In-laws sleep in the master bedroom of the wedding room in order to harness their horses, and the prospective daughter-in-law will send guests directly. Do you think this daughter-in-law is suitable?

We often say that husband and wife are equal, in no particular order, and their family status is the same. This is an indisputable fact and a common way for couples to get along.

In the family, even if the husband and wife are "men in charge of the outside and women in charge of the inside", the proportion of family responsibilities has not changed in the general direction since ancient times, but can you say that it is easier to preside over the internal affairs than to work hard outside, and the intensity of the responsible part must be high or low?

Or is it that men must be stronger than women and women must be weaker than men?

Square face doesn't think so.

There is a saying that I don't know if you have heard of it. Things have priorities, which may be more important than internal worries. It may be really urgent to solve the foreign invasion, and the thorny troubles and enemies outside also make people feel uneasy for a moment. Therefore, everyone thinks that dealing with external affairs is the most critical and urgent step.

Actually, it is not.

If the internal worries are not solved, they will fall apart from the inside, and the ideal city, a relationship and even a family may be destroyed without a single soldier from outside.

Hearing this, can you still say that the woman who presides over the internal affairs and stabilizes the overall situation is not important? In the eyes of many people, what women do may be frivolous and insignificant, but they are only responsible for washing clothes, taking care of children and serving the elderly, while men are sweating and working hard outside.

But who knows, women are quietly laying a solid foundation for the family, no one can see them, and they can't get substantive recognition. They are not weak, nor do they do nothing, but they do everything without words, which makes people unable to perceive it easily.

It's not that the square face holds high and steps low, holds women and belittles men, but that the efforts made by men and women in the family are equally divided. They are all very important, and neither side should be looked down upon or despised.

The Bible describes that the beginning of God's creation of mankind, that is, the beginning of Adam and Eve, is to complement each other. Physically, women are weaker than men, but psychologically, the powerful energy burst out in women's weak bodies is unexpected. Men have a strong physique, and women have a tough personality. Only by helping each other and complementing each other can they give full play to the maximum effectiveness of the combination of men and women.

It doesn't matter which side is weaker. As long as there is love in each other's hearts, we have the belief of running in the same direction together. We don't care much about personal gains and losses, work hard for the result, respect each other and respect marriage, so it is difficult to consider marriage and happiness can't be thrown away.

The terrible thing is that some people just think that if a woman is, it seems natural. No matter how much you tell them, they also think that women are weak, and marriage is an accessory of her husband's family. Even if a woman is excellent and gives more help to her husband's family, they just take it for granted that a woman has done all this.

Anyway, women are already in-laws' families. Isn't everything brought by women, including women, a different name?

This kind of thinking is not rogue thinking and robber logic. Outsiders really have nothing to say, but some people think so, especially some old people and elders. They are good teachers and think their past experience is correct. They don't listen and are unreasonable.

They think they are helping the younger generation to stabilize their families and marriages, and to educate and tame women. In fact, they are shortening or even killing the marriage of the younger generation, which destroys the happiness of their children.

They often don't hit the south wall and don't look back. They are stubborn and always feel that they have mastered the essence of family ethics. It's too late to really hit the south wall.

Pretending to be broken, hurting bones, losing land, losing face, being accused and accused are also consequences that must be borne.

Yan Yu's husband's family wouldn't have made such an absurd move if they could understand a little similar truth and had a little idea. They think everything is developing in an orderly way under their control. They seldom know that the result of the event is like a runaway wild horse running in a direction beyond their control. When they tried to pull back from the brink, sorry, the horse was frightened and people lost control. If you do something wrong, you must pay the price. Even if the price can be borne, you can only bear it.

Yan Yu got married some time ago and divorced soon. To be exact, she got a license and booked a wedding date, but she hasn't officially got married yet. But an unpleasant thing happened before the wedding, which made Yan Yu determined to break it and divorce her immediately.

The attitude of Yan Yu's husband's family changed quickly. From the initial sincere apology and strong pleading, when they saw that there was no room for change, they turned against each other faster than turning pages, accusing Yan Yu of ignorance, and the temper of the first lady was just a little contradictory. She had to make a fuss about surfing the Internet.

He also said that Yan Yu didn't respect marriage and treated it as a joke. Obviously, she has obtained the certificate, saying that if she divorces, she will divorce, and if she doesn't get married, she will not get married. Anyway, her family didn't suffer, so let divorced Yan Yu do it at her own discretion.

