See how you were born and raised.

First of all, speaking of life. My sister and I gave birth to a second child, and were selected into Zhongnan Hospital and provincial women and children. We all have work and maternity insurance, and all of them are caesarean sections. After the reimbursement of the baby's medical insurance, my expenses are about 4,000 yuan (living in an ordinary double room), and she is about 8,000 yuan (staying in an independent suite for 688 nights). It can be seen that giving birth to a child doesn't cost much, and it is a one-time thing.

Then talk about raising. We all have maternity leave, about 4 months. I extended it for six months for personal reasons. There is maternity insurance during the period of taking care of the baby at home, and the salary is not reduced, so although it will cost more than before, it will not cause great pressure on the family. Moreover, during this period, I can earn some other income by working part-time online, such as writing articles and managing money. My second child was breastfed and weaned at the age of one, so milk powder didn't cost much. Saving on diapers, January 1000 yuan is enough. Clothes are old clothes given by others. I hardly bought clothes before I was three years old. The only big expense is that after I work, I hired a live-in nanny to watch my baby do housework at home, which costs 5500 yuan per month.

When I went to kindergarten in Bauer, I didn't need a live-in nanny. I just need to hire an aunt or an hourly worker to work the day shift, cook at night and pick up Bauer. Dabao sent him to boarding junior high school. In public kindergartens, day-shift aunts don't need to eat and live at home, and the tuition and nanny fees add up, which is not much different from the previous live-in nanny.

My sister's family has the help of the elderly, so this part of the expenses will be saved by asking my aunt to live at home, and the elderly can help her make up some living expenses.

Finally, talk about education investment. My sister and I are very willing to invest in children's education, which is estimated to cost 20 thousand to 30 thousand a year. In terms of education, it is true that every family needs to combine its own economic conditions.

If you can't afford to attend an offline training class of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan a year, you can choose to go to work online. If it is really bad, you can teach it yourself. Even the worst school education is not bad. If there is no serious educational anxiety, the average child will not learn badly. Dabao has participated in many training courses in recent years, but his grades have not improved much, which gives me the feeling that he is not as good as him.

To sum up, if the family's economic environment is not very bad and the family has financial resources, it is better to have a second child.

1, which is beneficial to the growth of two children. Nowadays, children, especially those in cities, rarely have the opportunity to get together and play. A child eating at home will inevitably feel lonely or even bored. Two babies, growing up together, playing and studying together, taking care of each other and caring for each other, are definitely a kind of spiritual warmth for them, which is a wonderful growth experience that parents can't give.

2. It is conducive to coping with family changes in the future. Whether the children encounter difficulties, their parents get sick, or support the elderly in the future, two babies have advantages over one baby. Based on blood relationship, they will support and help each other. In the face of parents' illness or support problems, they can share the burden, which is less stressful than the only child.

As human beings, having children and prolonging life span are our basic needs. It is not excluded that some people pursue the greatest realization of personal value, don't get married and have children, or consider their own economic conditions and don't want to live too tired, just have one. These are practical choices and beyond reproach.

However, if there are conditions and wishes, individuals still strongly recommend having a second child!

According to your present situation, I suggest not. Because if you want it, you will make your parents or you suffer.

My mother-in-law urged us to have a second child on the eleventh day. When she saw that my husband's sister was pregnant with a second child, she felt itchy and began to urge us.

In fact, our situation is not too bad. Now I just need to pay the mortgage, and then I have to take care of the children myself.

But because I take care of the children myself, I understand how tired it is to take care of the children and how much energy and money it takes.

Another child, as the old people say, can still be taken, but I think it will be unkind to the child. I can't even make a bowl of water even, for fear of wronged the child.

My mother-in-law is similar to yours. She likes to nag and listen to the wind and rain.

In fact, she has no bad feelings, but as you said, her emotional intelligence is quite low.

When my husband and I first got married, she told the old lady opposite me that she wanted to introduce the girl next door to her son. If I hadn't been ahead of her, maybe she would have married my husband.

I was still laughing at my husband after I got this. I robbed you for a long time, so you can't marry the girl next door.

If I had another one, I might bring it myself. So I still suffered myself.

After thinking about it, I still don't give birth. I can't give my children a good living environment, nor can I balance the relationship between the two treasures.

I really don't want to have a baby, and my mother-in-law likes to nag, either pushing it to my husband or keeping in touch less.

In the concept of the elderly, it should still mean more children and more happiness. They are not wrong and can't blame them, because their understanding of raising children is to feed and raise children.

Different ideas, no need to force, distance produces beauty, just like I am now.

First of all, you should understand that having a second child is a right for you and your husband, not an obligation. Whether you are born or not is up to you. What does it have to do with outsiders?

Not having children at random is a person's minimum accomplishment. As you can see, you and your husband are both rational.

Giving birth to a child is responsible for the child's life, so in my opinion, giving birth to a child must meet these conditions:

First of all, there must be will and desire.

Children born with blessings and expectations won at the starting line from the beginning. Because he (she) is loved. It is said that children already have the perception ability in the fetal period, and the mother's emotions will be passed on to the fetus and stored in the child's subconscious. Therefore, the mother must be happy and welcome, not reluctant.

Second, parents must be mature and rational.

Seeing that some young parents only care about their children, even if they have finished their tasks, they will throw their children to the elderly. The young couple will never give up and will not fulfill their responsibilities as parents. There are also some young people who have low emotional intelligence, are easy to be emotional and impulsive, and will be impatient when their children are naughty. Or couples have conflicts and quarrels every day. These will seriously affect children's physical and mental growth.

Third, parents should have a certain economic foundation.

It is an indisputable fact that raising a child requires a lot of energy and financial resources. "Children can be fed when they are born" has long been an old almanac among many elderly people. Of course, this does not mean that the poor have no reproductive freedom, but if your child only has food and never starves to death, when he is with other ordinary children, he is always ashamed of the huge gap in life, and he is excessively inferior. What are his chances of "rising in adversity"?

Fourth, we must have legal awareness.

This feeling comes from an incident I saw yesterday. Two days ago, someone proudly exposed her four babies, which was bombarded by netizens and questioned her parenting ability. So she wrote a long article, denouncing those who "can't eat grapes and say they are sour." I don't like watching wars, but what she said later shocked me to the effect that the country is aging seriously now and she is making contributions to the country by doing so. God, you like children. That's right. Whether they are fined or not, they should try to keep a low profile. It's really not the thunder to flaunt yourself like this, only the thunder.

Back to the topic, again, it's up to you to decide whether to have a second child or not. Be yourself and don't be morally kidnapped by others.