What role should men play in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

In China, the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been staged for thousands of years. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a phenomenon in many families in China. Whether it is the eternal theme in urban TV series, the scandal of married women, the broken family caused by the loss of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reported by news media from time to time, or personal experience, it shows that the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the most important social topics in China.

Where there are two waitresses, there is war. What you can't get is always in turmoil, and what you are optimistic about is fearless. As a result, the tug-of-war between his wife and mother has become the hardest hit area for his son's double career. From how to do housework, to the way to take care of and educate children, and even the time to eat, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a powder keg. In all conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son sandwiched between two women plays not the key role, but the only role. Whether angry with the splint or acting as a bridge of communication, men are the masters of their own destiny. At this time, as a man sandwiched between two women, he must stand up and solve the problem.

We can generally regard the relationship between mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and son as a complex triangular relationship. This is the love of two women for a man. If we ignore either side, it will easily lead to imbalance and conflict. Therefore, the role of husband in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really important. How to play this important role? That requires men to be dominant when dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The problem before us is that one is his beloved wife and the other is his respected mother, and neither side can offend. Falling in love with your wife will be considered unfilial. Turning to your mother will make your wife feel cold. This will make most men at a loss. Therefore, it led to their own negative state, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was very passive. Instead of being dragged by one party to deal with the other, or letting it develop, it will stop when its contradictions become more intense. In the long run, it is naturally more difficult to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The dominant position in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can bring completely different effects, and you can take the initiative to guide the situation in a positive direction. In this process, don't be influenced by negative complaints from either side, and then give positive hints to both sides respectively. Just as the saying goes, "You can cover both sides, but you can't pass it on both sides", a person who can cover both sides is extremely smart. He can not only skillfully make two women's dissatisfaction with each other disappear, but also please each other for two women, increase their goodwill and promote the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men must wear proper double-sided adhesive. Stick here and stick there, and mediate between wives. In fact, it is also very hard. He has to put in a good word with both sides to smooth their relationship. Men are also mediators and lubricants. If this man is a mother-in-law, doing nothing in the discord between mother and wife, it is conceivable that their relationship is very tense. I am a man when my wife and mother have problems. Play the role of mutual adjustment and mutual comfort. Then this family must be relatively happy.

A man who can be a husband and a son must get along well with his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. One should be able to sharpen one's mind and judge things from a fair and just standpoint. Don't just listen to his mother or his wife. When the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has occurred, men should first find out the reasons, don't take sides, try to appease in front of their wives and mothers, try to minimize the contradiction and don't let it escalate.

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