What kind of parents are good parents?

More respect and less perfunctory; More sincerity and less hypocrisy; Accept more and refuse less; More understanding and less suspicion.

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

Can you let go of your parents' dignity and dignity? Don't forget that you were young and impulsive. You still have the unique sensitivity of girls; Why, mom, you also take the time to look in the mirror. Why do you care about small changes in your face?

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

It is not difficult to trust your children. Don't let me shuttle between you and your teacher.

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

I am your child, can you check my schoolbag, words and deeds without critical eyes and questioning tone? I know what health is, and I also know that an inch of time is worth an inch of gold.

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

You don't want to think about my problems with your head, so why can't I think about my own problems with my own head?

Why did equal discussion become my promise against my will?

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

I'm not a little girl anymore. A teenage girl is facing her own changes. When I am helpless, can you know what to do to help me?

Mom and dad, I want to tell you-

What else can I say? I just want you to know that I love you.

Mom and dad, I want to tell you. ...

Senior three candidates: Mom and Dad, I want to tell you.

Senior three is the last critical moment for students who have been studying hard for ten years. Whether they can successfully pass the college entrance examination and enter the university hall is definitely a crucial year.

The importance of senior three is not a simple description. Senior three students know this, and so do parents. No, when I entered the third year of high school, the family atmosphere immediately became serious. Needless to say, parents were also acting. However, it is one thing to realize, and it is another to realize what to do in the future. The seriousness of the whole family as soldiers, extremely nervous parents, and a depressing atmosphere ... What do senior three students feel and think in this family atmosphere? As parents of senior three students, we might as well listen to their voices.

Taste the third grade-the ups and downs of "experienced people"

"How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain?" . Looking back at the past senior three from the temple of the university, the perspective of "experiencer" should be more calm, objective and pertinent than that of senior three students. Looking back on the ups and downs of the past, I have a lot of feelings in my heart.

Senior three is a memorable year, almost every college student interviewed said so. Looking back on my senior three life, my teachers' encouragement, my parents' encouragement and even my stressful and boring study itself are accompanied by a memorable factor. The pressure of the college entrance examination no longer exists, but the parents' words are still in my ears. Every time I recall these things, I can deeply understand my parents' intentions and really feel the warmth of home. After the third year of high school, they are more willing to tell their younger brothers and sisters who are still on the road, and also tell all their parents who are suffering.

Communication starts from the heart.

Lu Jiwen of Xi University of Technology won the first prize in the 20001National Mathematical Modeling Competition for College Students, and also won the first prize of the school year after year. He studies in Huanggang Middle School in Hubei, and his home is in the countryside. He doesn't see his parents many times a month. As the only student in the village studying in a key middle school, the whole village has high hopes for him. In addition, due to the competition of many outstanding students from famous schools, classes and schools in Huanggang Middle School, as well as the requirements of teachers, he felt unprecedented pressure. However, at home, he can find his own safe haven. His parents never set any goals and requirements for him, but kept relieving him of the pressure. Parents often say to him: "The college entrance examination is actually an exam. As long as you prepare actively, review well every day, and then play your due level in the exam and do the questions you can do well, that's enough. Regardless of the outcome, we will be satisfied. " It was his parents' understanding and support that moved him deeply. He always takes the initiative to talk to them about any problems, and his parents also take the initiative to exchange views with him on his study and life, encouraging him to express his thoughts and doubts, or to be happy or depressed. In this way, in the third year of high school, although he is also nervous and busy, his life and study are always orderly and his mood is simple and happy. Finally, Lu Jiwen was admitted to Xi University of Technology. Although he didn't play well in the college entrance examination, his exam results were not satisfactory due to physical reasons. More importantly, parents don't complain about this but understand it very well. This allowed Lu Jiwen to go to college with a peaceful mind. In his mind, parents are the last refuge of the soul, where he can always draw the power of peace and progress. Finally, I got good grades in college and became a good student with excellent academic performance.

Speaking of the experience of senior three, Lu Jiwen said the following passage:

In fact, all parents in the world are similar. Whether they are happy or tottering, what is hidden under this appearance is love for children. Talk to your parents more and tell them frankly what you want to say. They are our most trusted elders and friends at all times.

