Please help translate this Japanese sentence, thank you!

It is imperative to hold an all-night ceremony to avoid the day when friends introduce you. Generally speaking, the farewell ceremony is held on the second or third day.

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ぁたり or so, left and right, up and down, … and so on.

The custom in Japan is to spend the night with relatives the night before the funeral after death. This night is called all night.

My friend quoted the Japanese Gregorian calendar, which is a day that is not suitable for funeral and suitable for marriage.