I sit at the same table with Huang Xiao.

Xiao Huang is an introverted child who is not good at communicating with others. Therefore, his relationship with his classmates is not particularly harm

I sit at the same table with Huang Xiao.

Xiao Huang is an introverted child who is not good at communicating with others. Therefore, his relationship with his classmates is not particularly harmonious, especially in his own group, and his relationship with five other classmates is even more tense. ?

? The day before yesterday, Huang Xiao and Xiao Zhao at the same table had an argument over a trivial matter. When he angrily asked me to transfer, I asked him who he wanted to sit at the same table with, and he said anyone but Xiao Zhao. Because I left a desk in the last row of the classroom as my desk to facilitate my work in the classroom, I asked him if he would like to sit at the same table with me. I didn't expect him to readily agree. In this way, we became deskmates. In fact, I mainly want to close the distance with him and enhance our communication.

That night, I took advantage of the convenience of my deskmate to have a brief exchange with him. From what he said, I generally understand that the contradiction between him and Xiao Zhao is due to some historical origins. Friends should make up, but not get married. Meeting is fate, and everyone is destined to sit in the same classroom to study, so they must live in harmony. As their guardian, I can't let two children sit together with a knot all day. I want to look for opportunities to help them reconcile.

? The third section of the next morning is physical education class. I called Xiao Zhao out and inquired in detail about the reasons for the contradiction between him and Huang Xiao. In fact, it's no big deal, it's all trivial things. These little things lead to the escalation of the contradiction between the two people, because they have been squeezed too much. After asking about the situation, I first asked Xiao Zhao's opinion and asked him how to solve this problem. I'll give him some time to think, let him think about it seriously, or write it down and talk to me at noon. ?

After lunch, Xiao Zhao explained his letter to me. I decided to call them out separately and open my heart together through consultation.

? When the three of us were sitting together, I told them, "If you feel depressed and confused now, you can speak freely. Don't worry, I will only be a loyal listener, and I won't interrupt you, let alone criticize you. " Xiao Zhao spoke first, but when it comes to Huang, he said nothing. I told him that if we want to solve the problem, we must find a solution. Silence, cold war or noise are not the solutions. It's just a way for you to vent your emotions. After listening to my words, Xiao Huang's attitude changed. "Teacher, you say it, I will listen to you." Xiao Huang whispered.

"In fact, I fully understand how you feel now. When I was in middle school, I had similar contradictions with my classmates. At that time, I almost had a fight with a boy in my class. " After listening to my words, both children laughed silently. "It is normal for students to have some minor contradictions. It is abnormal that there is no contradiction. Growth is a process of constantly making mistakes and gradually correcting them. Many times, it is far from a question of who is right or wrong. Everyone has their own reasons. Seeing you now reminds me of me. At that time, I was a gentle and lovely girl recognized by my classmates and teachers, but didn't I still have problems with my classmates? It's funny every time I think about it now. There is no eternal right or wrong in the world, only knots that cannot be opened. I hope you can both open your hearts and say what you really think. Sometimes, some things are always hidden in my heart. After a long time, it may become a heart disease. If you can say it in time and then broadcast it by others, you will be suddenly enlightened. " When I said these words, I have been silently watching the changes in the expressions of the two children. From their ever-changing expressions, I feel their inner ups and downs, especially Xiao Huang, who changed from resistance to approval. Seeing that they were both silent, I took the opportunity to list some wonderful performances of them at ordinary times, and took this opportunity to praise Xiao Huang as a kind, enthusiastic and helpful child, conscientious and dedicated. I listed the last time I tidied my dormitory, a classmate couldn't fold "tofu blocks", and Xiao Huang took the initiative to help him with his bedding, which fully showed that he was a warm, friendly and helpful child. Then I said the last singing contest. In order to become an excellent lead singer, Xiao Huang practiced repeatedly outside the practice room, while all the students were happily watching the performance. For Xiao Zhao, I praised him warmly. Because Xiao Zhao is the monitor of our class, he is serious and responsible in the usual class management, and he is the teacher's right-hand man. Especially when the parents' meeting was held some time ago, he was responsible for cleaning the class hygiene and arranging parents' seats, which saved me a lot of heart. This also fully proves that he is a leading child.

? Listen, I sincerely praise that both children are a little embarrassed. Xiao Zhao offered to apologize to Xiao Huang, and Xiao Huang treated him with courtesy. The two men shook hands happily. Finally, Xiao Huang offered to move back to his original place. ?

? Adolescent children, emotions come and go quickly. When we encounter this problem, we can't play 50 boards indiscriminately. This simple and rude handling method often can't make children accept it wholeheartedly. Teachers should try to get closer to children. Once children have trust in you, they can accept your help. By sitting at the same table with Xiao Huang, I took this opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk with him, which narrowed the distance between me and Xiao Huang and created good conditions for successfully solving the contradiction between him and Xiao Zhao.

Education needs to be done with heart, and it needs to be infected with emotion.