China New Year is coming. How to understand the custom that married daughters can't go to their parents' home for the New Year?

The 30-year-old fire and the lantern on the fifteenth day of the first month can't be seen by the married daughter at her parents' house. "This explains in one sentence why the married daughter doesn't go back to her family for the New Year.

In fact, the custom that a married daughter can't go back to her parents' home for the New Year, when and why, can't be verified, but it is a established rule in most parts of China. The reason, I think, probably comes from a folk saying, "a fire at the age of 30, a lamp on the fifteenth day of the first month, can't be seen by a married daughter at home."

This sentence can be extended to two meanings:

First, thirty years of fire. Fire can be understood as a kitchen fire. Sacrificing to the Kitchen God on the 30th is a top priority. "Food is the most important thing for the people"; It can also be extended to prosperity, namely wealth. On the 30th, you asked God to send you a gift to worship your ancestors. They didn't say you ate jiaozi on the 30th night-there were no outsiders. "Marry a Woman" and "Water Spilled by Marry a Woman" belong to a person with a foreign surname. If you are at home, you will make your ancestors unhappy, and the gods will blame you, because you will affect the wealth of others for one year.

The second is the lantern on the fifteenth day of the first month. "Light" here is equivalent to "Ding" and "Ding". Now, on the fifteenth day of the first month in our hometown, except for hanging lanterns outside the house, all the men in the clan send lanterns to the ancestral graves, probably to comfort the prosperity of ancestors and future generations. But as the saying goes, for married women, "seeing the bride's family lights, the bride's family is cold and cheerless", that is to say, the daughter married on the fifteenth day of the first month is in the bride's family, which will hinder the descendants of her family. This is an important event for the continuation of incense, so most people are very particular about it.

So, when is the right time for the married daughter to return to the family? The rules vary from place to place. In the north, in addition to going back to my parents' home on the second or third day, my husband also goes there, commonly known as "Children's Day" and "Husband's Day". Of course, if you have children, you should take them with you. Of course, you should also bring gifts, as well as lucky money for your nephew and Weaver Girl.

Now these "old almanac" young people don't know, and some say they should pay attention. If there is only one daughter at home, it may be too late for the elderly to expect, and there is no question of whether it is appropriate to go back one day; If you have a brother or sister-in-law in your mother's family, you should still consider it, which is convenient for others and yourself. Otherwise, it will make people unhappy during the Spring Festival, and if they are caught between their parents, they will lose more than they gain.