As parents of students, you should know that senior three students are actually under great pressure. They have to face the competition among classmates, the demands of school teachers and the hopes of parents. If our parents can't give them an environment to release pressure, it will often be counterproductive for senior three students to give them pressure again. At the age of seventeen or eighteen, they are sensible and naturally understand the road they are facing and what they are about to experience. They have the ability and willingness to make their own choices and give all their strength to it. At this time, what parents should do is to communicate with them more, be a person who truly believes that they understand them, and be their friends who tell everything.

Touched, inadvertently

Children face the college entrance examination, and parents are extremely nervous. They want to do everything for their children and take care of them abnormally. At this time, children have become "special protection objects" and become the core of the family. Everything is child-centered, and children are not allowed to worry about anything except study.

"From the first day of the third year of high school, they (parents) always pay attention to all kinds of trends (in the college entrance examination) and will never let go of any opportunity to get a' long score'. It can be seen from the careful preparation of weekly nutritious meals. Every weekend, the food at home is always rich. Dad went shopping early in the morning, and mom was meticulous from washing to burning. She also consulted the recipes in the newspaper and processed them scientifically. Therefore, sometimes she has to go to the pharmacy several times to cook a chicken. " Speaking of parents' care during the college entrance examination, Tang Dan, who is now a student of Tongji University, was deeply moved.

"In the high temperature of June, they still came to see me at school, just to send me a meal and improve my food." Ling Zhou of Wuhan University Business School was also moved by his parents.

However, in the college entrance examination, students need not only food and nutrition, but also many things for their parents selflessly to become "princesses" and "young masters". Deliberate "key protection" will often bring them greater pressure.

In the journey of senior three, students will experience some setbacks and some disappointments. Psychological and emotional care and help, understanding and support are equally important and cannot be ignored. Inadvertently, the comfort of the soul will often touch the candidates more and bring them more motivation.

"On one occasion, I didn't do well in the exam. When I went home, I didn't tell them (parents) that they knew about it through the school bulletin board, but they didn't ask me the reason in person, but gave me a note that said: You are our proudest daughter! " Wang Lixia, a student from Wuhan University, was deeply touched when he recalled his parents' understanding.

Inadvertently acting for children will not bring more pressure to children, but also let children feel their parents' intentions.

"In fact, the care of parents is in the usual dribs and drabs. It is because of their love that I have the strength to face the difficulties encountered in my study and the courage to overcome them. " Zhang Ying of Tongji University summed up his parents' concern.

What is suitable is the best.

In the process of college entrance examination, parents' care and love are often the easiest to deteriorate and evolve into parents' violation and coercion of their children's wishes.

"Being admitted to a famous university is not necessarily the best result," said Zhang Hui of Xi University of Technology. One of his high school classmates was full of longing and longing for soldiers, and he also wanted to exercise himself in the military camp, so he dreamed of entering the military school all day. However, his parents are very opposed to his decision and are determined to let him enter a key university. Later, under the pressure of his parents, he finally changed his wish. As a result, he was successfully admitted to this famous university, as his parents wished. However, things have just begun. Because he entered the university for one year, he was completely uninterested in learning, and his final grade was hung with a red light, and he was finally forced to drop out of school. His parents also regretted it. This incident gave Zhang Hui a great stimulus. Usually parents should respect their children's opinions. Even if you are thinking about their future, you should also consider their position. Persuade patiently instead of imposing it on others. It is wrong to simply hope that "children will understand later". Now it seems that the "best" way may not be suitable for your children. Moreover, judging whether it is good or not, the child's will is also a very important part, and it is a very important part. Parents should not deprive their children of their choice under the banner of "caring". In fact, "interest is the best teacher", and only the way that suits you is the best way, and children can get the best development.

As parents, it is very necessary to refer to their children completely. You can also tell the factors and reasons that parents consider and help them deal with the customs of different periods. But parents should first adjust their expectations, don't blindly compare with others, and there is no need to compare with the children of next-door neighbors or relatives and friends. As long as they combine the actual situation of their children, they will not embarrass them, nor will they add any pressure to them, and they will fully consider their future.

If you take the college entrance examination again,

The students standing in the ivory tower, with the help of their parents, have successfully passed the threshold of the college entrance examination. At this time, it seems that they will be given another college entrance examination. What do they have to say?

