Does anyone know the custom of engagement and marriage in Juxian County? What do you need to prepare?

(1) blind date: After the couple are introduced by the marriage introducer, the matchmaker will generally introduce the object, usually the favorite family, and introduce the family members and family economic situation to each other. Both sides can choose the date of meeting. On some occasions, both men and women invite their relatives and friends as staff officers and observe and watch each other. After the meeting, the intermediary (matchmaker) introduced both parties. Gay men offered candy, cigarettes and tea to the woman, said a few friendly words, took a few steps back and forth and sat down, showing their walking, height and posture. They should be stable, sitting and standing, and sometimes they can introduce themselves to increase the atmosphere and show it. Most women are passive, or say a few kind words, or just smile. Because the blind date is the first time they meet, most women are very careful and generally don't express their opinions.

(2) Engagement: People call it "fish with noodles", which means engagement. After the blind date, the two sides visited each other and met several times when necessary. After being satisfied, the matchmaker sends a message to order, which means engagement. Choose a good day according to the yellow calendar. Generally speaking, when engaged, the man will hold a banquet and invite relatives, friends and women to celebrate the success of the engagement. Specific process: The man steamed nine big steamed buns, which means that he has food for a long time. Steamed a pair of big-faced fish with flour, representing more than a year. The man buys the woman a quilt, which means that every generation will put up with it, and the mattress must be edged with green cloth. Bring it back to the man's house when you get married. Buy a dress, scarf, belt, etc. for the woman. Buy women's cosmetics, cigarettes and sweets, wrap them in red bags and pack them into six or eight red bags. Put the happy money in the bag, no matter how much. When the man's relatives and friends are in a good mood, they usually bring money to congratulate them, no matter how much. According to their own financial resources and relatives and friends. After dinner, the man gave the woman money to meet. In the past, he gave 99 yuan money to meet, which meant long-term love. Giving 10 1 yuan now means choosing a good wife in a million. After taking home the clothes given by the man, the woman wrapped them in a red bag, bought a suit of clothes, a pair of shoes, a belt and a hat for her son-in-law, and gave back two big steamed buns, which means yes man, a big fish, meaning that every family has more than enough, and every year has more than enough. There is also money to gamble on red bags, usually tens of dollars.

(3) Important date: After a period of engagement, the auspicious date for marriage is determined by mutual consent. Now go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register the marriage registration certificate. An important date means that a man wants a woman's birthday and eight children, who were born in Na Yue that year. Then, take the birth dates of all the boys, find a professional who can find out the auspicious day to set the wedding date, and decide who to send the bride, welcome the bride and preside over the wedding. In the waiting days, the man bought a knife of meat, about 20 kilograms, and a pair of big fresh fish, snacks, candy, wine and other foods. The son-in-law personally went to her parents' house to ask for a day. Generally speaking, you can date once. If the woman and the man are not satisfied, they need several gifts to date.

(4) Date of delivery: After the man comes to the date of birth of the woman, please ask the fortune teller to check the wedding date. According to the date of birth of men and women, the fortune teller wrote a document that said, Happy Day: Choose this year's Yamato auspicious day, one day and one month, which has passed the door, you don't need to marry Fujian, so-and-so is a zodiac, and the rest are not taboo. Hi-room is near Dong 'an bed. When the bed is safe, newcomers will get off the sedan chair facing the east or in some way.

I slept in a certain direction that day. Put charcoal braziers on the left and right sides of the gate. Good luck with your marriage. This document is written in two copies, the man keeps one copy, and the son-in-law personally gives it to the woman. This is called sending the day. The man also bought a gift, which is lighter than the present of the day. He bought a coat for his wife and wrapped the checked daily documents with it. You can usually send it once. Sometimes the woman doesn't accept it and has to send it twice.

