My husband and family never pay attention to me.

This is not unreasonable, it is human nature! If you go to the mother-in-law forum in Sohu, you will find that your mother-in-law is already a good mother-in-law. She just doesn't treat you like a daughter or a relative. She doesn't set the weather for you, and she doesn't sow discord in front of her son all day (it's true that one day her mother-in-law made rumors for her son three times, and the other day she wouldn't let her son close the door and listen to the wall), and she doesn't cry and hang herself to force her son to divorce you-don't think this is.

You are suffering now because you think your mother-in-law should treat you as family. If you are kind to her, she should respond to you. Even if you can't compare with your mother, at least you shouldn't be worse than your colleagues. But the opposite is true.

1. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies. Without you, her son will be hers With you, another woman will enjoy the precious fruits she cultivated in October. Of course, you may think that "if you think so, let your son never get married", but the mother-in-law just wants her son to get married (because marriage can enjoy married life) and hates her daughter-in-law. Therefore, it is naive to think that mother-in-law can get along like a biological mother.

She has no obligation to be nice to you.

In fact, if your husband loves you very much, his mother will care about his attitude, but ostensibly pleasing his daughter-in-law for his son may cause more resentment in his heart. You haven't heard the question "Who will be saved first when the wife and mother fall into the water?" Not only the daughter-in-law asks, but also the mother asks.

Why should my mother-in-law wait on you and be good to you? You were not born by her, and you haven't lived with her for many years (emotionally speaking, you are even worse than your neighbors). Your blood relationship with her comes entirely from your husband, and even has nothing to do with your son. Grandson and son are a layer apart, and son is her and her husband's treasure. Although the grandson is also the son's child, he is also the child of the woman who stole his son, so it is unrealistic for you to point to giving her a grandson and let her be good to you.

On the other hand, you think she is good to you because you have called yourself a family and you are good to her.

But in fact, you are a mother now. Do you love your children? Why do you love him? Because he is the meat that fell from you, you were pregnant in October and it was very painful to be born. It is difficult to bring him up bit by bit, earn money for his tuition and let him grow up. It takes a lot of energy and money. In the future, women will share the fruits of your labor, and when you finally raise your children, you will have to wait on your wife. Think about it. Are you upset, too? Your mother-in-law thinks so, and so do most of them. I still remember a relative of mine who saw his son pulling out fishbones for his girlfriend and came back complaining that he had not pulled out fishbones for me since I raised him so big. If your husband treats you badly, no one will marry him, but if he treats you well, his mother will feel distressed. In that case, why should she be nice to you again?

Yes, you are very kind to her. Maybe you have treated her better than your own mother, but think about it. Everyone you meet from childhood will respond to you, okay? You are good to the leader, and the leader will definitely promote you? If you are kind to your colleagues, they will certainly not play tricks on you? You and your leading colleagues have the same hobby-work. What's going on between you and your mother-in-law? Your relationship is just about your husband's concern.

So you must think hard and try to change your mind:

1, in the face of reality, don't watch retarded family ethics dramas such as Korean dramas, especially some TV dramas in our country, all of which let women return good for evil, and finally the woman's terminal illness is recognized by others, which is simply the washing of human nature, NAO. Actually, it's good enough to stay away from your mother-in-law.

Don't complain to your husband that his mother is not good, no matter how bad his mother is, after all, he gave birth to him and raised him. His mother may be able to think of him wholeheartedly, but you can't-he knows very well that you have bad feelings, you can break up with him through divorce, and his mother can't sever the mother-child relationship.

3. Change your mind and treat your mother-in-law as a leader and a colleague, so you don't have to think about how she should treat you, but how you coordinate this relationship. You married your husband and gave him a child. He should be nice to you. His mother worked hard for him for many years. It is time for him to be filial to his mother, not for her to love her son and his daughter-in-law. You are a mother, too. You have a son. Just put yourself in your shoes.

Generally speaking, the mother-in-law is very kind to her daughter-in-law, except for a few saints, not because her son's condition is particularly poor, and there is no one to accompany him after leaving home; It is because the daughter-in-law can make money especially or her mother-in-law is very powerful, and her mother-in-law wants to curry favor with her daughter-in-law. Otherwise, I'm worried that no one will serve me when I'm old, and no one will make emotional investment. Your mother-in-law obviously does not have these concerns. She has no plans for you, so she doesn't need to invest. You don't need to open your heart to her, so don't ask too much.