Once my college entrance examination passed like this, I was lucky and I cherished it. If God wants me to choose again, I will still follow my parents' wishes. It's not really stress. As long as I grasp it well, I can turn it into motivation. Who doesn't want to help the children at a critical time, even a little? There is only one college entrance examination, because they are willing, they really want to pay this love, willingly, without regrets, why should we force others to do it, even if we give them a chance to contribute! —— Tang Dan of Tongji University

I firmly believe that even if I enter the third year of high school, my parents' tolerance and care will still be my magic weapon-Zhang Ying.

Just stay the same, don't be too nervous, give me some encouragement and let me decide everything by myself. Ling Zhou

If I come to senior three again, I want my parents to point out more mistakes to me, whether in life or in character. Lixia Wang

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Their senior three, their college entrance examination, after all, has passed and will not come again, so their words can only be said to their parents who will realize that they are senior three students. I hope that the words of these "experienced people" can bring them some enlightenment, accompany their children and easily walk on the road of senior three.

Kou asked senior three-what happened to mom and dad?

Senior three, like it or not, has arrived. What kind of family atmosphere do students who have just entered senior three feel? And what happened to parents and other family members in the family? Compared with the situation before senior three, do you feel uncomfortable? What do senior three students think of their parents? Let's find out what the senior three students really think.

The pressure has been there since childhood, but the third year of high school is much heavier than before. It should be said that this generation of high school students grew up under pressure. The academic burden is heavy, and the competition for choosing a school for the senior high school entrance examination is fierce. , so that they have a certain psychological endurance to pressure. But as soon as I entered the third year of high school, I still obviously felt nervous and urgent.

"I really know what pressure means," said Zhang Xin, a student in Class Two, Grade Three, No.1 Middle School in Xi. "The family atmosphere has obviously changed, and of course parents have also become bigger. I feel that they are also in the third grade like me. For them, three sentences a day are inseparable from the college entrance examination, which is an alarm bell in our ears. Needless to say, the family environment is tense. Not to mention, even if neighbors meet their parents' friends, the first sentence will always ask: senior three? How is your study? In such an environment, it's strange not to be nervous, which makes everyone nervous all day. "

What is the attitude of parents? Luo Xin's parents made it clear that everything serves learning and everyone works hard. So the home was fortified, the computer was locked, and all the TV and newspapers were sealed, let alone playing video games. Wang Yang's father is good at ideological and political work, and Wang Yang is at a loss by his long speech. Regarding the university goal, he analyzed the social situation for Wang Yang, discussed the development prospect, and finally came to the conclusion that Wang Yang "can't go to Tsinghua".

"A little pressure is actually quite good. After all, there is pressure to be motivated, but my parents can't stand it all the time. The college entrance examination is also my own business. I don't know my own business? Of course, I will try. It's really annoying if they always whisper in my ear like they don't believe me. " Luo Xin said. But Wang Yang, despite his good academic performance, is still uncertain about his father's goal of "Tsinghua". Moreover, he is very dissatisfied with his father's practice. "Home is like a prison. No matter how high the school is, people must live. Every day besides studying is' ideological work'. Who is guilty? " Obviously, a seedling in Tsinghua suffered again.

The poor inherit the wind. There are senior three students at home, and the strings in parents' hearts are often tighter than the candidates themselves. Senior three students feel nervous, which can be said to be half from the college entrance examination and half from their parents' nervousness. The distress of Wang Qi is a typical example. At home, her parents treat her like a little princess and don't let her do anything. They want her to concentrate on her review, which is very special and the atmosphere at home is very strange. My parents are always cautious about her, just like she is a porcelain doll, for fear that she will fall to the ground and break into pieces as soon as she lets go. Mother told her what to eat to maintain nutrition and what nutrition to supplement before and after meals at night. Dad looked for all kinds of review materials to strengthen her. Even grandparents often sat anxiously and were busy by themselves ... Speaking of this, Wang Qi felt too much pressure: "I really can't think of what I would do if I didn't do well in the exam and failed to live up to everyone's expectations and efforts." Undoubtedly, the "specialization" of family brings more pressure to candidates than convenience and motivation.

