Confession needs to look at the yellow calendar.

It seems that since the popularity of WeChat Weibo and various online media, the so-called "festivals", "520" and "Shuang 1 1" have been promoted on social media in turn. I can't wait to remind you three or four days in advance that you must be ready in two days, "Please pay". Excluding these businesses that make money as gimmicks, it seems that some people think that numbers must mean something, as if 520 should be "I love you", which is the same as always avoiding "4" when choosing numbers. There are still some people who always use this stunt to do things that they usually don't have the courage to do, such as confessing on Valentine's Day on February 24th or breaking up on Christmas Eve on February 24th. Therefore, in many stories, even if no one confesses on February 14, they have to buy a box of chocolates themselves, or on Christmas Eve, the apples are in their hands. When I was in college, on February 24th, 16, there were stalls selling apples at the school gate. Apples had to be wrapped in beautiful boxes or cellophane. Although no one knows the name of the priest who married people privately or what happened in Jerusalem on Christmas Eve, even the so-called "festivals" related to Shuang 1 1 and 520 have no such story background.

The business motives behind so many festivals are mentioned above, but the significance of these days is more to let ordinary people find a reason to socialize or get together. As far as today is concerned, to some extent, it has a similar effect to Valentine's Day. But can choosing such a day to confess really have a better effect? In other words, what does the so-called sense of ritual mean to human beings? Personally, I think the sense of ritual mainly acts as a placebo. This placebo may be courage (similar to drinking) or self-consolation (similar to painkillers). But I still feel that if we do nothing today, the success rate will definitely be higher than yesterday or tomorrow. Time is not the decisive factor. There is always a saying that "time will cure everything" (refer to the magic of time in Bai Xue), but this may reverse the causal relationship, that is, it takes time to achieve a certain goal, but as long as time accumulates, it may not be possible to achieve anything.

The same is true of getting someone's love. I would never choose this day to "confess". On the one hand, I feel that being rejected this day is more uncomfortable than being rejected at ordinary times. On the other hand, I can't wait. I don't know if it's curiosity or something. I always want to know the answer quickly. But my so-called "confessions" often end in ambiguous answers. By the way, the reason why I watched cartoons recently, especially those romantic movies, is because the gap between two-dimensional love and three-dimensional love is too big, just like people can't live like Qiong Yao's novels. But these ambiguous answers finally turned into clear answers. Although the plots in each story are different, they all end in an ending. Looking back carefully, it seems that I have never dared to say it in person, for fear that saying it in person would embarrass the other party. I once prepared a love letter (maybe not because I wrote two sentences) and tried to put it in my sister's hand after school, but I was still afraid to say a word to my sister after school. In most cases, I leave a message through SMS or QQ, which is sloppy, but it won't embarrass both parties. If the other party pays more attention to the sense of ceremony, this way of confession will definitely not make the other party think that I am serious.

Because it's a man, I can't understand what it's like to be a woman chasing a man, but as mentioned above, it's definitely different from the woman chasing a man in Eryuan. From a biological point of view, men may be born to be active in feelings. However, people are always influenced by some voices in the surrounding environment, such as "whoever takes the initiative first loses", especially after being rejected, which will increasingly confirm this "poisoned chicken soup". So I'm actually not a particularly active person, because I'm afraid of being rejected, and I will feel guilty as mentioned in my previous diary. I always feel that I will lose if I confess first. But it often backfires. Girls who get along well often just regard me as a good friend. Although I have moved my heart, the other party is not prepared at all. So naturally you will get four words "Don't push me" or "Let me think". Behind this answer, it is more of a kind of self-protection. I don't want to get my relationship into trouble or accept my kindness. Or I sneaked away in the process of getting along, and the other party didn't expect it at all. But I don't think such an answer is necessarily bad. From the perspective of contract, my so-called confession is more like an invitation to offer than an offer, that is, let's talk about it first, and my sister's final answer is more like a real offer. Although I will definitely give a positive "promise", it seems that I take the initiative to confess, in fact, my sister took the initiative in the end, but this is still something I have been thinking about recently. I always act in this style. Although I always say that I speak straight, I often become passive involuntarily, or I am used to this kind of "retreat for progress" behavior. Fortunately, I always get the answers I want, but this can never be understood as technical success, because it is a matter of two people after all. If the other person really doesn't have any thoughts on me, no matter what I do, I can't do it.

Having said so much about myself, let's talk about the most impressive confession in Snow White, which was also written yesterday. The winter horse battle song ends!

I'm here to stop you ... get you! No ... meet Xuecai again. Xichun ... Please betray Xuecai. Then choose me! Please ... stay with me forever! ! !

Coincidentally, this bridge occurred on February 14. Xu finally faced his heart and bravely said what he wanted to say to Xichun, but this was after Xichun decided to give up everything. It can be seen that in love, this is not the case. Whoever takes the initiative first will lose, because there is no winning or losing in love.