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The divorce rate is high and marital problems are frequent.
So, many people leave messages at this time asking why. Is it really because Kill the Wolf is an orphan? In this article, Xiaoxian will focus on why the divorce rate of the pioneers in The Palace of Couples is so high.
Why is the divorce rate of entrepreneurship high? Pioneering people have high dominance and status drive, romantic sensibility, high requirements for feelings, strong desire for control over the other half, dare to pursue what they love, don't care much about other people's opinions, and don't listen to other people's opinions. They dare to love and hate, and love and hate are clear. Therefore, there are many changes on the road of love, which is relatively the most difficult type to stabilize in love and marriage.
There is an ancient book in the couple's palace saying that the seven kills are solitary grams, actually because the seven kills are feelings * * *, and they often mistake * * for love. It happened that * * * is the shortest and easiest bitter fruit to wake up, so it is difficult to maintain feelings. However, this does not mean that the marriage of the person killed by the husband and wife palace is necessarily unhappy. It just means that they should pay more attention to their choices when choosing a spouse.
Pojun's star-breaking problem in the couple's palace lies in their strong desire for success and control, which they want to accomplish through the other half. This will not be a big problem when you are in love, but it is often a force that inspires the other half to make progress. But when it comes to marriage, this force will form the pressure of the other half, and it will also form its own dissatisfaction. I feel blind and have found the wrong lover.
There are Lian Zhen and Lian Zhen in the couple's palace, which shows that this person has high expectations for love and strong requirements for feelings. As a result of falling in love with someone, you will be fully committed, but the deeper you are committed, the greater your disappointment may be. Because of the sense of superiority, Lian Zhen will use "love" as a reason to boss around the other half; Under the pretext of "I will make you better", keep asking each other. If the other party can't do it and Lian Zhen can't compromise, then love will die.
In the couple's palace, there are wolves who are greedy for love. Most of them don't think they are willful. They made a hasty decision at first, but thought that the other party didn't love themselves enough and wouldn't change for themselves. So he either keeps forcing him to work hard and force the other party to turn against him; Still insist on it, and then find the next port of love.
What marital problems should we pay attention to most? Since the risk of marriage is high and the divorce rate is so high, does it mean that the people who started the husband-and-wife palace will be unhappy in marriage?
First of all, Xiaoxian must emphasize that the high divorce rate of entrepreneurs does not mean that all entrepreneurs will divorce and their marriages will be unhappy. But it is undeniable that they are more prone to problems in love and marriage, so they need to adjust their personality and mentality and make a life:
Such people lack patience, are easily excited and impatient, and often give up because they are unwilling to be patient. This is the biggest killer in marriage. Too ego, lack of empathy, poor communication, and often break up because of misunderstanding. I am most afraid of the situation beyond his control, so I like to be in the leading position in marriage. If you can't lead, you will feel uneasy. It's easy to get upset without knowing it, and you won't listen to others' advice. So getting along with the other half may be fine, but getting along with the other half's family will lead to many disputes (between mother-in-law, sister-in-law and aunt), which will affect feelings. Pay special attention to this point. Too proud and confident, it is easy to be cheated and injured on the emotional road. What measures can be taken to avoid marriage failure? Besides adjusting your personality, what else can you do to minimize the chances of marital problems? The following points are pioneering and should be paid as much attention as possible when choosing a marriage:
1. Not suitable for early marriage.
Pioneering type is too emotional, impulsive, not suitable for premature marriage, life contradictions, difficult to adjust, not suitable for premature marriage. But the so-called morning and evening has nothing to do with the actual age. It should be defined as more than three or five years after leaving school to enter the workplace, knowing your own personality and the advantages and disadvantages of interacting with people. On the other hand, pioneers are more likely to cherish their feelings when they have the first wrong experience in the second spring, so most of them can be happy in the second spring.
It is inappropriate to associate with people of similar age.
Pioneering is hard to convince. If the object is close to his age and has different values, it is difficult to compromise with the other party. But if there are many differences in age and social experience, it is easier to listen when communicating. Therefore, the pioneering type is the most taboo for class alignment and proofreading. It is difficult to get along with each other since childhood, and get married as soon as I graduate.
3. It is inappropriate to be different from the same pioneer type.
Pioneering and equally pioneering heterosexual contacts, both of them have strong personalities, it is too easy to say nothing and the risk of getting along is too great.
4. It is advisable to collect less and stay more.
Pioneering and lovers together, easy to quarrel, but difficult to get along with. However, if each has his own living space and does not interfere with each other, it is easier to maintain feelings.
5. Beware of love triangle
Pioneering type is overconfident, likes competition, is not afraid of people's words, and often intentionally or unintentionally intervenes in multi-angle love, causing disputes and troubles. So, pay more attention to the beginning of a relationship.
6. Love and career complement each other.
If entrepreneurial love can be combined with career, the stability of two people will be higher and complement each other. However, if the career fails unfortunately, it will definitely affect love.
7. find a suitable object
Marriage is never the result of unilateral efforts. Finding the right person will make it easier to get along and run in. Among the four types of Wei Zi, the pioneer type and the dominant type (including Wei Zi, Tianfu, Wu Qu or Tianxiang in the couple's palace) complement each other, and finding a dominant partner will make the marriage more stable.
In marriage, love alone cannot solve the problem. The key to a happy marriage lies in mutual respect and tolerance. Know each other and cherish each other, and if you don't know each other and cherish each other, you will defeat each other. Have more patience, understanding and respect for your marital happiness!
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