What's the custom of recognizing dopted mother?

This different place has different habits, and recognizing dopted mother is also called recognizing dopted mother as follows:

The habit of "recognizing relatives" is also very different in etiquette and customs because of the different geographical, ethnic and cultural backgrounds.

In Beijing, it is generally believed that to recognize michel platini, a dopted mother will be unfavorable to her own children, so she is not a close friend, and people generally dare not ask michel platini and Ma Yu if they are their own children; And worship the godmother, the two sides should exchange gifts and hold banquets. After that, every year, the godchildren will give gifts to michel platini and godmother, and michel platini and godmother will also give gifts back. Therefore, no wealthy family is difficult to socialize.

Since we want to "recognize our relatives", we have to choose an auspicious day to hold the ceremony. At that time, parents should not only prepare a sumptuous banquet, but also prepare gifts for their children to pay tribute to michel platini and godmother. In this gift, the most important thing is the hat for michel platini and the shoes for dopted mother. In addition, items such as cloth should be provided. Of course, michel platini and dopted mother can't just go in and out. Michel platini and dopted mother must give their adopted sons and daughters rice bowls, chopsticks and a long life lock. In addition, they should also have a set of small clothes, such as shoes and socks, hats, bibs and stomachs. In the past, for these gifts, wealthy families would go to jewelry stores to order silver bowls and chopsticks, or go to Huguo Temple and Baita Temple to buy wooden bowls to prevent children from breaking them by mistake. It is considered unlucky to break the bowl in case.

In some places in Henan and Shaanxi, "recognizing relatives" is done by "touching". In Zhengzhou and Kaifeng, Henan Province, on the first morning of a baby's birth, the baby's father will go out and "touch" his surname. The first person "touches" the baby's father, regardless of sex, age, and child, will kneel and kowtow, and then explain to him that he has a baby at home and ask the other person to name the baby. In the past, most people in rural areas were old scavengers, some of whom were unprepared, but because of customs, it was not convenient to drive them away, so they had to make up their minds. As a result, names such as "Dung Basket", "Rotou", "Dog Baby" and "Cat Baby" came out. Although these names are a bit indecent, they are just nicknames, which are people's favorite names for children. It doesn't matter much if they are called children. In some places, people who are "touched" not only give the baby a name, but also give the baby a gift and are recognized as godmothers. In some places in Shaanxi, the "recognition of godmother" is usually carried out by grandmother or grandfather on the day of the child's "full moon", and the first adult who meets after going out is worshipped as godmother or michel platini. Of course, this kind of "collision" is random, and most occasions are arranged in advance. The first person Bump meets is someone who has a good relationship with his family or status.

In Hangzhou, children also have a custom of "recognizing relatives". The godfather godmother they worship is not a real person, but a "ghost" often mentioned in Lu Xun's articles. There, "parents are afraid that their son will not live long, and they are afraid that it will cost a lot of money to worship their parents, so they don't give it to others, but to ghosts", commonly known as "worship Hu Ganye". According to local legend, ghosts are ghosts specially sent by Yan Luowang to detain the souls of the dead. He sent his children to the ghost, hoping that it would not detain his son's soul to protect his longevity. In the past, the world didn't know the name of the ghost and mistakenly thought it was Hu's surname, so it was called "Hu Ganye". The way to pay homage to Hu Ganye is: the children's parents first make a brand-new white dress, then take it to the temple, change it into the old clothes on the statue of Hu Ganye, and burn it with soju, sesame seeds, incense sticks and silver ingots. Finally, the messenger's son was named by the monks in the temple. Since then, every July, the children's parents will take him to the temple to celebrate the birthday of Grandpa Hu until the children grow up to 16 years old.

In addition to the Han nationality, some ethnic minorities in China also have the custom of "recognizing relatives", such as Tujia nationality. Tujia children not only give their children to people with other surnames as "godsons" or "goddaughters", but some families also give their children to trees, stones, wells, pigs, dogs, chickens and other things, and name them after things they worship. If it is a boy, it is generally called "rock protection", "water protection", "pig protection" and "chicken protection". If it's a girl, it's usually called "Yan Mei", "Shui Mei", "Dog Sister" and "Chicken Sister". Because in the eyes of Tujia people, only by sending children to others or things can we eliminate disasters and let children grow up smoothly.

ceremony

But the ordinary ceremony of "recognizing dopted mother" is completed as long as the children formally kowtow to michel platini and dopted mother and change their names to michel platini and dopted mother. If the child is young and particularly delicate, when recognizing the dopted mother, the dopted mother will wear a particularly fat red trousers and sit on the kang, and others will hold the child out of the crotch, indicating that the child is her own. Then dopted mother gives him (her) a long life lock, gives him a baby name, and eats bowls and chopsticks sent by father and dopted mother in the future. This means that children will become their children from now on, eat their family's food, and have nothing to do with their biological parents. From then on, children can borrow the blessings of michel platini and dopted mother to grow up smoothly and live a long and healthy life.

Although the conservation custom of "worshipping relatives" has different forms in different regions and ethnic groups, we can still find something in common, that is: (1) They all have the same purpose, that is, to make children easy to raise and grow up smoothly; (2) The causes are similar, and they are all superstitious; (3) Emotions are consistent, and they are full of extremely strong human feelings.