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What's the name of the banquet hosted by the lady first? Generally, the woman holds a banquet first, which is called a cabinet banquet. Usually before the wedding, it is equivalent to a more popular bachelor party. Banquet is a traditional custom, so what do you need to do for it? Let's discuss this problem together and see what we all have in mind.

What's the name of the party for ladies first?

In fact, in many places, there is a rule that women hold banquets first. First of all, in rural areas of Chengdu, there is a dinner party the night before the wedding: it is called "Flower Night", and in some places it is called "Garden Banquet", which is a traditional custom in China.

However, due to the progress of modern society and the development of traffic, more and more girls have joined the ranks of distant marriage, so this custom is no longer suitable for the development of real society, and now the habit of taking all the food for both men and women is becoming more and more popular.

Some old people are very traditional. They may get married twice, which is unacceptable. They think it's unlucky, but the woman's parents want their daughter to get married in a beautiful way, give them a grand wedding and entertain their relatives at the same time. Because the marriage is too far away, relatives can't go to the man's house, so there will be situations where both parties can do it.

So, how should we solve this situation? This is why there are wedding banquets and mothering banquets.

Get married:

Marriage is the name of ancient women's marriage. In ancient times, it was called boudoir. Unmarried women live in the attic. In ancient times, they paid attention to three obedience and four virtues. Women are asked to stay at the front door and the second door, and are asked not to see men in the outside world. Therefore, married women are called "married". On the contrary, if you didn't leave home, you wouldn't get married.

In the past, the bride's family would hold a banquet the day before the girl got married, which was the girl's last meal in her own home, because after she got married, the girl would belong to the man's family. All the people invited are her family, close relatives and close friends. On the wedding day, the bride's parents can't appear at the wedding scene, so the woman's family needs to entertain relatives and friends before the girl leaves home.

Mothering feast:

Visiting relatives in the province, a custom handed down from ancient times, was also called: being a guest, going back to another home or going back to the door in the Three Dynasties. It means that on the third day of marriage, the newlyweds go to the woman's house to visit relatives with gifts. At this time, the woman's family must also prepare a banquet (usually held at noon, which is called the mothering banquet or inviting the son-in-law). After mothering, the matchmaker's job is over, and the man must give gifts to the matchmaker to express his gratitude.

That is to say, the back-door banquet we are talking about now is usually on the third, sixth, seventh, eighth and ninth day after marriage, or at the full moon, the son-in-law and the bride go back to their parents and relatives together. The ceremony of becoming a husband from a kiss has now been completed. This custom originated in ancient times and is generally called "mothering in the province", which means going home to visit parents after marriage. Later generations have different names, such as "Hundred Gates" in the Song Dynasty, "Two-way Gates" in the north and "Huijia" in the south in the Qing Dynasty, "Uncle" in some areas of Hebei and "Huilang" in Hangzhou.

In modern times, it is usually the third day after marriage, which is the so-called "Three Dynasties". This is the last ceremony of the wedding. Some daughters will never forget the kindness of their parents. The son-in-law thanked her parents-in-law and newlyweds for their love and beauty. Generally speaking, the woman's family will hold a banquet for them, and the new son-in-law will be seated and accompanied by the head of the family. The newlyweds will either come back the same day or leave them for a few days. If they stay, they will live in different rooms.