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Today's headline pushed an article about mediation of housework, the content is as follows:

The divorced elder sister is going to remarry. According to the local custom, if she marries from her family, the second marriage will affect her family's wealth, so her brother-in-law strongly disagrees. My parents-in-law feel sorry for her daughter and feel that her daughter will be wronged if she doesn't marry from her family.

My sister thinks that she usually gets along well with her sister-in-law, and her reaction makes her chilling. My brother also thought that his wife had gone too far, so her sister-in-law became the public enemy of the family, and finally the young couple divorced.

I found that half of the comments below think that my brother and daughter-in-law are melodramatic, and even many people are indignant and support divorce, so that she can have a taste of remarriage and unmarried from her family. Because I always have one's fingers itch, I can't help but comment again:

Why can't things be handled like this? My remarried sister decided to get married from a bridal shop because her customs and fears were not good for her family. My brother and daughter-in-law said that it was an old story. I don't believe this. Finally, I failed to help my sister. Her family wished her happiness and made the wedding a complete success. ...

When you fully consider others, others can consider and care for you. As the saying goes, two are good and one is good. Do not do to others what you don't want them to do to you.

Although many customs and habits have no scientific basis, we should try not to collide, otherwise something really bad will happen, and everyone will feel sorry for it. China people pay attention to auspiciousness, which is not superstition, but respect.

For example, there is a custom of "shaving your hair in the first month". If you had an uncle, would you try not to do so? Although there is no scientific basis, if you do this and your uncle happens to have an accident, how will you feel with your relatives and uncle's family?

This reminds me of my friend Xiao Gan, who took her two-month-old child back to her hometown, caught up with her sister-in-law, and went straight back to her mother's house to have a confinement after discharge. This is a big taboo in my hometown. But her parents-in-law said that she didn't believe this, and her sister-in-law was eager to go back to her mother's house to have a confinement.

Xiao Gan's mother couldn't help saying, "This mother and father are confused, and my daughter is not sensible." I had to go to the door to make sense, but Xiao Gan stopped her mother from letting me. Secondly, the sister-in-law who married Xiao Gan in the same year never gave birth to a child. Now that Xiao Gan is divorced, this family is very unfortunate!

Of course, from a scientific point of view, these things have nothing to do with the little sister-in-law sitting in her mother's house, but everyone in the village thinks this is inevitable. Why do you think it is necessary to bring unnecessary trouble to her family for confinement? Are you really at ease?

After Xiao Gan's divorce, she didn't go back to her parents' home for the first Spring Festival, because there are customs in her hometown, and married women can't spend the New Year at their parents' home. Her mother said that she spent the New Year alone and asked her to go back to her parents' home. But she said, don't embarrass her mother or blame her brother-in-law.

On the contrary, in the next two Spring Festival, my brother and wife took the initiative to call Xiao Gan to go home for the Spring Festival. Xiao Gan knows that this is because her brother and sister have a good relationship, which is polite. Also politely refused on the grounds that the unit worked overtime or could not buy tickets.

What can a divorced woman not let go of? Divorced women know more about the importance of family harmony. Isn't it unfilial to let parents leave a confusing name for themselves? How can you feel at ease when your brothers and sisters break up for personal gain?

If this custom is out of date, what does it matter that you never married out of your family? This is just a formality. If you follow the old customs, you will get a harmonious family. Why not?