Can I go back to my parents' home at the autumnal equinox of 202 1? What are the precautions?

Can I go back to my parents' home at the autumnal equinox of 202 1?

1, from a custom point of view: Yes.

In our folk, there are some festivals and solar terms that can't be returned to our parents' homes. But at the autumnal equinox, you can go back to your mother's house during the solar term.

The autumnal equinox solar terms are divided according to farming and weather, and have little to do with folk customs. So there is a saying that you can't go back to your mother's house without the autumnal equinox and solar terms.

2. From the perspective of the Gregorian calendar: Yes.

The autumnal equinox of 202 1 is on September 23rd, 20021. On this day, the yellow calendar shows that it is suitable for traveling and you can go back to your parents' home. What are the precautions when going back to your mother's house?

1, return time

In ancient times, it was the third, sixth or seventh, eighth and ninth day of marriage, and there was also a full moon to visit relatives. There was a custom of Huimen in the Spring and Autumn Period, which has been inherited by later generations. Because Huimen is a double door for newlyweds, it is called double door, which means good luck in pairs.

2. Huimen Clothing

When returning home after marriage, the bride and groom should decorate and dress up as carefully as they did at the wedding, so as to maintain the beautiful and handsome image at the wedding. If the woman needs to hold a grand banquet, the bride and groom should carefully choose their dresses.

When going back to her mother's house, the old custom stipulates that the bride walks in front, and when going back to the man's house, the groom walks in front. Because this visit is the first time that my daughter has returned to her mother's house after her wedding, and some of them are also called the first trip. After a two-door trip, it is generally not allowed to spend the night at Yue's house, and you must go back to the man's house that day, because there was a custom of not going out for one month after marriage in the old days. When can't I go back to my parents' house?

1, beginning of spring: When beginning of spring goes back to her family, her family will be poor, so your sister-in-law or brother-in-law will be unhappy if you go. For the sake of family harmony, it is better not to go.

2, Lantern Festival: There is a saying that you can't look at your mother's lamp (the so-called lamp refers to the cotton lamp steamed with flour on the fifteenth day of the first month of each year). Seeing your mother's lamp will kill your father-in-law, so this day is very taboo to go back to your mother's house.

3. the dragon looks up: you can't go back to your mother's house on February 2. Going back to her mother's house in February is not good for her husband. This day is to take your wife home.

March 3: It is said that on this day, the Queen Mother will go to the Flat Peach Garden to see peaches, and open the door between the underworld and the dead to let ghosts from the underworld come to the dead, so this day is not suitable for returning to her parents' home.

5. Dragon Boat Festival: You can't go back to your parents' home on this day. There is a saying that going back to my mother's house for five days will kill my old woman, so my mother-in-law will be unhappy if I go back to my mother's house on this day.