How to solve the problems of the past with a wife who is importunate and loves to turn over old scores?

The two live together, and the wife likes to settle old scores. For men, it feels helpless. We want to solve this problem as long as we sit down calmly and talk to her. If we dwell on the past with our wife, the relationship between husband and wife will come to an end. After all, two people should look forward instead of living in memories. We should communicate with our wives. If there are differences, don't bring up the past. When my wife hears this, she will naturally be moved, and the problem will be solved slowly.