What should Cantonese people prepare for marriage?

The wedding custom in Guangdong is a great gift. _

The most solemn engagement ceremony is 15 to 20 days before the wedding. The man chooses a good day and brings gifts and various gifts to the woman's house. Today, due to the complexity and time-consuming of this traditional wedding etiquette, it is rare to adopt a full set of [three books and six gifts] ceremony, and the most important thing is the gift. . _

The gifts for men are as follows: _

Two boxes of hardcover Longfeng cakes and a box of western-style cakes. . _

Double Happiness Eight Fruits ji zi Basket (Life is Intense). _

Two pairs of coconuts (with a grandfather and a son) and two pairs of long hardcover dragon and phoenix candles (long Guangdong bride). _

Hardcover bronzing, one pair of couplets for men and women, two boxes of hardcover tea and sesame seeds (women are faithful and trustworthy). _

Double happiness bronzing two gift gold medals (engagement money). _

A century of harmony, three sacrifices and two seals (the gift of chicken, fish and pork can be replaced by three sacrifices to benefit the market). _

Double happiness stickers (walnuts, lotus seeds, lilies, red dates, shelled peanuts, dried lychees, dried longan, red beans, mung beans, sesame seeds, tea leaves, and Eleven Auspicious Guo Jing). _

One pack of Platycladus orientalis, two packs of double happiness bronzing, profit seal ... _

The bride's return is as follows: _

A golden lotus boat (love is like oxygen) and a pair of pomegranates (many children are blessed). _

Add ginger, taro (add Ding to make a fortune), hibiscus, Platycladus orientalis (seek good fortune and avoid evil), orange (auspicious), two packages of double happiness bronzing and a pair of happy congratulations towels. _

Big tea ceremony (Dafa muffins, money, long profits, fried piles, red envelopes, etc. ) {Ma You Tea Ceremony}. _

Move the dowry _

After receiving the bride price, the woman's family should send the dowry to the man's family the day before the wedding at the latest. Dowry is a symbol of a woman's status and wealth. In the past, Cantonese people liked to send dowry with camphor wood to show their durability. Dowry can be divided into [make-up] and [make-up]. [make-up] refers to the dowry sent by the woman's family to the man's family. In addition to people with makeup, the woman's family will also invite several relatives and friends to take care of it together. The more people there are, the thicker the woman's house is. After the dowry is carried to the man's house, the man will invite relatives and friends to meet him. This is called welcome makeup. In the dowry, besides precious jewelry and gold ornaments, there are many things that symbolize good omen. With Tan Meng as the bucket for children and grandchildren, I wish my daughter lush foliage and a full house of children and grandchildren. Take the red ruler as the future ruler, which means fertile land; Vases represent rich flowers; Copper plates and shoes mean to grow old together; Silver foreskin is rich; Scissors refer to butterflies flying in pairs; A pair of dragon and phoenix quilts, sheets and pillows, wishing the couple love and lingering; A piece of candy is a metaphor for sweet happiness; Dragon and phoenix bowls and chopsticks, as chopsticks for food and clothing, indicate ample food and clothing (the bowl is beneficial to the market and can replace 72 sets of clothes as a dowry). _

Bridal dowry supplies:. _

O A century-old tea set (one plate, one pot and four cups). _

O A century-old bowl (a pair of bowls, chopsticks, plates and spoons). _

100 with a lid cup (a pair). _

Asi embroidered double sets of concentric chopsticks, which made people happy (sticky phlegm). _

Double happiness mandarin duck noodles, Guo Jing dishes. _

Anchuang _

A few days before the wedding, a good-natured woman will put the new bed in an auspicious place that is beneficial to the couple, then spread a dragon and phoenix quilt and sprinkle red mung beans, lotus seeds, red dates, longan, walnuts and other happy fruits. Relatives are not allowed to sleep in a new bed after they are put in bed. Pregnant women, people with filial piety and women with moonlight clan are not allowed to enter. In addition, after going to bed, let the children jump out of bed and eat happy fruits, which was called "pressing the bed" in ancient times, meaning opening branches and spreading leaves. The most important ceremonies and etiquette before the wedding are [going to the cabinet] and [going to court]. [Shangge] refers to a period of time before marriage, when the bride-to-be is in a corner of her home, usually in a boudoir or attic, accompanied by a group of boudoir sisters and close friends, to temporarily get rid of her usual living habits and prepare herself psychologically so as to adapt to the unfamiliar living environment of her husband's family in the future. The bride will stay until the wedding day and leave the attic. Therefore, it is commonly known as "married woman". Modern people also have similar activities. The bride invites her sisters and close friends to her daughter's house for the night before the wedding, and talks with each other all night to prepare for another stage of her life tomorrow. Although there are occasional occasions when sisters are emotional and cry, the overall atmosphere is still full of joy. . _

