What is the form of parents' first meeting in Wenzhou?

1. Both parents meet to discuss the engagement, mainly to decide how much Huang Li and the man's dowry are and what the woman's reward is. At present, it is 48,000-88,000, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both sides. According to the popular saying, the good condition is to marry a daughter, and the bad condition is to sell her daughter. The gift money received is returned according to the economic situation. If the woman's condition is not good, she will get some money from the man for the wedding expenses. If the woman's conditions are average, both parties will be free of charge. Gift money is just one meaning. If the woman is in good condition, she will refund all the gift money and buy a high-end car for the man. Generally speaking, Wenzhou people are more face-saving, and the amount of dowry is often the embodiment of family economic conditions and parents' love for their daughters.

There must be enough time before the wedding day. During this time, you must buy the things that two people need to get married.

We start with what the man gave the woman.

(1) Happy Candy. There used to be sugar apricots in marriage, but now it is rare when the economic conditions are good (because there was a shortage of sugar in the old society, there will be this custom). Wenzhou wedding candy is divided into different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, and the red envelopes in the wedding candy are open to men and women separately (at present, 50- 100 is released by people, and the amount is decided by both parents through consultation).

(2) a set of gold ornaments. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring (now the price of diamond rings is between thousands and tens of thousands, depending on the financial resources of both men and women. In fact, you can also go to the gold shop to buy a loose diamond and choose your favorite style to build it, which can save about 35% of the cost. Note: you should ask your parents first, because parents basically pay for it. Gold ornaments are usually given to the woman by the man before the wedding.

A woman's dowry: There are two reasons for giving a dowry: 1. For a better life for my daughter, I will supplement my family or prepare for emergencies. 2. Try to give your daughter a place in the man's family. A large dowry can show the financial strength of the woman's family.

(1) When the man got married and engaged, he wore a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (a pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the best man is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the best man).

(2) Household appliances, furniture and cabinet supplies. In the 1980s and 1990s, most dowry items were televisions, sewing machines, wooden bags, washbasins and buckets. With the development of economy, dowry keeps pace with the times. Household appliances basically include flat-screen TVs, stereos, refrigerators, washing machines and computers. Furniture and cabinets are selected according to personal preferences, mutual conditions and the size of the new house, mainly for the comfort and convenience of future life.

③ New house decoration. As we all know, Wenzhou's housing prices are among the best in the country. It is not new for a rich family to marry their daughter and send her a new house as a dowry, but generally speaking, the man buys a house and the woman decorates it or both men and women buy a house together. The grade and structure of the decoration are mainly practical and beautiful, which is decided by both parents through consultation.

4 cars. In the new century, especially in recent years, with the upgrading of Wenzhou's private economy, Wenzhou people's dowry products are moving towards high-end luxury goods, and the first choice for luxury goods in dowry is high-end cars. Rich people marry women with luxury cars and new houses, while ordinary people try to marry an Audi A4 or a new BMW or a Toyota made in China.

On the wedding day: in the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to meet the woman and her parents, and gave her brother or sister a box of money (the box of money means that the woman's brother or sister refused to leave without letting her sister get married, and he would only let him go if you gave him money, which is the explanation of the older generation. Now the woman is basically an only child, how can she be free, or give each cousin a small red envelope). About suitcase money, it is usually given on the wedding day.

The suitcase is about 800 to several thousand, ok 1 more than 1,000. After arriving at the hotel, offer tea to both parents and toast to friends and relatives to witness your love.