Can't you really cut your hair in the first month?

See what customs you have there. If not, you can cut them off. If there is, don't cut it for the time being to avoid being gossiped. It is kind and tiring to explain. You can cut it after the first month. Anyway, we can't cut them here. You can ask your elders for details. After all, one side is different from the other.

There is a saying that "my uncle died in the first month", which is quite taboo. I remember one year, my father cut his hair in the first month without looking at the calendar. My grandmother saw it, which made my father's criticism very painful, but my father and his uncle were both healthy. That year was safe and nothing happened.

Later, when I saw the records in the Book of Rites, I realized that the original meaning of "dead uncle" was "homesickness". When the Qing Dynasty entered the customs, in order to protect the Central Plains, China people were required to shave their heads and leave braids in the middle, which caused dissatisfaction among China people. Therefore, some people express their yearning for the former dynasty by saying "no haircut in the first month", which is actually "homesickness" In order to hide people's eyes and ears, he was falsely reported as a "dead uncle" and has been passed down to this day.

Generally speaking, if there is a folk custom that you can't get a haircut in the first month, try not to cut it, so as not to cause many family conflicts for such a trivial matter. If you cut it in the first month, something will happen to your uncle, and his family will not treat you as a sinner forever. Then you can't wash it off if you jump into the Yellow River, which is meaningless to ignorant people. Therefore, for some old customs, you can only say "respect" appropriately and wait.