Marriage customs of Han nationality in Laibin, Guangxi

1. Both parents meet to discuss their engagement, mainly to determine the amount of the yellow calendar and the man's dowry. At present, it is 6.5438+0.08 million, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both sides. The gift money received is returned according to the economic situation. If the woman's condition is generally 88888, it will be returned to the man, ranging from 38888 to 58888. If the woman's conditions are good, she will accept all the gifts and buy a car for the man.

There must be plenty of time before the engagement day. During this time, we need to buy what two people need to get engaged. Let's talk about what the man gave the woman first.

(1) A set of gold ornaments. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring (the price of a diamond ring is about 15000). In fact, you can also go to the goldsmith shop to buy a bare diamond and choose your favorite style to make it. The price varies greatly, which can save about 35%. Note: If you ask your parents first, some parents like to buy 24K pure gold, thinking that it can preserve the value, but young people don't like it.

(2) like candy. Include a pair of sugar, gold and apricots. Wenzhou wedding candy is divided into different sizes, and the man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, including the red envelope in the wedding candy (at present, it is given at 50- 100, depending on the conditions of both parties and the number of wedding candy).

(3) watches. It used to be to adjust the watch. Now that all kinds of electronic products have the function of watches, it is very common to buy only one for the woman. The price depends on their preference for styles and economic conditions, generally around 10 thousand.

What this woman wants to buy is:

(1) When the man got engaged, he wore a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (a pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the best man is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the best man). I didn't know about gold, and I didn't do it at that time.

(2) A set of dishes with 88 pieces, 98 pieces and 108 pieces can be purchased as appropriate. It is recommended to shop around and compare more, otherwise the price difference between the two sides is not small. You must choose a date to deliver the bowl. There is a saying that "stability" is a homophonic "bowl" in Wenzhou dialect. At present, bowls on the market are divided into bone China and ceramics. It is recommended to buy ceramics, which are resistant to high temperature and not easy to crack, and are not as easy to scale as bone China after a long time. There is also attention, it is best to buy a microwave oven, which will be very practical in the future.

(3) Six samples were divided into oranges, cakes, dates, longan, lotus seeds and peanuts. Then send a preserved apricot sent by the man back to the man (six kinds can be bought in specialty stores, which saves a lot of time and effort, and are specially wrapped in washbasin and wrapping paper, which needs to be booked about a week in advance).

3. Engagement Day: There are two kinds of engagement parties at present. One is that the woman's family holds a banquet at noon to entertain the man's parents and best man, and the man invites the woman back in the evening. The other is that both parents and close relatives and friends hold a banquet in the hotel to get engaged. Generally, there are many people who choose the latter in urban areas now. In the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to meet her and her parents, and gave the woman's brother or sister a box of money (carrying a box of money means that the woman's brother or sister won't let her go until you give him money. According to the explanation of the older generation, if the woman is an only child, she will give it to her mother). About the suitcase money, some were given on the wedding day. The suitcase cost is about 5800- 10800. After arriving at the hotel, give tea to both parents and toast to friends and relatives to witness your love.

Get married:

1. Once the wedding date was confirmed, I started to book hotels and arrange banquets. Now it seems that I have to book the banquet one year in advance. I feel dizzy. Everyone will get married on a good day.

Then we must settle down first. Of course, the man is responsible for buying a house and decorating it. The renovation will take at least two months, usually after the engagement. After the renovation, all the furniture in the room was bought by the man, and the rest was dressed by the woman. Everything with plugs and decorations, as well as kitchen cabinets and bedding, is handled by the woman.

2. Take wedding photos. Choose a good time,

March is the best time to take wedding photos. The weather is good and the scenery is good. Book early, because everyone is rushing to go at a good time. Now 3W, ancient photography, fashion spring, Zhongtian private photography studio (just heard recently) are all good, which has changed the rigid style of Vivian's bride. It is best to make an appointment while doing activities. Send more things, and the price will be relatively cheap. When taking pictures, it is recommended to follow your own preferences. Don't listen to the makeup artist's advice easily. They are all beneficial, and there is generally nothing to recommend. Another thing to note is that when choosing a photo studio, the number of clearly registered photos (generally 50, some 40 are too few) is still very different from the unit price of each additional photo studio. High 50, low 30. The final total price difference is not small.

