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Going home well, my mother made a chicken fly and a dog jump, so tired!

Let's just say we passed by when we were kids. There's nothing to remember anyway. The only sad thing is that everyone has never given me a birthday since I was a child. My brother celebrates his birthday every year, even though he is over forty now. My mother still reminds my brother to give a red envelope for his birthday.

My brother does not study very well. He graduated from junior high school and went to vocational high school. But my brother seems to be a woman to me. He lived with his grandparents in the rural areas of southern Shandong since childhood, and was not brought to the city by his parents until he went to elementary school. There are parents and a brother at home. My brother has lived with his parents since he was a child. He is a good man, but his mouth is ruthless. Nine times out of ten, I was beaten for talking back when I was a child. As for me, I have lived with my grandparents since I was a child. The children around me laugh at me because I have no parents, so I feel a little inferior and don't like to talk. My parents always say what they say, and I dare not have any objection. As for my parents, my father has a low sense of existence at home. He doesn't make up his mind about anything and doesn't ask. His only hobby is fishing, and his mother is stronger. She listens to everything at home, but if anything doesn't suit her, he will quarrel and even fight. My father and my brother, including me, were beaten by my mother. As for scolding, it is light.

I am very talented in technology. I can be a lathe worker, an electrician, a welder and a locksmith. Later it was robbed by a large state-owned group. Now I am a worker in name, but my salary is almost twice as much as mine. And I graduated from high school and was admitted to a good 985 college. After graduation, I was directly admitted to the graduate students of our college. Now I am a lecturer. When I took the postgraduate entrance examination, my mother disagreed, saying that I wanted to leave this home and I didn't want to go back in the future. I even went to school to talk to my tutor, hoping that my tutor would not accept me. Later, my brother dragged her back to school and had a big fight with her. In addition, my brother also funded the cost of my graduate school.

12 married with a lecturer in our college. It is said that this is a good choice in the eyes of others. After all, everyone works in the same unit, and the income of university lecturers is ideal. But my mother just doesn't agree. At first, she didn't like that my husband's family was from a small place in the north. In her eyes, people in small northern counties are poor and will drag down our family in the future. Later, I explained that my husband's parents are national cadres, and his family is not bad. My father is also a northerner! Because of this sentence, my mother called and scolded me for several hours, and my mobile phone was dead. Finally, she wrote a letter of several thousand words, specifically to scold me for being unfilial. I was a little sad at that time, so I had to go to my brother again, and I didn't know what my brother said when he went back. Finally, I convinced my mother. But my mother asked for a bride price of 280 thousand and said there was no dowry.

My husband and I have been together for several years, and I know my mother's temper more or less. I agreed without quarreling! When I got married, my mother really didn't give me a penny of dowry and asked me to go back to my husband's house in the north empty-handed. It's still my dad and my brother, who secretly gave me100000 to bring back for fear that it would be difficult for me to do it at my husband's house. Even so, at the beginning, my in-laws were really unpredictable to me and didn't let me handle all the things at home until I understood my mother's character.

Later, Dabao was born, and war at home was born for the first time. I was two months after giving birth. It's popular in the north to send Zhumen, but my mother didn't say that these old calendars are not popular in the south, so it's good to have a full moon. I also asked my in-laws to invite her to the south, otherwise she wouldn't come. It was hard for me at that time! There are more than 1000 miles between here. In-laws can run around without telling me, mainly because I am still in the middle of the month. Aren't you roasting me in a fire pit? I was so angry that I directly said a harsh sentence, saying that you will come when you come, and I will be without a mother if you don't come!

Because of this sentence, my mother not only scolded me on the phone, but also called my husband, saying that he had taught me badly and dared to pout at her, even the country scolded her! My husband was so angry that he dropped his mobile phone at that time and even had a cold war with me for several days. If he didn't see me the next month, I don't know how to ease the feelings between us. When my in-laws knew, they didn't say anything. They just said to do it as usual and wait until the full moon. On the day of seeing Zhu Men off, if my brother hadn't come from the south, I really wanted to find a place to hide. Colleagues, friends and relatives are all here. I have no family. What you said about me is terrible. How can I explain this later? As for what others say about me behind my back, I dare not even think about it! Because of this, it was not until his son was one year old that he really met his grandmother for the first time.

Before November last year, my father-in-law was hospitalized, and my mother-in-law couldn't serve the patient because of lumbar hyperosteogeny. My husband went abroad for examination. I have to go home, go to the hospital and go to work, so I have to try to ask my mother to look after the children for a while. God bless me, this time I arrived unconditionally and came directly by train. It seems like half a year, until my husband came back and my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital. To tell the truth, I am very grateful to my mother for coming to help me, and even thought that I had misjudged my mother before. How can there be a mother who does not love her daughter?

But when she left, what she said made me feel bad. She said that she was in a bad mood and wanted someone to scold her, so she was happy. It is not appropriate to scold others, and it is nothing to scold your daughter. She told us to look at the problem rationally and not to be unhappy because of scolding us. She also said that she would scold herself if she gave birth to a daughter, or she would have no daughter! When I saw my mother on the bus, my husband and I both looked at each other with a wry smile. I really didn't know how to understand her words.

On May 8 this year, I died with my grandfather since I was a child. I was very sad and took my husband and son back to my hometown in Shandong as soon as possible. With the full authorization of my father, my husband began to plan the funeral. The next day, my parents, brother and sister-in-law finally came, and I was relieved. However, on the issue of wearing mourning clothes, my mother has another problem. If only we didn't wear traditional mourning clothes in the north, we wanted to wear black suits. We were all shocked at that time. This is in the countryside! Who wears a black suit? Can you tell me something about the situation? My dad finally said angrily, get out if you don't wear it! This is the first time my father has lost his temper with my mother in decades. I am shocked. Looking at my father's gloomy face, my mother reluctantly put on mourning. But just three days after the funeral, she actually wore a red trench coat and took my son and nephew to climb the mountain, saying that taking pictures was beautiful! My dad was so angry that he almost fought. I don't know what to do if my brother doesn't stop me!

What really makes me angry is grandma's pension problem. In fact, in recent years, my brother and I have been paying my grandparents' living expenses and medical expenses. My mother gave my grandparents nothing but a few hundred dollars during the Mid-Autumn Festival. But now my grandfather has passed away. Although my uncle and aunt are both in the village, it is really inappropriate to stay in the village economically and medically. So my father and my brother both want my grandmother to live in the south with them, while my husband and I want my grandmother to go to the university town with us, but my grandmother has been hesitating because she can't leave her hometown. At this time, my mother interrupted me and said that it was better not to go to the south. If she dies in the south, she can only bring back a handful of ashes. At that time, my grandmother's angry lips were blue, and my father slapped my mother angrily, but my mother insisted on fighting my father hard, and we stopped her. But after hearing what she said, my grandmother said that she would never go to the south again, not even me. I'm afraid I can't come back!

That afternoon, my mother ran away and called us all away, saying that she had worked hard for this family for so many years and was beaten because of one sentence! If she gave birth to us, we'll go with her, isolate my dad and make him apologize to her. I really don't understand. Don't you know where you are wrong? If my sister-in-law says the same thing to you one day, then my brother has to listen! No response!

I always thought that my family was well-off, my parents had their own careers, and my younger brother didn't go to school, but he had a great advantage in technology, and I envied his income. But how can my mother keep going day by day? No matter this or that, even on the important events of the elderly, she dares to do so! Is it appropriate to say that an old man in his nineties is not filial piety?