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I said, whether it's family, relatives, friends or colleagues, the best distance is getting farther and farther.

You'll beat me up if you listen to me. Are you out of your mind? Mother and daughter are heart to heart, and father and son are deeply rooted, you know? Brothers are like brothers, friends are like arms, remember? Blood is thicker than water, the same strain, congenial, twisted into a rope, unity is strength. These books have been read for nothing. Do you want them to stay away?

I said, generally speaking, distance produces beauty, but in fact, if the space is large, the heart will be wide and everyone will be comfortable.

Let's talk about family first. The appropriate distance is away from children.

The days of worrying about fatigue have gradually become dull, and it is time for us elderly people with children to spend our old age and enjoy peace. But in fact, our hearts are hard to let go. My son and daughter have to go to work, and the traffic jam from nine to five, not to mention overtime, has exhausted them from pressure and competition. Who will take the grandson to and from school? Who prepares hot meals for them? Do you want them to always order takeout? This one works overtime today and that one is on a business trip tomorrow. It's cool to go out. Do you know that the bowl at home is facing the ground? The newly washed clothes are not dry yet, and the express delivery has been piled up in the corridor. Grandson has a headache and fever, so he has to go to the hospital. If he can't finish his homework, he needs help. Don't just look at a child, it can drive adults. If this is an example, I am worried about eating carrots and asking around. Who hasn't done such a thing in the street? This is the reality, right?

No parents don't care about their children and no grandparents don't love their grandchildren. Seeing that children's lives are so busy, who doesn't want to help? Look at the white-haired guards at the gate of the kindergarten school and ask the volunteers in the supermarket who are pulling their carts. Who is not busy rushing to their children's homes? Not only do you come on call, but you also come uninvited. Not only do you have no regrets, but you also bring your own food. The safety of children is the happiness of parents, and the growth of grandchildren is the expectation of elders. A pure heart turns true feelings into strength and passes them on to a pair of thick hands and two old legs. Everything is willing, this is a pleasant pay, of course, there are sweet gains. I have something to do, lamenting that I still have value, and my children and grandchildren are full, and I feel very happy with my family. Looking at the younger generation living a happy life, I feel that life is always hopeful. Is this a fact?

There is nothing wrong with human nature, but there is a limit to everything. Don't treat yourself like an outsider. Children get married and have children, and have their own small families, which means three points per acre! The bag was thrown on the sofa, and the dirty clothes were piled in the corner of the bed. You cleaned and washed it. Do you know what people have in their pockets? How old a child has privacy, can a young couple have no privacy? That's very kind of you. Sorry. Are you embarrassed? You can say what my children are afraid of. What do you think of the feelings of your son-in-law and daughter-in-law? Even if you bring up your son and daughter, it's not up to your father and daughter. That's when I came here. Is this a good idea? Why don't you keep your distance?

Old people's brains, like bones, calcify. Of course, you can't get used to seeing new things with old eyes. For example, we are used to saving money and living frugally. Seeing that our children can buy tens of thousands of bags with thousands of dollars, seven or eight people are unhappy, so it is difficult for them to enter the office building with a nylon silk bag. Leftovers are reluctant to throw away. Will your children who eat leftovers feel at ease? We are more worried about the education of our grandson. Our textbooks have become old-fashioned, and even teachers are constantly updating new knowledge and new teaching methods. Can we teach children to count with an abacus? Your son and daughter won't laugh their heads off! Being too close to the children is tantamount to adding chaos. Let our parents take care of us, others will worry us.

Then there are the bad habits and habits of the elderly, which young people really hate. I didn't tell you I cared about face. We were born with a blank sheet of paper. After living in society for decades, we unconsciously got into bad habits. White paper is either black or yellow. For example, buy eggplant, pick cabbage, grab more plastic bags, throw waste paper and cigarette butts casually, look up at the traffic lights, and no one is watching you in public places. From time to time, two fucking words pop out of my mouth, not to mention that I am over 70. Who am I afraid of? There are not a few people with such problems, are there? In the long run in front of children and grandchildren, isn't it taking people into the ditch? In the old days, everyone who managed tables and served dishes shouted, "Excuse me, let me borrow your place, and be careful with the oil!" " I just want to tell you to get out of the way and don't get your clothes dirty. This is the meaning of distance!

More importantly, you are always an eyesore, especially your son-in-law and daughter-in-law. You are an outsider in their eyes! Young couples sometimes flirt. Are they embarrassed in front of you? It's not too much to bicker and say a few cruel words. When you stood by, they said no, you didn't hear the panic. Neither persuasion nor persuasion. Protecting the calf is not good, but if you weren't there, it might have stopped a long time ago. Even in peacetime, there are many inconveniences. For example, when children are studying, playing games and watching TV, can they still sit still when you are busy? Men are afraid of losing their height, and I want to be comfortable. Father-in-law has a bad taste in his heart, but he feels clean if you don't do it.

That's not all. You smell drinking and smoking, your wife's nagging, keeping a cat and a dog, sticking hair on your clothes, and lamenting that it's not as good as before every time you move out of the old yearbook. What can prevent young people from getting bored? Not being far away is not self-love.

Oh, what happened to my busy schedule? I'm guilty of losing money and yelling? You must be very angry. No ungrateful child has ever paid for you, but he has a conscience. How many unfilial children can there be now? What I want to say is that you have a good grasp of the distance and the good degree, which will not only create a gap, but also make the lives of the two families better and more delicious!

When you take your grandson to school, you can take him from home to the teacher to finish the task. How about going for a walk, chatting and playing chess in the park? Don't be like mom, and don't give an umbrella to your schoolbag. Spoiled children are worthless.

Don't worry about cleaning children's clothes and backpacks, no matter how busy they are, they must do it by themselves. Doing housework is a part of daily life. No matter how well you tidy up, they can't find anything at the moment, and they don't blame you? Don't touch other people's drawers and locked cabinets, and don't look at other people's mobile phones and computers unless you call for help. Buy food and cook without washing dishes. Your moderation in front of children can make them more casual. Grandson's parents have returned to China, so you should retreat as soon as possible and give the time and space to the original owner completely.

Children's intimacy and anger are the condiments of their lives. The existence of home is a place to vent. He wants to release the pressure, and he can indulge. You'd better leave without looking back, out of sight, out of mind and away from your children. This is also very helpful for managing yourself.

The longer distance makes everyone feel comfortable, and the more space gives people more freedom. What young people want most is freedom.

Distance can make children develop better. The more you do this, the less they will.

The long distance also allows us to live freely, develop our hobbies, get together with old friends for many years and enjoy a peaceful life.

As far as I'm concerned, further distance is not enough. It should be further. Farther away, you will feel missing, be more eager to be close, have less right and wrong, and avoid unnecessary troubles. Farther away, you will think more comprehensively and do things more thoughtfully. Imagine how you will feel when you travel and visit friends for a month or two, and what will happen when you come back? It is normal to be together every day. When you meet each other every once in a while, you will say, grandson, why are you so tall?

Distance really produces beauty, and the distance at a proper distance is more beautiful! This is my personal experience. Good scenery is always far away from people, and a good way to do things is to stay away. If you think this is right, tell your friends.