Those who return to China belong to family rules.

Returning home is an ancient clan rule of Huayao Yi people in our country. When the bride and groom get married, the bride can't share the same room with the groom, and it will take at least three years to live in her husband's house. This custom is called "going home". When and why this custom originated cannot be verified because of its long history, but it has been passed down to the 1950s and 1960s. The process of "returning home" is like this. When both men and women talk about marriage, they all choose a good day to hold a wedding banquet. On the wedding day, after the wedding ceremony, the bride was pushed into the bridal chamber by other female companions, and the groom could only live elsewhere and could not be near the bride again. After breakfast the next day, the groom will send the bride home, which is called "confinement". The groom must return on the day of sending the bride home. In the future, both men and women will have to go through a long wait and endure loneliness and lovesickness; The woman can't come to her husband's house alone before the date of returning home, otherwise she will be criticized. Every year, when spring is blooming and birds are singing and flowers are fragrant, it is the busiest time in the countryside. It is convenient for a man to ask his woman for help, and it is convenient for a woman to let her partner go on the road together. In the field, songs and cheers resounded through the sky and echoed in the valley for a long time. After planting the seedlings, the woman has to go home on time, not for more than one day. No matter how disappointed I am, I still have to be sent home by my wife. When the man can go to the woman's house at any time, there is no taboo. Therefore, when a man misses his lover, he always goes straight to his father-in-law's house with meat, alcohol, tobacco and other things, regardless of busy farming season or leisure season, whether it is a holiday or not, so he spent most of the year at her house two or three years before she returned to China. Although it will take a long time, there will be the pain of missing. However, few marriages break up and change their minds. I don't know whether there is true love between them, whether love can stand the test of time, or whether people are deeply influenced by traditional ideas. Like most rural areas in China, Huayao Dai people rarely get divorced. Before liberation, Yi people seldom divorced after marriage. In the past, only the elders in the village occasionally decided to divorce. When the man files for divorce, he needs to pay the woman a certain amount of money; If the woman asks for a divorce, the man won't pay any money. A husband's deceased wife can remarry, but the newly married man's family must give the original husband's family a certain "loss fee". In some areas, the phenomenon of "changing houses" still exists.

Nowadays, the family rule of "going home" has long since disappeared and will be forgotten by people. Nowadays, young Yi women can't wait to live in their husbands' homes after the wedding, and some of them have been paired with the man before the wedding.