What's the point of proposing at home?

In China's wedding custom, when the man goes to the woman's house to propose marriage, he should pay special attention to some details in order to leave a good impression on the woman's house. So what's the point of proposing at home? Come and have a look with me.

What are the customs of proposing relatives at home? What is the specific process of proposing relatives?

1. Arrange the time for proposing marriage. Proposing marriage is a necessary step before marriage. First of all, discuss the time with the bride-to-be and when it is better to propose at home. I suggest that the wedding be arranged at least half a year in advance. If the time is too tight, it will be very busy to prepare for the wedding, which will add a lot of trouble to the couple. This requires communication time with both parents, and the best appointment time is usually in the morning.

2. Determine the number of people participating in the proposal. The groom is not allowed to go alone, but he needs to bring his elders. If his parents are alive, he must take them with him. If his parents are away, he will invite his closest relatives. The number of people attending the marriage proposal represents Geely, but the number of people attending the marriage proposal is no more than six, so the groom should pay attention.

3. Prepare a proposal gift. First, prepare a part of the bride price. The amount of bride price can be 20,000 to 30,000 yuan. Bring two cigarettes, two bottles of mellow white wine, two boxes of tonics and two boxes of delicious desserts, which represents the hope that the whole family will be harmonious, beautiful, sweet and happy, and increase the confidence in proposing marriage. The more expensive the gift, the easier it is to succeed.

4. Be polite. Come to the woman's house in the morning and bring your own gifts and bride price. From the moment you enter the door, you must pay attention to your words and deeds, and you should also say hello to your parents. I hope both parties can make a good impression and decide the wedding in a relaxed and happy environment. It is impolite for the younger generation not to interrupt when the elder is talking.

What's the point of proposing at home?

1. Both parties have agreed on the time and place of the meeting in advance. In order to respect the woman, it is best to stay at her home. If the woman doesn't agree, she will follow her wishes.

2. The man should prepare some gifts in advance. In the north, there are generally four-color gifts of tobacco, alcohol, sugar and tea, and some places may change cigarettes into clothes. If it is a blind date in different places, you can bring some special products.

It may be necessary to finalize the wedding date on the blind date. This is the main purpose of blind date in some places, and only the elders of both sides will decide after consulting the opinions of both sides.

In addition, the specific number of women attending the wedding and the specific requirements for the wedding can be determined, which can be agreed according to local customs.

4. The amount of bride price given by the man to the woman depends on local customs and personal affordability.

It should be reminded that it is best for the man to arrive at the woman's house before noon, which is a respect for the woman, and the existence of the woman's uncle cannot be ignored in negotiations and banquets. In the north, it is customary to have a mother's uncle.

Matters needing attention in proposing marriage at home

First of all, before proposing, the man needs to go to the woman's house and ask if he can propose. At this time, it is necessary to visit the woman's parents and give some gifts appropriately. Because the span from marriage proposal to marriage is usually half a year or a year, which should be decided according to the specific situation.

Second, it is necessary to discuss when to propose after visiting the woman's parents and getting permission to propose. Generally speaking, the date of marriage proposal should be auspicious or beneficial to both men and women. The eight characters of the Chinese zodiac don't match each other, which means a good start. Of course, it is best to choose sunny days. In some places, it is the first month and July, so it is impossible to propose marriage. This shows that there is some pressure on the date.

Third, when proposing marriage, never in the afternoon, because it is impolite to go beyond 12 noon in many places. Of course, if you are from a different place, you can leave for the woman's house at eight or nine o'clock, or you can come one day in advance. Now both husband and wife propose at the man's house, which is no longer like before. It has been simplified to only need the man's parents or the older generation to go together, preferably even numbers.

Fourth, never buy Sydney bananas. Apple is a safe fruit. Or bring some sweet fruits and cakes. The best choices are cigarettes, wine and tea. When buying these gifts, don't buy some cheap candy that has no grade or can be bought casually to save money, which will lower the grade, disrespect the woman's family and reduce the success rate of marriage proposal.

Fifth, the process of proposing marriage will inevitably involve some bride price, or some discussions about the wedding date, dowry and gift money. At this time, the couple should try to control their emotions, respect their parents and try not to interrupt when their parents are talking. Even when you meet something you don't want, be patient and be reasonable when appropriate. Generally speaking, when you propose, you are in a good mood and won't quarrel casually.