Zhang Xin once talked to his father about the college entrance examination and casually said, "The admission rate of Shaanxi college entrance examination reached 53% this year." I didn't expect her father to be angry, so she began a lengthy analysis, saying that there was something wrong with the admission structure, and it was very passive to barely enter a university. At the same time, she also analyzed that she relaxed her requirements and began to make no progress ... Zhang Xin was dumbfounded. Zhang Xin felt that although he could understand his father's kindness and the meaning of what he said, there was absolutely no need to feel nervous about surfing the Internet.

Many students said that because their parents are too sensitive, they dare not tell their parents some of their true thoughts, for fear that their parents will worry. So they all try to figure out their parents' thoughts first and hide their true thoughts according to their parents' wishes. Not only have their problems not been solved, but they also have to solve their parents' doubts. It's really hard.

Parents are more nervous than candidates, just like candidates are nervous in the examination room, which is an unqualified performance. To be a qualified parent, parents should first decompress themselves, and then create a relaxed environment conducive to candidates for their families.

As the saying goes, several families are happy and several are sad. On the one hand, students complain that their parents are too focused, on the other hand, some senior three students don't get the care they deserve. Zhang Qiang is a very independent student. This is his own evaluation. In fact, he has been living in a boarding school since junior high school. I believe that years of living on campus have made him accustomed to taking care of himself, but the pressure of senior three still makes him a little overwhelmed. "Parents may be too relieved for me. They don't care much about me. Everything is up to me. But I still hope to talk to them about something, ask their opinions, or ask them to give me some advice. " After all, senior three is not the same as before.

It's hard. It is really difficult for a child to be a qualified parent in senior three. Just don't leave. It's really hard for everyone to adjust. What can be done to satisfy children? Let's listen to the students' own expectations.

Looking forward to Senior Three —— A heartfelt message to parents

The degree of attention

Xu Shan of Class Kloc-0 in Grade Three hopes that her parents can look at the college entrance examination objectively and don't be as nervous as charging every day. They understand their situation and know how to strive for success in the college entrance examination through hard work. Appropriate reminders are necessary, but excessive attention may be counterproductive.

At this critical moment of senior three, the appropriate care from the family will make the candidates who walk on the road of senior three feel the warmth from the family and the understanding and support from their parents. If the college entrance examination is a battle, then the family is their rear area. This will make them full of confidence and motivation, and make them dare to face all the pressures of senior three.

However, when parents pay too much attention to their children, or obviously ask too much of them, or interfere too much with their children's words and deeds, or show ardent expectations in their daily actions, all their behaviors have changed greatly compared with those before the third year of high school ... In this way, all too special forms will add invisible pressure to the already extremely sensitive third year students. When parents are too attentive, children will automatically attribute their parents' eagerness to their own requirements. Being sensible, they are always worried about disappointing their families' expectations and feel sorry for what their families have done for them. In this way, their pressure will increase, making them overwhelmed and unable to exert their personal abilities normally.

The family atmosphere is relaxed and natural, and the students feel relaxed and happy. Isn't this effect exactly what everyone expects?

Please be our friend.

The boredom of senior three doesn't mean that students have nothing to say. They are also eager to communicate with others. The pressure of study, the choice of self-development direction, the indifference of classmates, the joys and sorrows of teachers ... Senior three is just a time to communicate with others. At this time, the role of family is very important. If students can talk about what happened at school in a relaxed atmosphere created by their parents every time they go home, discuss their future, school and major choices, and relax with their parents, then parents are their children's friends, and it is much more successful and easier to play the role of friends than to play elders or missionaries.

"Parents who talk endlessly and only know that you can study and study are not what we like and hope. We must know what we have learned. What we need is that they can give us a place to rest and talk to them like friends. " I believe that Huang Li spoke the voice of most senior three students.

Your own way, decide for yourself.

In the process of college entrance examination, parents are most worried about filling in the voluntary choice of schools and majors. After all, this is related to children's future career and their personal development. Undeniably, because of their rich experience, parents will consider problems from all aspects and put forward good opinions from different angles, which is of course more practical. However, parents must not ignore their children's personal interests and personality factors. No matter what occupation in the society is "fragrant", no matter what the students' own situation is, children are required to apply for the exam. It is very undesirable to make decisions for children or even force them to arrange volunteers.

