How to propose marriage and matters needing attention in marriage proposal

In ancient times, talking about marriage was based on the words of a matchmaker, so the matchmaker played a role in communicating between men and women. Nowadays, the words of matchmakers are very few, so most of them will entrust an experienced, steady and ancient elder to be the matchmaker and go to the woman's house.

Propose marriage

What should I pay attention to when proposing marriage?

The date of marriage proposal

First, the man looked forward to a good day on the yellow calendar, and then he proposed to the woman's house with round fruit and cake.

Discuss engagement and marriage

To be a family, two families need to communicate with each other. The most important thing is that the etiquette and customs on the day of engagement and wedding should reach the level that the other party knows. At this time, relying on the matchmaker's professional knowledge and communication and coordination skills, we can resolve some disputes that may arise from unfamiliarity and achieve satisfactory results for both families.

After proposing marriage, it is necessary to match the eight characters to see if the couple's eight characters are suitable. Now, after proposing marriage, if the woman agrees to get married, go to the woman's house and ask for the bride's eight characters (written on red paper) and give them to the man.

Xiaoding

Generally speaking, small orders are a custom in Central China. It's just a process of giving a wedding ring. The matchmaker went to the woman's house and brought the wedding ring to the bride. Besides, she will bring six cakes to the lady.

Six is an auspicious number, and even numbers mean pairs, so twelve is ok, but don't take four or eight, because numbers are unlucky.

Place a large order (after employment)

That is, after the engagement or engagement, the man prepares gifts to visit the woman's house, and the bride must also prepare six gifts for the groom and tea for the man's elders.

Six gifts: the basic six gifts (if not, you can use red envelopes instead)

Engagement fee RMB

The wedding cake man should ask the woman for several boxes of wedding cakes in advance, plus six more boxes, which will be used by the woman in return.

Gold jewelry (gold) necklace, earrings and bracelets (a pair)

The bride's coat is a coat, mostly red.

There should be a red envelope in the handbag.

Put your socks in your shoes.

If there is no small order for the wedding ring, send it to the woman when there is a big order.

Actually, it can be increased to 26 yuan. Other parts

A pair of incense and firecrackers, one for the woman and one for the man, for the wedding.

Additional action

Ancient bags (people who are more particular will add ancient bags, which contain twelve mascots, both of which need two copies)

Abalone, wine, scallops, holy vegetables, bamboo sheng, longan (just one pack, commonly known as son-in-law's eyes), rock sugar (one pack of backs),

Orange cake, mushrooms, gold needles, cashews, winter melon candy, and some can be replaced by red envelopes.

Pig Ping (half a pig)

Cut off a part of the meat and return the bone to the man, indicating that "the meat is for you to eat and the bone is for you to chew!" " ".Now omitted, you can use a red envelope instead.

Watches, etc. Put the above items into six (or twelve) wooden bowls and put them in categories. Wedding cake shops can rent wooden bowls, and more expensive items such as bride price and gold ornaments will be placed in more exquisite wooden boxes. The lady returned the gift.

The number of men involved in employment is six boxes, longan, rock sugar and wedding cake.

The man who goes can be 6, 12 or 20, and the matchmaker can count in the north, but not necessarily in the middle. There are more men than women, and Xiao Hu can't attend. Generally speaking, I will ask the man's uncle and aunt (with good marital status) to send it together, and my cousin can also.

The period from the end of employment to marriage cannot exceed four months.

Fengcha

According to the arrangement of the matchmaker, according to the seniority, the groom takes the last seat, and the woman's good woman will hold the bride and offer sweet tea. After drinking tea, the man will give the bride a red envelope, and then we can start to discuss the details of the size of the marriage.