What do I need to prepare to propose?

First of all, gifts are essential. In order to win the woman you love, you need to choose the gift that your parents-in-law like with a sincere heart. Finding a good gift is also a criterion to measure the sincerity of a son-in-law.

You can know what your parents-in-law like through your girlfriend's mouth. Choosing a gift that suits your appetite will give you a lot of points to some extent. In addition, it is similar to cigarettes, wine, candy or other supplements. More suitable for the south and the north. For example, in some areas, he needs to bring cakes, or red dates, lotus seeds and chickens and ducks.

When choosing gifts, the man must remember to choose brands such as tobacco, alcohol and tea. To show respect for the woman's family. If grandparents live in the woman's house, you need to bring some fruits, drinks and the like. If you have children, you should also properly wrap a red envelope or give some children toys. This is a plus item. These gifts need even numbers and cannot be paid.

Secondly, the most important question is how much gift money should be prepared for marriage proposal. Gift money is what we call a bride price. The size is determined according to the man's economic strength. If the woman is really in love with you, and her parents-in-law are more open-minded, in fact, the size does not have a great impact. Generally speaking, this bonus will be returned to the man before marriage, or the woman chooses something of equal value, or returned to the bride in the form of a red envelope.

In addition to what the man is going to propose, the woman needs it throughout the proposal process. Because when a man proposes, the items he usually chooses are more expensive. Therefore, when the woman returns the gift, she can't accept all the gifts, but should give the man some gifts to show politeness.

What gift did you bring when you came to propose?

1, gift

Before proposing marriage, the man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions, such as the amount, whether to accept the bride price, etc. And we must discuss it before, otherwise there will be a lot of trouble. There are two types of engagement money: large engagement money (with an amount of 20 million to several million) and small engagement money (with an amount of 0- 1 10,000 or more). Generally speaking, it is to accept a small engagement, withdraw a large engagement or send a house without charging an engagement fee, which is slightly different according to local customs.

Determine whether the engagement fee includes wedding cake and other etiquette expenses (such as uncle's gift, beauty gift, mother's birthday gift, table pressing gift, chef's gift, door opening gift, candle lighting gift, serving gift, etc.). ) or does this money already include the cake money, all etiquette supplies and 12 red envelopes needed for the engagement ceremony?

Of course, it can also be decided according to local customs in the end. In some areas, it is not necessary to bring gifts.

2. Six kinds of gifts

Two cigarettes (such as Zhonghua), two bottles of famous wine (such as Wuliangye) and two boxes of high-grade supplements (such as ginseng and Cordyceps sinensis).

If the woman's grandparents live together, they need to buy some drinks, food and fruit for the elderly to show their love and respect for the elderly. If the woman has children at home, she also needs to bring a children's educational toy, or a small bag, or a children's book.

3. Eight kinds of gifts

Traditionally, eight gifts should be brought when proposing marriage: cigarettes, wine, tea, sugar, cake, noodles, fish and meat.

Special note: noodles, generally choose noodles (including dried noodles); Fish, generally choose carp; Meat, generally choose pig hind legs;

In particular, remember: cigarettes, wine, tea, sugar, cakes and noodles must be of good quality and top grade. Buy them in duplicate. The old rule in some places is to bring money, because the man's parents need to buy clothes and three gold for the woman.

4, holiday gifts

If the proposal coincides with the festival, you must bring holiday gifts, such as moon cakes on the Mid-Autumn Festival and zongzi on the Dragon Boat Festival.

5. Special dishes prepared by yourself

Other parents know that this is a special dish prepared by your parents themselves, which shows that the women in your team are very respectful and sincere and attach great importance to this meeting. Your family's first impression will make other parents feel good. After all, I think your family is very concerned about this, so they will be very concerned about their daughter in the future.

6. Fruit milk

It still depends on family background and parents' opinions. If the other party is a rural family, of course, it is more appropriate to send this, because rural families don't care much about manners, and they think all these can be done. If you are a family in a town, the other party may think that you or your family are too casual and will be dissatisfied with this kind of thing.