The Influence of Teacher-student Relationship on Teaching Effect

The psychological development of middle school students is easily influenced by interpersonal relationships around them because of their physiological and psychological characteristics. Different types of teacher-student relationships have great influence on the healthy psychological development of students. Although Dignity as a Teacher has withdrawn from the historical stage and become a pedantic old calendar, it advocates the establishment of a new relationship between teachers and students. However, there are still some educators who consciously or unconsciously face their students with a condescending attitude, and even regard students as containers and products, causing students to "dare not think" and "have something to say". Lack of communication and understanding between teachers and students. Students are afraid of teachers, afraid or unwilling to express their feelings. Teachers can't understand students' inner needs, and they don't know their inner joys and sorrows. This spiritual gap between teachers and students not only affects the effect of education and teaching, but also affects the healthy development of students' psychology. Suhomlinski said: "If students don't want to tell their teachers about their joys and sorrows, and don't want to be honest with each other, then it is always ridiculous to talk about education, and any education is impossible." This shows how important it is to establish a good relationship between teachers and students.

In fact, every teacher who loves his work is willing to be a friend of his students, eager to know his students and hope that they can grow up healthily and happily. If he is the head teacher, this idea will be stronger. I have been a teacher for seven years and a head teacher for four years. I have been thinking and groping for ways to become students' friends. How can we get to know their hearts as soon as possible and let them know that you care about their hearts? In the past few years of exploration, I have a little experience, and I will share it with you.

There are many ways to build a colorful bridge of mind, and I use the "weekly diary communication method". Students communicate with me through the weekly diary, and it is in this exchange that many students and I become bosom friends. This is a shortcut for me to cultivate the feelings between teachers and students.

Because I am the head teacher, I really want to know every student in my class as soon as possible. So I asked my classmates to prepare a notebook to communicate with me. I asked them to go home and write a weekly diary every weekend, including the class, themselves, classmates, family members, teachers and so on, with unlimited words. The only requirement is neat handwriting and clear expression. After they gave it to me, I read it as soon as possible and tried my best to solve the difficulties they raised; Seriously consider their ideas and suggestions. At first, the students wrote an article every week. Later, some students encountered problems at school and wrote them down in the weekly diary. After writing it, they put it on my desk and wanted to communicate with me at any time. According to the changes of their needs, I have also made adjustments: you can give it to me at any time after writing, with no limit on time and number of articles, but at least once a week. In this way, I have more and more exchanges with students, and the content is more and more extensive. In this way, the colorful bridge between my classmates and me was successfully built. turn

After the construction is successful, it is necessary to make good use of it. The original purpose is: I can use her to understand their ideas and requirements when arranging seats; When arranging dormitories and beds for students on campus, we can use it to understand their needs; When selecting class cadres, you can use it to listen to everyone's voices; Suggestions for teachers can also be written on it. As long as their demands are reasonable, I will try my best to coordinate. If it can't be solved well, I will explain the reasons in detail in their books. Through these little things, the trust between us has been greatly enhanced. I know them and they can understand me. Slowly, they are willing to tell me more psychological words, and our communication is gradually deepening, and its use is becoming more and more important: it can let me know a lot about their inner thoughts and their confusion; Can let me help those students with family difficulties and sensitive and fragile hearts; Can let me coordinate their previous contradictions; We can also avoid some wars. Another girl said in her weekly diary that she hated her mother's preaching and was extremely disgusted. In fact, she knows that her mother is good for her, but she can't change that idea in her heart. We discussed this problem together in the weekly diary. I let her try to feel her mother's feelings, let her try to "enjoy" her mother's love, change slowly, and try to have a "grateful" heart. This process is very long. I don't know if her mother has felt the change of her daughter, but I know that the title of an award-winning composition of this classmate is "Motherly Love". I also met a very introverted classmate. There is a new teacher in the class. Because of a little thing, he mistakenly thought that the new teacher hated him. He never dared to look up at the teacher in this class, nor would he take the initiative to answer questions. The teacher just thinks he is introverted and uneasy. Later he mentioned it in his weekly diary, which surprised me. I learned the whole story at the fastest speed, and the result was just a "knot" that he tied to himself. I communicated with this teacher, and we went to help him solve this "pimple" together. He is not afraid of taking this course, nor of the teacher. A classmate, his father is severely disabled and his mother is sick. However, I am afraid that my classmates will look down on him. After he told me in his weekly diary, I tried my best to help him: I applied for reducing part of his tuition fees, bought him medicine when he was ill, and prepared some daily necessities for him. There are many examples of this and that. I think the "color bridge of the soul" has made great contributions to my classmates' favorite teacher and trustworthy friend.

Tagore said: "It is not the hammer that strikes, but the song and dance of water that forms beautiful pebbles." Only when teachers call on students with love, enlighten students with wisdom, respect every student, and communicate with every student with completely equal people can students "be close to their teachers and believe in their ways". As educators, if we want our educatees to obey our correct teaching and be willing to accept our opinions and even criticisms, we must communicate with them with love, gain their trust and become real tutors. Only in this way can we establish a friend-like teacher-student relationship under the new situation, which will also be a new beginning for our successful educational practice.