What happens if a domestic violence man is with a strong woman?

What happens if a domestic violence man is with a strong woman? Before thinking about this problem, we should first understand the personality characteristics of these two people and their views on love.

Domestic violence man is a man with aggressive personality, and he is the opposite director of the dominant personality in nine types of personality. He is very conceited, destructive and aggressive. In the role between husband and wife, it is the perpetrator of emotional violence.

Strong women, like domestic violence men, are leaders, but unlike them, strong women are active leaders, positioning themselves accurately and clearly. In terms of personality, it is also a positive and enterprising personality. However, this violation is an act of protecting and maintaining one's own happiness.

There are similarities and differences between the two people's views on love. Consistently, everyone has a beautiful fantasy about love, and everyone thinks that the other person can recognize and support himself. The inconsistency is that even if a domestic violence man has love in his heart, his love is not rational, while a strong woman is a rational love, and she has her own clear love values.

What is the result of a domestic violence man and a strong woman together? Let's take a look at this friend's experience.

Yi Yang (a pseudonym) is a violent man. After three months of marriage with Xiaoruo, his tyrannical temper in nature was exposed. Anyone who is unhappy will curse.

Xiaoruo has her own career and is an elite woman in her own industry. She is resolute in her work and unambiguous in dealing with emotional problems.

Cooperation and strong cooperation at work will increase the success rate of each other's work. But when husband and wife get along, the intersection of spear and spear will spark.

After three months together, Xiao Re couldn't stand Yi Yang's bad temper any longer. If he dares to insult, she dares to talk back. If he dares to do it, she will treat him in the same way.

It's normal for a child to have a small quarrel every three days and a big quarrel every week, and often not to go home. It's not that she is afraid of him, but that she doesn't want to give herself any trouble.

Between husband and wife, if they keep quarreling and fighting, the remaining love will disappear, and the rest is to look at each other unhappy. After more than a year of marriage, Xiaoruo realized the reality. She thinks it is really unwise to marry a domestic violence man for love.

Xiao Re thought about divorce, but Yi Yang refused. It is true that domestic violence men are the perpetrators of emotional violence between husband and wife, but domestic violence men are also narcissists, and they strongly need each other's love, which distorts their understanding of love.

What is twisted love? In the hearts of men with violent tendencies at home, making things difficult for each other is a kind of courtship. They hope that through behavioral restraint and violence, the other party will recognize themselves more and dare not leave themselves.

Xiaoruo's divorce violated Yiyang's bottom line. He became more manic and even imprisoned Xiaoruo to prevent her from divorcing herself in other ways she didn't know.

No matter how strong a woman is mentally, she is also a woman, and her physical strength is far less than that of men. Yi Yang's intentional control and stronger personal attacks than before made Xiao Ruo miserable.

Fortunately, everyone needs to eat. Fortunately, Xiaoruo installed video equipment before filing for divorce. Fortunately, Xiaoruo is smart enough. When she let her guard down in Yiyang, she chose to run away and called her friends immediately after running away.

With the arrival of friends, Xiao Re has confidence. Under the protection of many friends, she walked into her home and saw Yi Yang who was restless and broke things at home. Xiao Re first let his friends control Yi Yang, and then sat on the messy sofa and slowly told his divorce decision.

Yiyang didn't promise before, and he won't promise now. Xiao had no choice but to produce evidence of Yiyang's domestic violence and control of his going out.

Seeing that the situation was not good, Yi Yang let go and agreed to divorce. However, Yiyang has one condition: the real estate should be divided into half. Xiao Re heard these words, sneer at in my heart. She made it clear that her house and car were bought before marriage, and she didn't want a bride price when she married him. If she wants to divide the property, she won't give a penny.

After being rejected, Yi Yang was very depressed. He doesn't want to compromise, and he doesn't want to go out clean. He insisted on his request and threatened that he would not sign it unless he agreed.

Xiao Re caressed her hair and motioned for her friend to take off Yi Yang's clothes, leaving him only a pair of big shorts. After a fierce struggle, Yiyang really left a pair of big shorts. Then, Xiaoruo asked his friend to walk him to the door. Xiaoruo kicked it and said savagely, "This is the interest you paid me these days. You must leave this marriage. I will ask a lawyer. "

Yi Yang, who was driven out of the house, found his friend. After the analysis of his friends, he knew that his marriage was really untenable. Therefore, he can only accept his own fate.

After the divorce, Xiao Re gave him a big wrapped underpants and turned around and left with his friends. Yi Yang felt insulted, but he didn't have Xiao Re's interpersonal circle, let alone Xiao Re's ability. He can only complain to his friends: "After the divorce, he only left me a pair of big underpants. What is this? " Isn't this an obvious insult to me? "

Yes, Xiaoruo is insulting him. I didn't beat him up before the divorce, and then let him go out wearing only a pair of big shorts to vent his anger and insult. Leaving him only a pair of big underpants after the divorce is also insulting him.

Xiao Re insulted him in order to vent his anger on himself, in order to recover the losses in the past year.

Strong women don't live by men, they only rely on themselves. They choose to get married because they think they have met true love. However, this does not mean that they will give up their dignity and bottom line for love. They have their own love rules.

Strong women rarely tolerate domestic violence men all the time. When they can't stand it anymore, they will file for divorce and recover their losses through various means.

The combination of a strong woman and a violent man is invulnerable. As for each other, what will happen? Whoever is stronger, ruder and sharper will win the marriage.

The emotional experience of Xiao Ruo and Yi Yang was told by Yi Yang. He told me his story, firstly to complain, and secondly to reflect on his mistakes.

I don't know whether Yi Yang will change. I only know that if he doesn't change, even if he marries again, he won't be happy.

Writing about Yiyang's experience is to give some reference suggestions to some domestic violence men and women who are deeply hurt by emotional violence, so that some married men and women can understand:

For men, domestic violence will ruin your happiness and family, and it will also ruin the love you have always wanted.

For women, domestic violence is intolerable and must be resisted. The forbearance of married women will only make them deeply hurt by domestic violence men and feel unhappy, because domestic violence men have paranoid misconceptions about love.