Couples often draw lots to do things. Is it reliable?

Couples often draw lots to do things, is it reliable?

Author: Bing Ling

Yesterday afternoon, I was writing in the office. Suddenly, a boy came in and asked, "Lawyer Binling, can I ask you something?"

"yes." I said, "What do you want to consult?"

"The Marriage Law stipulates that family members should help each other. What does the help include? " One by one, the boys solemnly asked, "Is it mandatory or random? Is this correct or mandatory? Is it a hint or encouragement? Is it symbolic or practical? Also, if you can't do it, is there a penalty clause? What will happen? "

"Haha, you're not here to test me, are you?" I said with a smile: "Article 4 of the Marriage Law does have the content that' family members should help each other', but the whole law does not give you the specific answer you want; From my personal understanding, it should be mandatory, compulsory, encouraging and practical; Family members can't do well or don't want to do it, as long as they don't cause serious consequences and don't violate the bottom line of social moral values, they will generally not be investigated by law; I don't know if you are satisfied with my simple answer to you. If there is anything inappropriate or not detailed enough, please criticize and correct me. "

"You are too modest. I am a young man with only a high school education, only in my twenties. How can I enjoy the reputation of' old man' in your mouth? ! "The boy said," It was really impolite of me to talk like that just now, but I really have difficulties and want to ask you for help. Don't be surprised. "

"Hehe." I said, "Please continue to teach."

"Dare not dare." The boy said shyly, "The thing is this: my wife and I have only been married for more than a year, but during this more than a year, an incredible but objective thing happened between us, that is, we must grasp our destiny first, and then we can handle everything well." Let me give you a few examples: for example, washing and cooking-doesn't everyone alive wash and eat every day? My wife must draw lots with me to do this little thing. She often says that clothes are worn by two people. Why should she wash them alone? This is a meal for two. Why does she cook alone? Equality between men and women. In order to achieve this equality, drawing lots is the best and fairest way. I have refuted this point. I said, if I eat free food at home like you, it's no problem to do housework through lottery, but how can it make sense if I try to make money outside and do housework at home? She replied that she didn't eat free food either. She stays at home to keep healthy so that she can get pregnant and have children in the future, which is considered as a contribution to her family. Therefore, both sides have to draw lots to do housework. Another example is private life-she said that although sharing a room is the right and obligation of both parties, it must be people-oriented and proceed from reality. At special times, she firmly forbade me to touch her. On normal days, she asked me to catch many people who can share the same room before allowing me to touch her. I have communicated with her many times about this matter. I said that people's physiological needs are irregular. How can you use the lottery to damage my physical and mental health? She retorted that she was a cold-blooded and rational woman. If I am allowed to touch her at will, won't her physical and mental health be damaged by me? I said that husband and wife should help each other, effectively solve each other's needs and difficulties, and can't refuse each other's reasonable demands for their own benefit. She said yes, both sides should put themselves in others' shoes. Have you ever thought that if your happiness is based on my pain, then are you helping me or hurting me? She went on to say that happiness or pain cannot exist between two people at the same time. In most cases, when one person is happy, another person will suffer. My wife is a college student. I can't beat her. In our common life, I have to accept her preaching and arrangement. Lawyer Binling, what do you think of this way of living by lottery? Even if I can stand her for three or five years, can I stand her for life? I really don't want to live with her! "

"It's actually quite fair for her to make this rule of life with you." I smiled and said, "Since she can transform you like this, why don't you try to transform her?" People are born and die in struggle and compromise. "

"What you said makes sense." The boy said, "Then I'll try."

"Walk slowly." I said, "Come and talk sometime."

"Thank you." The boy said, "Goodbye."

After the boys left, I wrote a sentence on the manuscript paper: there is no mode of life, and ideas can only be referenced.