(5) Send a big meal: After choosing the auspicious day of the wedding, usually a few days before the wedding, the man's relatives and friends come to congratulate the wedding. This is called sending a big meal, sending wine, cigarettes, meat, money and fans, and setting up a banquet. The atmosphere is warm, showing the best performance of harmony between popularity and relatives. The more, the better. After the banquet, the host will give each relative and friend a gift, snacks and other things. Gift-giving fans are also called fans, which means long-term friendship. Money for Xi is usually wrapped in red paper, which means it is red and happy.

(6) Box-filling: Just like the man, the man is called a gift and the woman is called a box-filling. Usually a few days before the wedding, the woman's relatives and friends will send dim sum buns to her home, and some daily necessities will also give money to add some items to her marriage. When the banquet is over, women will also give some things to relatives and friends.

(7) On: The day before a man and a woman get married, it's also called urging marriage, sending some articles such as cosmetics, and checking what you haven't bought and what you are not satisfied with. The man sent someone to the woman's house. In the past, it was a multi-storey garden. It was also useful to give a rooster and a hen. You can't kill the chicken and the woman. It's called urging marriage to bring him back. The top is the most beautiful, and a pair of chickens means good luck to yes man. A pair of fish means more than a year, and wine and vermicelli mean frequent contact. A knife of meat is about 20 kilograms. Generally, six-color ceremony also has eight-color ceremony. A small flower box contains women's cosmetics and some auspicious items. There are: a comb, a mirror, two pairs of vanishing cream, two boxes of rouge, face powder and two onions in the small flower box, which shows that children are smart, a pair of needles lead the red line, two mugwort leaves show that they love their children, and two small salted fish are in the sea, which shows that their daughter-in-law can rely on, a bag of rice shows that they have food after marriage, and a bag of brown sugar shows their life. A pair of women's nets, hairpins, rings, earrings, necklaces and headscarves, and a pair of red legs. The items on it are exquisite everywhere. On the wedding day, the man will send a quilt for the bride to sit under, and the man will send a suit, usually bright red and green. The bride must wear this suit on the wedding day, and then she can't change her clothes until she gets married and lives in her family for three days. This link at the top is the last chance for love women men to ask questions. As long as they don't ask questions on it, they will laugh when they get married. It's not good for them. They can't embarrass this man any more. According to the amount of money the woman urges her to marry, the man will give her the amount of money from relatives.

(8) Opening a face: Opening a face is a procedure to prove that the eldest daughter becomes a daughter-in-law. Now, I went to the photo studio to find a makeup artist the night before my wedding. In the past, the day before my wedding, the villagers asked people in the village to make up their daughters. That is, on the day above, the man urges the marriage, and the woman will find it and pull out the facial hair with a rope. This is the face. Use two threads, one loose and one tight, and the other loose. It is twisted into a thread to hold the hair and pull it out. Very professional, coordinated movements, flying all over the face, rhythmic voice. I only hear the sound of Didi, and I have a good reputation for opening my face: eating rice and flour is not as good as a line. In other words, it is better to pull out the hair on your face with a thread when eating rice and white flour. Your face looks beautiful. A young woman with a haircut on her face and forehead is a kannika nimtragol, but not a big girl.

(9) Marriage: also called marriage. This is the last procedure of life. Both men and women are looking forward to a good marriage. When they get married, they should find someone who belongs to them, not someone who belongs to them. Generally speaking, a woman marries her husband. On the morning of the wedding, the woman is generally not in a hurry to get on the sedan chair or get on the bus, so that her mother repeatedly urges her to get married, which means that her daughter misses her parents and doesn't want to get married. Sometimes she has to cry a few drops. Urged by her mother and relatives, her daughter washed the sedan chair on her face or got on the bus. In some places, her mother's brother is called getting on the sedan chair or getting on the bus. When her daughter left, she was reluctant to part with her mother. In short, she was temporarily separated from her relatives, and her mood was very sad. At the beginning of the wedding sedan chair or car leaving, the mother picked up the water on her daughter's face from the gate and threw it in the direction of the sedan chair or sedan chair, which meant that the water thrown by her married daughter could never go back. I wish her daughter and son-in-law a long and happy life.

