What does having an adopted son mean in law? The historical development of adopted son.

1. What do you mean by adopting a son-in-law?

Accepting a son-in-law means that the man's son-in-law married the woman's son-in-law. A son-in-law refers to recruiting people to be sons-in-law in their own homes.

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Second, the historical story of the son-in-law.

In the past, Yugur people have always had the concept of valuing women over boys, which may be a legacy of matriarchal society. Most of the production affairs and family life management in the family are undertaken by women. Women are used to staying at home all their lives, inheriting their parents' family business, and are unwilling to get married and leave their parents instead of being hosts and guests. In addition, due to the high price of women, herdsmen's families demand heavier bride price, higher formal marriage expenses and poor family resources are usually unable to get married. When men can't get married and women are proud of keeping their families, son-in-law gets married.

When an adopted son gets married, there is usually only one woman and no man in the family. If a daughter gets married and her parents have no one to support her, after her parents die, there will be no one to inherit the family, so she has to adopt an adopted son, support the portal and inherit her ancestral business. Before adopting a son-in-law, the woman's uncle and other major relatives will discuss and agree to find a good son-in-law, and get the consent of her uncle and parents. Then, the son-in-law can go to the woman's house one or two years in advance, live and work in the woman's house, understand the situation of the woman's house, and establish feelings with the woman to get along day and night. After living together for one or two years, if both men and women share the same interests and the girl has reached the age of marriage, she will choose a good day and invite her uncle and main relatives to hold a headdress ceremony for her adult ceremony. The woman's family invited one or two agile women with children, women and husbands in advance to comb the girl's hair and put on a hood at the ceremony. Please ask the woman wearing the headdress to give the girl a gift, that is, a brand-new unused comb, a conch bone ground into striking white round bone pieces and a headrope for binding the headdress. Dress up neatly. The girl poured a bowl of buttered tea for each guest and used it? Zara hat? (It's just a white felt hat with a red tassel at the top, a wide top and a rolled back) Covering her face and stopping talking, the woman wearing a headdress helped her sit in a small tent. Entertain guests at home. Before the girl holds the hat-wearing ceremony, the son-in-law returns to her parents' home accompanied by her uncle or father and one or two uncles, and sends the son-in-law to the woman's home. The woman's family prepared a new suit for her new uncle in advance, a waist (that is, a red satin belt) and a half-cooked leg of lamb (Yugur language? Yao Daqu Jules? )。 After the new son-in-law entered the door, two men helped him put on new clothes, tied his waist and tied the dried leg of lamb to his belt. A man? Wearing a groom's costume? When talking loudly? Sarah. 、? Yao Daqu Jules? ,? Yao Daqu Jules? That is, the formation history of Yugur wedding and the ins and outs of lamb leg bone as a marriage document. Guan Dai finished the story and entertained the guests. In the afternoon, I cooked a mutton noodle rice for the guests. Before dinner, the girl's father gave each guest a Hada as a gift, and said that he was not well received. After dinner, the guests left one after another. Do Yugur people have it? Big and small, a meal? In other words, eating it is equivalent to announcing the end of this happy event. That night, the son-in-law and the girl lived together and started their husband and wife life.

All guests should bring a gift, mainly a bag of tea bricks, two bottles of white wine and a piece of white cloth with a square of two feet. The girls also want to thank the women who invited them to wear headgear, and give each person a white cloth and a blue cloth (the initial length of the cloth is about 15 feet or 6 feet).

In addition to the above, there are cases where the son-in-law is found in advance. The son-in-law did not come to the woman's house in advance until the day when the woman held the headdress ceremony. In addition, if the right person is not found in advance, when a girl puts on a headgear at the coming-of-age ceremony, she will put on the headgear first and then recruit the right person to enter the house. Such latecomers usually do not hold any ceremony, but live and work together after entering the door.

The son-in-law whose adopted daughter enters the door has a higher status than the man who wears a head wedding or a waist wedding and has the right to inherit property. She pretends to be the master of the family. This kind of life is generally stable, and women also have a sense of lifelong dependence. If you live for several years, if your relationship breaks down, you can also take part of your family property when the man leaves. This is rarely the case. Most men who marry are brothers at home, and they are unable to marry them or their families are not harmonious.

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Third, the custom of accepting a son-in-law

Tajik people carry out the custom of unilateral inheritance by paternal line, and women do not enjoy the inheritance right of the decedent. So far, this custom has played a role in supporting the elderly in the family. Influenced by the inheritance norms of Ismail Sect of Islam, Tajik women scattered in shache, Zepu and Yecheng enjoy certain inheritance rights. In an adopted marriage, Tajik women can become the heirs of the deceased's property.

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Fourth, the development of son-in-law

In the traditional patriarchal society, it is the most important form of marriage for a man to marry a woman. It is normal for a woman to marry her husband, while a man's son-in-law is regarded as a different kind. The reason why there will be an adopted marriage is because the woman or the man mostly considers economic interests to meet the needs of continuing the incense. Adopted families usually have no children. If a daughter gets married, her parents have no one to support her, and her ancestral business has no one to inherit. Adopted families are generally poor, have many children and cannot get married. In this case? Open the door backwards? Son-in-law's family status and social status are very low, and he often has to face strange eyes around him, even from the rejection within the family.

The change of marriage customs is the necessity of social change. With the basic national policy of equality between men and women deeply rooted in people's hearts, especially the arrival of the first generation of only-child wedding day in China, both men and women have parents to support, and the marriage boundary between adoption and marriage has been diluted. Parents of some wealthy families don't want their only child to leave them. They are eager for excellent son-in-law to inherit the family business. And can't a man who is willing to be adopted by his wife be with the old times? As a quality? Even considering the actual needs of daily life and housing, they will not ignore their feelings and blindly pursue money first, and public opinion will no longer laugh at this way of marriage.