Why is it difficult for couples to get along with each other and how to solve it?

Awkward quarrels are caused by lack of trust and understanding.

The hardest thing to build between people is trust. With trust, unnecessary suspicion and unwarranted provocation can be reduced, differences can be easily bridged, misunderstandings can be easily understood and clarified, and the number of quarrels and frictions can be reduced.

Maintain full communication and mutual tolerance. Two people should communicate as much as possible and don't take it to heart. It will gradually turn into resentment, it will be embarrassing and there will be friction. Good communication will automatically reduce friction.

Be tolerant and honest with each other. As long as we understand each other, understand each other and coordinate slowly, the number of frictions will be less and less.

You can't lose your temper according to your own personality. Calm down and think calmly, and learn to empathize. This will reduce friction.

A little friction between husband and wife, as long as the scale is well grasped, will also increase the feelings of husband and wife.

As the saying goes, the rice spoon will inevitably touch the edge of the pot, and the tongue will inevitably not touch the teeth. Couples living under the same roof cannot live without each other. With the passage of time, it is normal for couples who have a good relationship to have a little embarrassment.

A couple with a very good relationship does not mean that their hobbies and ways of thinking are exactly the same; It doesn't mean that their world outlook, outlook on life and values are exactly the same. Because there are no two identical people in the world! Therefore, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions of one kind or another in daily life. If there is a contradiction, it is necessary to debate; If there are contradictions, there will be disputes. This is not a bad thing, because the more arguments, the clearer things will be. If the husband and wife are lazy and don't quarrel, then marriage may really be in big trouble!

When I say this, I'm not saying that marital discord is a good thing. If there is a contradiction, it is always stuffy in the stomach. But couples must master a degree when they are embarrassed, and never touch the following bottom line:

1, don't use the language of the notebook to attack each other, let alone involve each other's family.

2. When talking about this matter, don't turn over the old almanac and don't mention the old accounts of sesame seeds and rotten millet.

3. Don't divorce easily.

4. Don't have a cold war.

When there is a problem in the relationship between husband and wife, don't cross the above bottom line. If they cross the bottom line, they will hurt their feelings and shake the foundation of marriage. The inevitable and occasional quarrels between husband and wife should be regarded as an essential seasoning for the big meal of married life. However, this seasoning must be added in moderation. If it is added too much, the marriage life will lose its wonderful taste!

There is a folk saying that husband and wife were enemies in previous lives. It's not that enemies don't get together, and it's not that they can't get married. At present, 70-year-old and 80-year-old couples in Northeast China always call each other "my enemy"! This sentence certainly contains a lot of love! The deeper you love, the heavier your responsibility! Husband and wife not only care about each other's health, but also care about each other's shortcomings. All this is for a happier marriage and a happier family!

Don't hold grudges against the husband and wife, don't take them to heart. To understand each other's well-meaning criticism and supervision, everything is for this family! We must follow the old saying: If it rains, it will rain, and both husband and wife are uncomfortable, so don't hold grudges.