3. Wedding dress. Nowadays, many people buy wedding dresses. It's good to have time. After all, it is much cheaper to buy in Suzhou and Shanghai, but it should be noted that the quality in Suzhou is generally not good. There is also a lot of travel expenses for a trip. Let's compare which is more cost-effective to rent or buy. If you rent it, the distribution of several shops in Wenzhou is like this: some shops like Broadway and wedding dress workshops are expensive, and some wedding dress workshops are unique, that is, the price is expensive, and beautiful evening dresses generally cost more than 3 thousand. Three pieces add up to more than 10 thousand. Some Broadway ones cost tens of thousands. Just one night, so expensive, this money is really wronged. I feel that there is a dream palace wedding dress in Chaiqiao Lane, which is not bad, affordable and fine in workmanship.

You don't have to worry about the toasting procedure on the wedding day. Photographers from etiquette companies are well aware of these routines. He will teach you how to toast while filming, just follow them.

4. A gift from the woman to the man's family.

(1) Sweet potato ye sweet potato niang. You have to buy presents for both the sweet potato master and the sweet potato girl. In summer, I bought a crocodile T-shirt for the sweet potato master and a necklace for the sweet potato mother. Buy a pair of shoes for sweet potato master and sweet potato mother, especially sweet potato mother, and put a pair of socks in the shoes. The homonym of "shoes and socks" in Wenzhou dialect means that she can help you with housework in her spare time.

(2) The brothers and sisters of Sweet Potato Niang are also uncles and aunts of the man. Usually everyone buys a quilt or quilt cover and other bedding, and the price is generally two or three hundred yuan.

(3) the man's brothers and sisters. People with brothers usually buy a shirt or other clothes. Sisters are usually rings or necklaces. Spouses of brothers and sisters are regarded as brothers or sisters.

5. Preparation for a few days before marriage.

(1) Photographing car rental fireworks, but these have nothing to do with all-inclusive etiquette companies now.

(2) Master of ceremonies. Please see your personal preferences without invitation. I always feel that you have too many parties, and the emcee has to be busy for half a day. Don't think about it until 12 pm. You wait, others can't wait. It's ok if the master of ceremonies is good, but if the level is too poor or something else, it will ruin the wedding atmosphere.

(3) make an appointment with a makeup artist.

The night before the wedding, the bride only needs a facial treatment and exfoliation. If she wore makeup, she wouldn't have to get up so early on the wedding day. Now beauticians go straight to the door to do their hair and nails after 9 o'clock, and then eat. After this lunch, the next meal will be at lunch the next day. Here, I want to remind you that you still have to eat enough, hehe. . . Then the makeup artist will spend more than an hour putting on her wedding dress, shawl, makeup and hairstyle when she gets home at one o'clock. I would like to remind you that you should inform the makeup artist in advance what color and style your wedding dress is, so that she can prepare headdresses of the same color and style.

The man is similar, and there is no trouble for the woman. At 4 o'clock, the groom and the best man will leave for the woman's house to pick up the bride (it's getting earlier and earlier now, because many couples usually get married at the same time in hotels, so it's not bad to arrive early. In order to get feng shui, the bride arrives early now, instead of waiting for the bride as in the past. When the bride arrives, the bridesmaids will try to embarrass the groom, and finally, of course, open the door after the red envelope is fixed. Let's talk about getting off here. When we rent a car here in Wenzhou, we have to pay cigarettes, otherwise some bad drivers will deliberately drive fast and slow, so there will be no queues and the video will not look good. Then, when you arrive at the new house, make a video of offering tea and glutinous rice balls. When you pay a New Year call, you must remember the order of your elders, or you will be gossiped.

Next, another bus will drive to the hotel, then there will be a lion dance, and then red envelopes will be distributed (red envelopes 1 person 10 yuan, a total of ***60). Next, some groomsmen will spray the newlyweds and bridesmaids with that ribbon. The bride is advised to put down her veil, and the bridesmaid is advised to prepare an old dress with a hat and put it on before going in, hehe. The last level is of course a toast. That's all that matters. Of course, it varies from person to person. Let's play with each other, so we don't need it here. Also note that the bride in the middle needs to change her wedding dress and hairstyle. Also note that now it is the man who gives the woman four tables of banquets, including red envelopes. The extra banquet is the woman's own responsibility, and the red envelope is of course collected by the parents.