Give birth to your son early. _

(Jujube [jujube], peanut [raw], longan [laurel], lotus seed [seed]). _

Above. _

In modern wedding etiquette, before the wedding ceremony, both men and women will still take the head ceremony separately. The ceremony was held the night before the wedding or on a suitable day. It symbolizes that a couple has officially entered the adult stage, and they want to form a new family and shoulder the mission of spreading branches and leaves. Choose a good time, the man should take a bath half an hour earlier than the woman, and both men and women should take a shower first, and use grapefruit vegetables (grapefruit leaves are said to remove dirt and move) to wash people who are [blessed] (commonly known as lucky guys/lucky women, who need both parents and children, and husband and wife are harmonious). Then I put on brand-new underwear and pajamas, sat by a window where I could see the moonlight, and a lucky guy or a lucky woman combed my hair. The bride's hair will be combed into a bun to show that she will enter adulthood after marrying a woman. When a good person or a good woman combs her hair, she should say rhyming and auspicious sentences, such as "one comb to the end, two combs of white hair Qi Mei, three combs of children and grandchildren all over the floor, four combs of four silver bamboo shoots." It means wishing the newlyweds a happy marriage. Finally, the lucky guy or lucky woman needs to tie the cypress and the red rope to the bride or groom's head, so as to complete the ceremony. Because the gyro is a ceremony for parents to bless their children, it is more important. . _

That man is up there. _

Take a bath with green pomelo leaves before you go to your head, then put on brand-new underwear and pajamas and start over. Three bowls of glutinous rice balls (nine in each bowl), a mirror, a red rope, a pointed comb, a ruler for children and grandchildren, and dragon and phoenix scissors should be prepared before the case. When it is auspicious, it should be sent to the head by good people (combing their hair) and sincerely worship the sky. After going to the head, you can eat glutinous rice balls with your family and brothers and share the wedding. . _

Men's auspicious top clothes:. _

(Pointed comb, mirror, dragon and phoenix candle, descendant ruler, red rope, dragon and phoenix scissors, etc. )._

On a woman's head. _

Take a bath with green pomelo leaves before you go to your head, then put on brand-new underwear and pajamas, and choose a window where you can see the moon. After lighting the dragon and phoenix candles, three bowls of glutinous rice balls, raw fruit, barbecue and chicken should be used to worship the sky, and wooden combs and grates should be prepared instead of pointed combs, sewing kits and red scarves. Dragon and phoenix scissors represent advantages, and the ruler mirror of future generations takes its bright future, that is, the so-called "faucet mirror hinged scissors ruler". _

Women's auspicious top clothes:. _

Comb, grate, needle, thread, dragon and phoenix candle, dragon and phoenix scissors, mirror, red rope, ruler for future generations, etc. )._

Little paste: _

But if everything is simple, replace it with profit, just write (good gift). For example, instead of pork (pork gold) and raw materials (clothing gold), we should try to find some important gifts in person, including: a pair of dragon and phoenix cakes, a number of Tang cakes (about eight), a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, a pair of couplets and a fruit. The items in the bride price imply auspiciousness, but the quantity must be in pairs, not in singular. The bride price received by the woman's family from the man's family is not all collected, and the items belonging to the man's family need to be returned; Handkerchiefs are not allowed in gifts, because it means breaking up. . _

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Etiquette before the wedding. _

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1. Bride gift: Before the wedding, the man will go to the woman's house to give the bride a gift. The custom in Guangzhou is to give chickens (meaning alive), coconuts (meaning blessed by a grandfather and a son) and gift cakes (for the relatives of the woman), as well as gifts to show that the man's family is rich and will let the woman get married and enjoy happiness. 3. Make the bed: The night before the wedding, the woman will find a lucky man (happy family, parents alive and a son) to come to the new bed in the new house and put well-meaning food such as peanuts, red dates and walnuts on the bed. . _

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4. Dowry: Before marriage, the bride will put the dowry prepared at home in a red suitcase and take it to her husband's house the next day. . _

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5. Above: The night before their wedding, they will choose an auspicious time to worship God, heaven and earth, pray for blessings, and at the same time inform the man to worship God. . _

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6. Comb her hair: The bride will ask a blessed elder to comb her hair. . _

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7. Eat glutinous rice balls: it means that you can get married and be happy. . _

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Etiquette on the wedding day. _

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1. Wedding reception: On the morning of the wedding, the man's reception team will come to the woman's house to receive relatives. Nowadays, picking up the bride is the climax of the whole wedding. The first level is "getting started". If you want to successfully get the beauty back, you must go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, and if necessary, add love songs, but the most important thing is a rich "good start". Sisters will not open the door if they are not satisfied. The groom should bring a bouquet to marry the bride (the bride should not make her own bouquet). . _

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2. Looking for red shoes: The groom will look for red shoes for the bride in the room where the bride is picked up, put on red shoes and take the bride away. . _

