"Congratulations, finally officially divorced!"

I didn't expect to find a variety show at home to pass the time on weekends, and the aftereffect could be so great: I was shivering with anger, crying my head off, and lost in thought. ...

In short, the whole process was high-energy and anuria, and adrenaline soared.

It's the hottest variety show recently. Goodbye lover.

In the program, a * * * has three couples:

No traffic stars, no publicity, no cheating and domestic violence. But it caused a heated discussion.

Because it's so real.

Flash marriage, asexual marriage, cold violence, widowed child-rearing, wives and precious men ... All kinds of human feelings that most people encounter in marriage have been stripped upside down by this program.

No matter what kind of prince and princess you are, what kind of ghosts and gods, chicken feathers, snot and tears in love have nowhere to hide. ...

It's not the children who keep the marriage together.

The most exasperating couple is KK &；; Tong Chenjie.

The main contradiction between husband and wife is whether to have children.

KK wants a child, but Tong Chenjie doesn't.

In the eyes of a woman in a single-parent family, KK is a little naive and has been drinking too much, so she can't bear the responsibility as a father.

But KK smiled and said, "I'm still a child. Can't I have children? "

On the surface, it is a parenting problem, but in fact it is an imbalance of security.

On the one hand, the wife has been paying.

Tong Chenjie is two years older than KK and had a failed marriage, so she is more rational and cherishes this marriage. Every time there is a contradiction, she takes the initiative to coax her husband to ease the relationship.

On one occasion, when Tong Chenjie went the wrong way, Vivian's face changed greatly and she kept blaming her. Tong Chenjie can only be coaxed like a child.

On the other hand, husbands are constantly tolerated.

KK is like a big boy. He is happy. After work, he always calls his friends, goes out for a drink and then goes home. He cares little about family affairs.

He is also very emotional and often loses his temper. Even in the program, in front of everyone, he will lose control and leave.

KK shouted: "Wife, come quickly."

Accustomed to taking care of KK, Tong Chenjie shouted "Little Vivian".

In this relationship, the husband feels more secure than the wife.

People who are favored have nothing to fear. Because it is the tolerated party, KK's attitude seems unscrupulous.

Let's taste some "ghost scenes"

When asked "why never cook", KK put forward a puzzling point: the "giant baby" behaviors such as not cooking and over-reliance are all aimed at making his wife feel needed.

After listening to his speech, Ni Ping suffered from pupil earthquake.

Facing the camera, his wife Tong Chenjie also expressed her grievances for the first time:

"Does he think I cook for him, is a gift for me? I'll cook for you. Eat for me? ! "

However, in KK's eyes, after his wife cooked the meal, he ate happily, which was his effort.

Then, he delivered a more puzzled speech: "Is it difficult to cook? I know how to do it in Baidu, but I just don't want to do it. "

Huh? What logic is this? In this way, I can't enter Tsinghua, because I want to give the opportunity to people who need it more. As long as I want to go, I can get into Baidu?

When it comes to children, he is a fallacy:

"I hope there is something that belongs to my image, covered with stamps. You are my son Vivian, and you are my daughter Vivian ... "

In his eyes, a child is like an object, a connection between himself and the world.

I didn't take into account the reproductive pressure faced by my wife. She is 40 years old too early, and I have never considered whether I can be a father from the standpoint of a child.

Their marriage is trapped here.

In reality, many people, like KK, think that the contradiction between husband and wife will naturally be better if they have children.

But that's not the case.

Marriage is never a child.

The sense of security is given by oneself.

What is even more cruel in marriage is that there is no response.

Even if you have children, you may still be separated.

For example, the following couple divorced once and remarried because of their children.

Husband Wang Qiuyu is a screenwriter, and wife Zhu Yaqiong is a super girl.

The wife is emotional.

Although she has entered middle age, there is still romance in her heart and childishness on her face. She likes to hold a guitar and sing everywhere.

Husband is rational.

According to his importance in life and work >; Children > wife. He is like an artificial intelligence without feelings, and every day is a strict schedule.

In their relationship, there are several breathtaking details-

The first detail is constant denial and preaching.

Wang Qiuyu is 10 years earlier than Zhu Yaqiong. The way he treats his wife is to crush each other with experience.

Zhu Yaqiong once wrote a song called Singing at will, which was specially written for Wang Qiuyu.

She sang it to Wang Qiuyu excitedly for the first time, but only got such a response: "It's so ugly, this song won't be popular."

On the day of receiving the license, Zhu Yaqiong put on makeup attentively, but only got such an evaluation: "You are so ugly."

Zhu Yaqiong needs to encourage the exchange of "appreciation education" with her husband, but Wang Qiuyu cursed appreciation education and taught her to reflect on herself. Accepting denial and rejection for a long time, Zhu Yaqiong became inferior and confused.

The second detail, one needs a sense of ceremony, but the other feels a waste of time.

After more than ten years of marriage, they have never had a wedding or taken a wedding photo.