Zhang Yue, who has a good academic record, said: I hope my parents can give me full reference when filling in my volunteers, such as what school to choose, but I also hope that they will finally respect my decision. I know I may choose a life path, my own life path, and I want to decide for myself.

In fact, parents can do a lot of things, such as helping them find out the detailed information of their major or school, and consider whether they can get into the exam according to their actual situation, professional curriculum, professional employment prospects, and overall employment rate of the school. Remind them of various reference factors and believe that they can choose their own path.

More help, less interference.

Xu Shan, the interviewee, once hesitated. Her parents and elders around her encouraged her to apply for prestigious universities, but she thought that we should not only pay attention to the brand of the school, but also choose the major that suits us. Zhang Xin served as the class committee, because her parents always accused her of wasting time serving her classmates, and she was sometimes depressed. Learning should be a combination of work and rest. The effect of studying hard may not be good. What's wrong with doing something for your classmates after study? The reporter noticed that three of the four students used the word "I don't know" when talking about their parents' expectations. They all hope that when they are depressed, their parents will leave them a space for quiet thinking; Remind them when they indulge, but don't complain. Generally speaking, the requirements of senior three students are nothing special. More help and less interference, a relaxed family atmosphere is more important than anything else. "As long as I eat better," Wang Yang even only asked this sentence. He smiled cunningly, but his face was full of determination and confidence.

postscript

I often receive letters and calls from my parents. I hope we can help them with some ideas. In the special period of senior three, what should they do to "fulfill their parental responsibilities"? We are very touched. Parents are very nervous about the college entrance examination for students. They want to do something for their children, but they know that senior three is very important, and they are afraid they can't do it well. They don't know what to do to meet their children's requirements and bring practical help to them. The heart of parents' boxing is so complete and vivid in an instant! I really hope that the articles we edited can give them some useful enlightenment. At the same time, we sincerely hope that all senior three students who are about to take the college entrance examination can stand in the position of their parents, understand their parents more and tolerate them more. Communication is mutual and communication is for the same goal.

Here, we give the words of Tang Dan, a student of Tongji University who impressed us deeply, to all senior three students again. While constantly questioning parents, if we think from the perspective of parents, we may understand them: I am lucky to pass the college entrance examination in this way, and I cherish it. If God wants me to choose again, I will still follow my parents' wishes. That's not really stress. As long as I grasp it well, I can turn it into motivation. Who doesn't want to help the children at a critical time, even a little? There is only one college entrance examination, because they are willing, they really want to pay this love, willingly, without regrets.

Why force others to do it? Give them a chance to give!

Mom and Dad, I want to say to you.

Article Source: Four Little Authors of Huangcun: Zhang Haijuan of Class 5 (1) Reading Times: 394

When I get up in the morning, I open the curtains. A bright silver world appeared before my eyes. As soon as I saw these white snow flowers, my heart got excited and I just wanted to throw myself into the embrace of this snowy world as soon as possible. My mother walked me out and repeatedly told me to be careful on the road. I only care about enjoying the snow scene, so naturally I think my mother is a little wordy. "Go home, it's really annoying!" I'm never going back to the ground.

"Mom, come on, pull me away!"

In the snow, a young mother ran with a smile and her little daughter followed her. Suddenly, my mother slipped and fell on the snow. I hurried to help her, but she ignored herself and immediately went to help her little daughter sitting on the ground. The daughter is also very sensible to pat off the snow on her mother's head and gently say, "Mom, do you hurt?" Mother smiled happily, laughing so comfortably.

Looking at the figure of mother and daughter hugging each other in the snow, a similar scene was reflected in my mind 10 years ago! At that time, I was also very clever to shoot snow for my mother and help her walk. But on the same snowy day 10 years later, I only cared about my own interests and put my mother's concern aside. Maybe my mother didn't take my words seriously, but at the age of 12, I should understand my parents' pains, because in their eyes, I will always be a child. Maybe the mother had a bad fall just now, but the little daughter's simple words eased her pain. No matter how cold it is outside, my heart is hot. This is the most moving relief in the world and as pure as snow!

Snowflakes are floating. I watched the mother and daughter walk away and turned around eagerly. I want to go home and say to my parents, "Dad, Mom, be careful when skiing on the snowy road!" " "

Dear Mom and Dad:

Please forgive me for telling you my mind in this way.

