What are the classical wedding customs in Shanxi?

In the old society, the traditional marriage custom in the village was mainly arranged marriage, and the marriage between men and women depended on "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". Generally, men and women start to discuss marriage at the age of sixteen or fourteen. Some people get married as child brides at the age of five or six or as babies. There are even people who get married with their fingertips. Marriage pays attention to the right family, and there are no taboos in birth and animal sign. Weddings generally follow the "six rites".

1. Generally, the parents of the man entrust the media to give gifts to the woman to propose marriage, and all of them are lobbied by the matchmaker and arranged by the parents.

2, asking the name is also called changing the post, commonly known as "taking four pillars." Parents ask each other about their children's age and date of birth, and men and women exchange wedding cards (called wedding papers in the Republic of China) on a certain day.

When Najib and his wife thought it was appropriate, they decided to get married, commonly known as "engagement".

4. Zheng Na is also known as Nabi, commonly known as "winning the prize". The two sides agreed that the bride price will be given to the woman's home by the man's wedding ceremony and the matchmaker, and the woman will hold a banquet.

After the lottery invitation, the man chooses the wedding date and obtains the consent of the woman, commonly known as "seeing the sky".

6. Welcome relatives and folks to call them "wives". When the rich family marries the bride, the man rides in a red-circled sedan chair. In the sedan chair, there is a boy who is in the same position as the bride, wearing a red cross and called "little sedan chair". According to the family situation, prepare to ride Wei Lan sedan chair or animal mount several times. When welcoming the bride, there are red gauze lamps to guide the way, gongs to clear the way and drums. Later, it was accompanied by sedan chairs, food prisons and the wedding farewell of men and women. When they get back from marriage, they get off the sedan chair in front of the gate. Men and women elders will light red lanterns around the sedan chair three times. The sedan chair bearers will carry the inner sedan chair into the gate with the bride. The bride will be helped out by the bride and walk to the gods on the red carpet (cloth) without touching the ground to hold a ceremony in memory of the bride.

The villagers call worshipping the church "worshipping heaven and earth". The groom wears a hat, a Dai Jinhua, a robe and mandarin jacket, and red and green; The bride wears a rockhopper and chardonnay. When the master of ceremonies sings, the newlyweds worship heaven and earth first, then the high hall, and then the husband and wife worship each other and their relatives and friends, commonly known as "four to eight worship." After paying tribute to the bride, the couple entered the bridal chamber hand in hand.

Wedding night, there are folk customs such as disturbing the wedding, teasing the new wife, asking the bride for a "harmonious bun" and listening to the room. At the same time, we should also sprinkle grass, walnuts, dates and peanuts. Entering the bridal chamber means having children early and giving birth to all the children. The next morning, the bride will get safflower rice soup boiled with red beans and millet, and at the same time, the bride will visit her elders with her husband, which is called "Daoxi". In ancient times, after children got married, family members would send meals to their daughters' homes to show their concern and comfort for the newly married girls. Later, meals were delivered in parallel with the farewell ceremony.

When a daughter gets married, the people call it "comforting her daughter". The day after the wedding, the man gave a banquet at Zhang Yue's house to thank the wedding, and the bride and groom went together, commonly known as "please son-in-law". During the dinner, the female parents introduced the bride's relatives and friends to the groom one by one, calling them "recognizing relatives." There was a custom that day that the new son-in-law "stole" things from his father-in-law's house at will. Its meaning not only means that the son-in-law is alert and capable, but also means that "one son-in-law and half" are kind at will in the mother-in-law's house.

In the old society, influenced by feudal economic forms and backward productive forces, the remaining primitive and backward marriage forms in rural areas mainly include:

Concubine means that a man has a wife and then marries a little wife.

A living wife refers to a person who is remarried by her husband after divorce or who sells his wife to others because of gambling and drug abuse.

Recruiting a son-in-law is commonly known as "son-in-law", "inserting the door backwards" and "looking inside" are mostly marriages in which the woman's parents have no children and the man's family is poor. Since the implementation of the one-child family planning policy, it is common for men to go to women's homes.

Swinging relatives originated from the ancient marriage form of exchanging sisters or daughters between clans.

Cousin marriage generally refers to the marriage union between cousins or cousins. I usually go to menstruation's home or menstruation's home to be a daughter-in-law, commonly known as "pro-plus-pro". Because of the taboo of "returning blood", women seldom marry their uncle's son. Since 1970s, this custom of consanguineous marriage, which is harmful to human reproduction and development, has been explicitly prohibited by the people's government.

Snatching marriage is also called infertile marriage. It means that the fiance or his elders hope to comfort them with the joy of the wedding when they are dying, commonly known as "rushing to Xi" If the fiance is bedridden, the woman will hold a rooster as a memorial. If the sick elder has passed away, the funeral room will be covered with red cloth, and the funeral will be held on the day of the wedding, commonly known as "robbing the wedding by mourning."

Ghost marriage is also called "saying that bones are preserved" and "tying yin". First, underage men and women died young, and both parents decided to get married and be buried together; Second, after the unmarried person dies, or the husband dies and the wife gets married, the younger generation or survivors will find a "bone" for them to bury together. If you can't find the "bone-protecting", replace it with a noodle man and a paper man. This custom still exists.

After the founding of New China, the government promulgated the Marriage Law, stipulating that the age of marriage is 20 for men and 0/8 for women. Advocate equality between men and women and autonomy in marriage, and get rid of bad marriage habits such as arranging, buying and selling, concubinage and alimony. With the continuous reform and improvement of the marriage system, especially since the promotion of family planning in the early 1960s, the village has conscientiously implemented the relevant policies and regulations of the state and superiors, broken through resistance, changed customs, and advocated late marriage and late childbirth, with fewer births and better births. After decades of unremitting efforts, the village has gradually formed a healthy and civilized marriage fashion such as marriage autonomy, freedom of love, registered marriage and family planning.