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Let's begin. _

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After arriving at the man's house, the bride stepped into the man's house with the help of Daikin. A brazier (copper basin or iron basin) burning charcoal will be placed outside the gate in advance, and the bride needs to cross it. This is called "crossing the brazier", which means prosperity and evil spirits. Next, there is a ceremony to pay homage to the church, which is divided into three steps. The first step is to worship heaven and earth, the second step is to worship ancestors, and the third step is to worship Wengjiagu. After paying homage to heaven and earth and ancestral ancestral ancestral hall, a couple will bow to the parents of the groom, and the bride will offer fragrant tea to the old man and aunt, and then offer tea to the elders one by one according to their generation and age. Whether they kneel or not depends on the respect and preference of both sides. After bowing to their parents, the newlyweds will worship each other. Sister Dajin kept saying some auspicious words, and the ceremony was not completed until they rented each other to pay homage. . _

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For the traditional China people, offering tea is a very important etiquette. When the newlyweds worship their ancestors, they should offer tea to their parents, which not only means thanking their parents for their upbringing, but also means that both parents accept the groom or bride as a new member of the family, which is a symbol of their recognized status. Two red dates and lotus seeds are usually put in the fragrant tea used by newcomers to worship tea, which symbolizes the good omen of early birth. After drinking the bride's cup of tea, the new family, grandparents and elders will send gold bracelets, jade and other jewelry as a meeting gift for the newly married wife, and also put a gift on the tray of fragrant tea (commonly known as "betel nut box") as a reward for Dajin's sister. . _

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Get out. _

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When you get to your wife's house, the first step is to start. If you want to find a beautiful woman successfully, you must go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, and read a declaration of love (sales contract) if necessary, but the most important thing is to give the girls a generous opening ceremony until they are satisfied. After the wedding, the bride is taken out by Daikin's sister or maid of honor and given to the bride's father, who then gives the bride to the groom for a formal ceremony. Follow the couple to worship the heavens and the earth first, then the ancestors, then worship their parents with tea, and the ceremony of receiving the bride is completed. . _

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To complete the above ceremony, the bride needs the help of the bridesmaid or sister. She will play a red umbrella, which means the branches will spread out. Other sisters must also sprinkle rice, red mung beans and gold scraps while walking, commonly known as "feeding the golden rooster", which is said to prevent the golden rooster from pecking at the bride. Before boarding the float, the bride should bow to her relatives and friends to show her gratitude. It must be noted that all the people who accompany the bride to the man's house, except Sister Daikin, must be unmarried women, and the bride's brother must not accompany the bride to the door. If the bride marries before her brother, she must hang his trousers at the door and let the bride wear them under her crotch. If she marries before her sister, she should send a skirt to her unmarried sister. Unmarried brothers and sisters should not witness newcomers going out or entering the door, and should temporarily avoid them. . _

Three dynasties back door. _

Although Huimen is not listed in the Three Books and Six Rites, it is a very important wedding etiquette in China tradition, and it must not be taken lightly. Once upon a time, after the bride got married, she would go back to her family on the third day accompanied by her husband. When the bride returns to the door, she should wear a traditional wedding dress (skirt) in China and a brand-new red bridal bag. The skirt represents the bride's clean and elegant status, and only the yellow flower girl can wear it. At the same time, the man must send back a golden pig to show the bride's chastity. After receiving the golden pig, the female family distributed it to relatives, friends and neighbors, indicating that her daughter did not disgrace the lintel. Traditionally, the bride and Zhang Yue's mother's son-in-law have to stay at home for dinner. But now, in order to save time, most newcomers choose to return to China on the same day, that is, the newcomers worship heaven and earth at the man's house and offer tea to Weng Gu, and then go back to the man's house immediately or go directly to the restaurant. Couples can also go back to their parents' home the next day, but not more than the third day, which means that the man is dissatisfied with the bride and does not allow the bride to go back to her parents' home. Now most of Huimen's gifts are changed to Li except suckling pig. . _

Reply: 1 (a man sends a woman home): a golden pig, two boxes of cakes, two bottles of wine, a pair of raw chickens, two pounds of pork belly, two baskets of fruit (representing vigorous life), lettuce with head (feng shui), onion (Sanqu), two boxes of pasta (representing lingering love) and two sugarcane with head and tail.

Reply: 2. (Sent from the woman's house to the man's house) Golden pig's head, golden pig's tail, one foot in each hand, half a pig's tongue, a box of cakes, sugar cane with head and lettuce with head. _

Marriage taboo. _

1. On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, her sister-in-law can't see her off, because [her sister-in-law] has the sound of sweeping the stars, which is unlucky. The bride should not have pockets in her clothes when she goes out, so as not to take away the wealth at home. . _

No one can sit in a new bed until the wedding is finished, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be ill in bed all the year round. . _

The bride must wear new shoes on her wedding day, which means throwing away old things. . _

When the bride goes out, she must wear earrings to show her obedience. There are no wearable clip earrings to wear. . _

5. If the elder of the couple has a deceased person, when offering tea, put the tea offered by the couple where they should sit. After offering tea, remove the stool and let the next person sit.