I have been a playful child since I was a child. Like a tomboy, climbing trees and catching shrimp with boys ... you never stopped me and gave me love that other children can't match. I thank you very much!

Since I went to school, you have also worked hard for my academic performance. I have seen it. I am not a hard-working child, and I also admit that I have been learning by my own cleverness, so my academic performance has been unsatisfactory. Now I'm in grade three, and I have more and more homework. You tried many ways to get me into a key high school. You hired me as a tutor, bought a lot of counseling books, and asked the teacher about me every week. Have you ever thought about how I feel? ! I am like a caged bird, living under your supervision every day, and my every move is restricted by you. I am really miserable, but I have never expressed my dissatisfaction, because you did it for my own good, and also for my future success and living in the envious eyes of others. But I'm really tired. My classmates asked me to go out to play at the weekend, but you shut me down. I thought it was that damn math tutor! Besides, there's one thing I didn't say. Last Saturday, I came home from an energy tutorial class and saw that my diary had been touched. A terrible thought appeared in my new room: You peeked at my diary! I was really angry at that time, but I could see my father's rickety figure busy repairing his bike. That car is your dowry when you get married. When I was a child, my father used to ride it to take me to the park. That was really the happiest time of my childhood! It has reached the age of "retirement", but in order to buy me more counseling books, my father has been riding it to work. I turned around and saw my mother sewing my school uniform. The dim light keeps your eyes from crying, but my desk is covered with advanced eye protection lights. The white hair on my mother's temple makes me want to cry. I retreated. I finally held back. I quietly put my diary back in the drawer. ...

Mom and Dad, let me tell you a story. "Mr. Wang, who works in an agency in Nanjing, has become more and more anxious recently. He found that his daughter, who was in the second year of high school, was increasingly alienated from himself. Under normal circumstances, the daughter will take the initiative to find him except when she wants money, and will not disturb him. Not long ago, Mr. Wang quietly booked a banquet for his daughter's birthday. On her birthday, my daughter was very happy and much more enthusiastic about him. Seven or eight students were invited to the birthday dinner. Looking at her happy appearance, Mr. Wang was secretly pleased, which opened her heart. Unexpectedly, not long after the toast, my daughter picked up the glass and said politely, "Dad, thank you for everything you prepared for me today, but I have a small request." Can you give us some space tonight? "The daughter's marching order made the husband laugh and cry, so he had to leave with an empty stomach and inexplicably sad."

The purpose of speaking out is to make you understand: don't tie me to you all the time, but also give me some space of my own. "The sky is high enough for birds to fly; The sea is wide enough for fish to jump. " I 16 years old, and I know what I should and should not do. I can feel your love for me from every little thing, but please use the right method.

Dad, mom, I really love you. I will try my best to get my grades up in the future, and I won't let you worry about me for studying, so I will feel very distressed.

Mom, I want to tell you.

My article was published and even made the front page of middle school students in China. The editor called to ask my home address so that he could send me a sample newspaper. I am so happy that I can't remember my home address. Perhaps, you will think that I am quite worthless. With this small achievement, I am also happy to find the north. This is my first interview. Becoming a reporter is my childhood dream. When I got the newspaper sample, I felt closer to my dream.

The joy of that article in the newspaper didn't last long. I hope my friends can share my happiness with me when I spread the good news all over the country in high spirits. But some people say, what newspaper is that? I don't think I have heard of it! I won't say much. Yes, in this eager society, not everyone can understand the difficulty of success, even if it is only a little success, even if it is only a children's newspaper. I stayed up all night for that short article. In fact, I understand that the publication of the article is due to the guidance and encouragement of the editor. How can I feel today without the help of my teacher?

To be honest, I don't pay much attention to what others say about me. I am a person who goes his own way. But this time it's different, because it's my mother who refuses to give me encouragement.

My mother is not at all happy with my achievements. Is she too busy at work? Maybe, but I'm still a little confused. Yesterday was my mother's birthday, and she didn't respond much to my birthday wishes. Most of their generation are like this, old and young, running around all day for children and families. If it hadn't been mentioned, I would have forgotten my birthday. My mother was born like this, so she didn't say a few words about herself at the dinner table last night, but celebrated her birthday in another way? /TD & gt；