Love is dead or alive, how can love be so tormented?

People usually think that once friends around them start to fall in love, they will become uncertain and changeable. Of course, lovers in love are even more uncomfortable, thinking that they are often tortured by each other, and then they deliberately torture each other and find fault with each other. Actually, I think I'm tortured. It may not be each other's fault. It is likely that I care too much about each other, rely too much on each other, or fall in love too much.

First, I care too much about my love for each other. The two sides love each other warmly. Once the other party ignores themselves, or the other party doesn't reply to them, they will fidget and feel uncomfortable. Think that the other person doesn't love himself, and then be suspicious. Start doing something on purpose to get the other person's attention. But what you do is often something that hurts yourself and each other. Let the other side suffer, and it is also torture for yourself.

Second, too dependent on each other in feelings, too dependent on each other. Once the other party has something to leave, or needs to leave for some reason, it will be extremely uncomfortable. For example, because some things need to travel, travel is conducive to my promotion, and I am very reluctant to leave each other and then fall into the dilemma of hesitation and struggle. Then choose to give up, but once you give up for a long time, you will regret it and hate each other. And I feel that my working relationship is unbalanced and I am tortured by both sides. Therefore, relying too much on each other is a very critical torture point for a love. You must be independent if you want to be healthy for a long time.

Third, there are too many love brains. Some people like love brains very much, that is to say, once they fall in love, they will be unable to extricate themselves and have no restraint, so that the other party in love often suffers from some unrestrained thoughts in the love brain, and love is very troublesome. In their world, they will think that love is everything, so they will also hope that the other party will regard love as everything. This is very painful for the other party, and of course it is also very painful for the one who loves the brain.