Yanyu listened to her husband's family, but she didn't laugh or care.

"What am I angry about? What am I fighting back? It doesn't make any sense. Tell me, you've seen dogs bite, but have you ever seen people bite dogs? I was too lazy to do such a thing, so that I lost my job.

I don't know if it is difficult for me to get married, but I know that their family, which has no house, no money and no respect for women, will not be proud for long. Now it's just a desperate cry. "

What happened in the end, so that the attitudes of both families are so excited, this matter is about to start from the beginning.

Yan Yu was born in a family with relatively ordinary family conditions. Her parents are honest people, her father is an electric welder and her mother is a factory worker. Yan Yu is the only daughter in the family. Although her family conditions are not as good as others, she enjoys the love of her parents alone, and there is nothing missing in her childhood. Under the care of her parents, she grew up healthily and vigorously.

However, as far as I can remember, my parents' feelings have never been so harmonious. It's not a problem between husband and wife, but grandma Yan Yu's reason.

Yan Yu's grandmother is a typical rural old lady. She has never been to school and can't read. There are many bad habits in her life, such as swearing and gossiping. As soon as she talks about various short stories of Zhang's parents and Li's family, her own mother doesn't know them, she blurts out wild words.

Gossip and rude words come from your mouth. You never care about others. It all depends on your mood. The key is that the old lady is still narrow-minded and grumpy. More importantly, she still lives with her eldest son, Yan Yu's father.

Yan Yu has seen countless times since she was a child. Because of her grandmother's provocation, her parents quarreled and even fought. She also saw her gentle mother, like an ordinary village woman, standing tall and cursing each other with her mother-in-law.

Yan Yu was once unable to understand her mother. She once thought that it was her mother's fierceness and lack of manners that kept her father away. It is her mother who can't stand her grandmother. It was not until she grew up that she understood the difficulties and unspeakable sufferings of her mother's life.

Fortunately, Yan Yu's parents and grandparents treat their children equally even if they are quarreling. They have always been very kind to Yan Yu. However, these things in the family are still a dark wound in Yan Yu's heart. She is very afraid of repeating her mother's mistakes and encountering such difficulties under the same roof.

Yan Yu's mother obviously thinks so. She and her husband work hard. In Yan Yu's freshman year, when the house price was not so high, her mother persuaded her husband to secretly help Yan Yu leave the house for him to use later.

At first, Yan Yu's father didn't agree to buy a house, but now this house has already exceeded three times the market value of that year, and can only boast that Yan Yu's mother is a visionary and intelligent woman. This year, Yan Yu and her first boyfriend, Liu Kai, are going to get married. Yan Yu's mother took this house out as a wedding room for her daughter.

Take Yu Yan's boyfriend, Liu Kai, for example. His family conditions are really not so good. It turned out that his father had some property when he was doing business in his early years, but when he was young, Liu Kai's father got into some bad habits, all his property was lost, and even his house was used to pay off debts. The family has lived in an old two-bedroom residential building for more than ten years, which is completely different from before.

It is said that it is not easy to stand up, and it is even harder to get up when you fall. Liu Kai's family has never got up since they fell into poverty. Now, to put it bluntly, they are poor. Liu Kai worked two years ago to help pay off the foreign debt, and two young people got married, which really can't help you.

At first, Yu Yan's mother couldn't accept that such a boy fell in love with her daughter, but Yu Yan liked it very much. She was determined to follow Liu Kai for several years, but Yu Yan's mother could only agree.

After all, Yan Yu's mother still has malice. She said that her daughter was very painful when she got married in the past, and she was afraid of her daughter's suffering and secretly began to arrange her daughter. After decorating the wedding room, she adopted the real estate license to Yan Yu.

"Mom didn't secretly hide it from you for so long. Mom is prepared for you, just thinking about it in case it comes in handy, but mom is afraid that you will use it, and even more afraid that when you have a house at a young age, you will accidentally spill the beans and let some malicious boys stare at it. Since you are still using it, there is nothing you can do. As long as you are happy and have a good life in the future, your mother will be satisfied. "

Liu was naturally happy when he got married with a house. Besides, Yu Yan's mother was afraid that Yu Yan would be looked down upon by her husband's family, and she didn't want any bride price money at all. The family is even more flattered. After all, it's so easy to marry a wife. In today's era, winning the lottery can be said to be luck.