Zhu Yaqiong's heart is eager, but Wang Qiuyu thinks these are all for others to see, which is meaningless.

Zhu Yaqiong also recorded many small videos, which are clips of their common life. But after Wang Qiuyu saw it, he said he didn't remember any of them.

Those pictures of life that are extremely precious to the wife will never remain in the memory of the husband.

The third detail is a one-minute hug. You have to hold a stopwatch to time.

Wang Qiuyu is a workaholic. Almost all the time, he stays alone in the studio, writing plays.

Sometimes, Zhu Yaqiong would come into the room and ask Wang Qiuyu to give her a hug. This book is very sweet. How long can a hug last?

Not only that, but also holding a stopwatch and patting Zhu Yaqiong on the back, which means "I have to work, you can go out."

Men wonder that women are indifferent, and women hate men. Their marriage is only bones, not flesh and blood.

Isn't this a true portrayal of many China couples?

Many men, Rainbow Yu Qiu, think that it is a good man to devote all his time and energy to his career and earn more money.

Actually, it is not.

Judging whether a person is attentive depends on whether TA is willing to pay its scarcest resources.

If he is free and spends a day drawing a picture for the other half, the other party may not feel much moved;

But if he is busy, he will spend the whole day drawing and send it to the other half. No matter how he paints, the other half will cherish it for life.

As Zhang Xiaoxian said:

The most silent cruelty in marriage is neither lack of money nor infidelity.

But there was no response.

The most regrettable thing is not divorce,

But once in love, it hurts each other.

Even if they are separated, they will still care about each other.

Such as Zhang He and Guo Keyu.

Both of them are actors, and they got married after one cooperation.

However, when they really got married and had children, they found that everything was not what they imagined.

Z Ryan is free and easy, and sleeps naturally when he is not filming; On the other hand, Guo Keyu is a self-disciplined person. He gets up early every day, does yoga and goes to bed at eight o'clock in the evening.

I don't understand the darkness at night during the day.

Because they can't run in for a long time, they have become roommates and the most familiar strangers in each bureau.

Communication is getting less and less, and it is getting cold and violent.

Long-term ineffective communication has filled each other with a lot of dissatisfaction.

At that time, Guo Keyu wrote a song called "Until the Right People Come", and the lyrics were simply their footnotes:

Finally, they divorced.

After the divorce, both of them decided that marriage was an impulsive mistake and there was no love between them.

However, as the program went on, some unconscious little details exposed their most secret inner world-

When challenging rock climbing, Z Ryan overcame his fear of heights and finally released himself. High above, he finally shouted out the truth hidden in his heart for many years to his ex-wife:

"Guo Keyu, thank you for the previous ten years. In the future, live the life you want! I want to live the life I want! "

Guo Keyu, who has always been introverted, is slow to respond, but tears and smiles overflow under sunglasses, moving, grateful and relieved.

No longer deny each other, but bless each other.

They also had their first hug in four years. Although it is not tightly attached, it is a start.

There is also a link to describe the characteristics of the former partner, so that the painter can use his imagination to paint. I didn't expect that in this link, they seem to be the most unfamiliar, but in fact they have the highest tacit understanding-

Z Ryan remembers that Guo Keyu likes to wear high-necked clothes and even remembers the details of hair style; Guo Keyu is familiar with Zhang He's eyes, nose and lips, and scored full marks for Zhang He's five senses.

When Z Ryan learned that Guo Keyu praised him, his eyes flashed with surprise: "This is the first time she praised me, and I know it for the first time."

Although I said that I never loved each other, the appearance of each other has already penetrated into the bone marrow.

If you haven't really loved, how can you be so unforgettable?

Two people who love each other are drifting apart because of lack of communication. This pair, it's a pity.

The most regrettable thing is not divorce.

But: we love each other so much, but we end up hurting.

Divorce failure

There is a beauty beyond marriage.

Outside the besieged city, there are also wonderful things.

In 2006, Zhu Yaqiong attended the super girl class and was highly praised by Wu Qixian: "I may not be able to write such a good song in my life."

Guo Keyu, 17 years old, won the best hostess in Hundred Flowers Award and Golden Goblet Awards for Red Cherry.

Later, she formed a band and became the lead singer. She seems to be a good wife and mother, but she also has a punk side.

Tong Chenjie, one of the first China supermodels to enter the world, is a closed model designated by design director vivienne westwood and the cover girl of the inaugural issue of VOGUE in China.

Nowadays, the marriage rate is low and the divorce rate is high. "Persuade not to divorce" has become an old calendar.

The best ending of marriage is not to tie two people together, but to become a better self and a better partner.

Without love, there is affection, and without marriage, you can also engage in a career.

Everything is the best arrangement, and there is always a way for you.

Marriage is for happiness, and divorce is for happiness.

So, what are you afraid of? Go through the thorns.

Share and watch. May your life be brave and full of love.

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