(10) wedding ceremony: the woman is called marriage and the man is called marriage. The great man used all his manpower to congratulate the celebration. Some people set off firecrackers outside the village, others waited in front of the wedding room and arranged for people who wanted to catch up with beggars to shoot and celebrate the money.

(1 1) the way to get married: when a woman marries her parents, she can only move forward on the way, but generally can't retreat. If anything happens, retrogression is an ominous sign. When crossing the bridge, throw small money under it. When you see old trees, big wells and corners, you should stick red hi stickers. When you are not far from your husband's house, stop the sedan chair or car for a while, let the man's people help you get to the new house, set off firecrackers at the man's village head, and let the man's wedding waiter take the dowry and carry it to his new house.

(12) Wedding Celebration: On the wedding day, the most important thing is that the man should use the strength of his whole family to help congratulate him on this festive day. First, he went to the village head to celebrate his wedding, and then he stayed with relatives with his dowry. With the sound of guns and gongs and drums, the shouts of the groomsmen reached the groom's house, and then the groomsmen lit firecrackers to congratulate him. Stop the axis and prepare according to the wedding documents.

(13) Going through the door: it is the last procedure of getting married. The sedan chair or car is parked in the direction set in the marriage document, waiting for arrangement. At this time, happy people lit firecrackers to congratulate the happy event. The groom walked to the sedan chair or sedan chair under the guidance of the master of ceremonies. Master of ceremonies said: When the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom turns around and walks in front, letting the bride walk behind and leading the bride's lesbian to walk with the bride. When the bride gets off the sedan chair, she has to step on the paste made by her husband's family, which means that she is promoted step by step. In the yard, men stand in the east and women stand in the west. Master of ceremonies said: at the beginning of the wedding ceremony, one person worships heaven and earth, the other worships Gaotang, and the husband and wife worship each other and enter the bridal chamber. The wedding of Mr. ××××× and Miss×××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××× Three visits to heaven and earth: a couple happily held a wedding.

The second item of the wedding: worship of the high church. Worship Gaotang: beaming, everything is happy; Second, worship Gaotang: full of knowledge and brilliant career; Sanbai Gaotang: filial piety to parents and good health. The third item of the wedding: the husband and wife respect each other as guests, live in harmony, and have children early; Husband and wife respect each other like guests, and they get along well for a hundred years; Husband and wife worship three times, love and love, and never part. The fourth item of the wedding: in the coming year, your son will laugh at Huatang, relatives and friends will eat wedding candy, and firecrackers will be set off to let the couple enter the bridal chamber. At this time, the man went to the bridal chamber to sleep and walked from the southern end to the northern end. The woman stepped on the cake to go to bed, sat at the south end of the bed and sat down in the direction stipulated in the marriage document. At this time, the person who helped the bride enter the door held a liter (wooden container). The person who has been watching the congratulations threw chestnuts, dates and peanuts and said, "A handful of chestnuts and a handful of dates will run next year." There is another meaning: jujube gives birth to your son early, chestnuts give birth to your son early, and peanuts give birth to boys and girls. After that, two peeled eggs and a bowl of handmade lasagna were served. The man ate an egg, which means he is at ease and round, while the woman took a bite of comfort and put the egg on the mattress instead of eating it, which means he can relax after eating and give birth to a boy with eggs next year. On the wedding night, when the in-laws open the door, there will be trouble in the new house, which means that a son will be born the next year.

(14) Three days later: After the wedding, I went to the patriarch's in-laws for the second time to kowtow, and they would give me some money to kowtow. First, I will prove that I am old and young. Second, I will recognize my clan and relatives. On the third day, the elder brother, uncle and uncle of the woman's family came to ask her daughter to take a bus and sedan chair to go back to her family. On the fourth day, I sent it back to my husband's family, who gave me a banquet. In another month, the new queen will leave her family and live a normal new life.