At first, my in-laws were very polite to Yan Yu and worshipped them like a Buddha. After all, such a silly girl can't find the second one with a lantern, but if she runs away, it's gone. However, since they set a wedding date and their parents urged them to get a marriage certificate, their in-laws' attitude changed.

Maybe I just think that this marriage certificate has been obtained and the matter has been settled. Yan won't come out any day. My in-laws have started to make up the numbers, so they can't provide them all the time. When a daughter-in-law has to act like a wife, don't let her feel that she is the head of the family. Everyone must listen to her. So the in-laws immediately decided to give the prospective daughter-in-law Yan Yu a duel.

Yan Yu had almost no requirements when she got married. The only rule is not to live with in-laws At that time, Yan Yu's husband's family agreed, but they held Yan Yu at first. It's different now, so they went back on their word.

That is, on the eve of the wedding, when the husband's family decorated the new house, they arranged it in the second bedroom. After Yan Yu discovered it, it was also very puzzling. She didn't hide anything, so she just asked.

"Why not decorate the master bedroom?"

Boyfriend Liu Kai was speechless, and her in-laws chimed in: "The new house is going to be popular. I discussed it with your uncle. I'll help you buy a house in your town. Your uncle is very fat, and the bed in this house is bigger. If you can sleep, it is just right to sleep in this house. "

Yan Yu's mother-in-law made a phone call, but Yan Yu didn't look at her mother-in-law from beginning to end, but stared at Liu Kai: "Do you think so?"

Liu Kai stared at his hair, and suddenly he got up the courage and shouted at Yan Yu, "My parents are not others, they are all very kind. What's wrong with staying? " Can you still lose a piece of meat? "

Yan Yu understood. Everyone knows that she keeps herself in the dark. If she doesn't find it, they're not going to say anything at all. I found that she was confident and didn't respect herself at all. Doing so is to give herself a scare.

"I don't agree with it. Please move out. You are not allowed to live in this house without my permission. " Mother-in-law immediately got angry after listening: "Hey, why do you talk to your child like this?" ? What kind of person am I, so rushed, you have to tell me when I am old, do you really think I am the head of the family?

I asked, this is my son's home, why can't I live there? Why can't we live in the master bedroom? "

Yan Xiaoyu said, "Aunt, I'm afraid your memory is a little poor. You forgot an important thing. This house is not your son's, but mine. I'm the shopkeeper. I am seeing the guests off in the name of the host now, so would you please go out? "

After listening to Yan Yu's words, my mother-in-law was furious: "Do you want to marry my son or not? If you don't respect your in-laws, how can you be such a daughter-in-law ... "

Before the words were finished, Yan Yu interrupted her: "Oh, you reminded me. I really don't want to get married. Now I'm getting divorced. Your family is like this. I can't afford to be taunted, but I can't afford to hide, so please go out now. Take care, don't send it. "

At first, my in-laws thought Yan Yu was angry words, but then the first act happened. After the divorce, my in-laws were dumbfounded. My son always accuses and complains that they have hurt themselves and poured dirty water on their hearts, which doesn't help. Yan Yu escaped a life disaster, and Yan Yu's in-laws plan also fell through, which makes people happy.

Respect women and don't take their contributions for granted. Please remember this truth.

A woman is not a victim of her family, nor an accessory of her husband's family. She is herself, not anyone, but herself.

The old almanac should really be turned over. It is the husband's family who is certified. What marriage can help women. Women have hands and feet, but also have their own three views. They will not be bound by these rules and regulations that once framed women's lives. Women in the new era know how to protect themselves and avoid risks.

People are very kind to her, and she naturally knows that she will repay her and go all out to fight for a common future. If others treat her badly, why does she stay? Stop loss in time and leave directly is the best choice.

You say that she is delicate, that she can't stand being in charge, and that other girls are also parents' treasures, so why does she come to your house to boss around?

Those who regard women as accessories, do not treat women equally, and do not know how to respect women, regardless of their status and experience, are wrong from the beginning.

If you want a woman to be obedient and obedient, you don't have to play any tricks, you don't have to pressure anyone, and you don't have to be arrogant. Be kind to a woman with your heart and give her the right to speak and status in the family. Women are actually stupid, which is enough to make women willing to pay for it.

Respect, be kind, it is not difficult to do these two words. It's just that some people don't understand that taming women is regarded as taming animals, and their results are obvious. Women will become uncontrollable beasts as they wish, and the final result will only make them doubt life and regret it.