Not a penny less! Mother-in-law's face was dumped: Who was humiliated by the sky-high bride price?

Happy day. Close the door? The news broke as soon as it was searched.

It turned out that a young man in Jiangsu gave his mother-in-law a red envelope of 18 thousand when he picked up his daughter-in-law. Unexpectedly, the latter smashed his face on the spot and refused to let the other party pick up his daughter.

Seeing the groom embarrassed in the same place, relatives and friends all stepped forward to clear the way, but her mother-in-law just wouldn't let go.

Some netizens advised him: Don't be unhappy this day.

Some people also expressed extreme dissatisfaction: Is this selling a daughter?

Some friends don't care much, and old terrier, the bride price winner, strongly appeals to "resist money worship and oppose marriage"!

Marriage, of course, is for happiness, but in terms of wedding preparations, families of both sides often fall into disputes.

Among them, the difference of bride price is particularly obvious.

Break off the engagement without getting married? It sounds incredible, but in reality, the bride price is really a "roadblock". Some had a good chat, and some ended in discord.

Everyone sighed and wondered, is the bride price really unsolvable?

The bride price is not enough, so we get nothing together.

In March this year, everyone heard that Xiao Yang, a 27-year-old boy from Hangzhou, was going to jump into the Qiantang River, right?

At the beginning of the year, Xiao Yang proposed to his girlfriend. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law asked for 700,000 bride price in one breath. Xiao Yang, whose family is average, can't think of any way. Hopeless, he will jump into the river and commit suicide after having a big fight with his parents.

Coincidentally.

At the end of 20 18, a 20-year-old boy drank a bottle of pesticide in the dormitory because he could not get a gift of 654.38 million yuan.

It's amazing that a bride price drives people to commit suicide.

Although I can't agree with my behavior, the bottomless despair makes me tremble across the screen.

Zhihu asked, what should I do if I really can't afford the bride price?

Gao Zan replied: It is really impossible to break up without taking marriage as a bargaining chip.

I feel cold in my heart.

People always say that affection is a necessity for a beautiful marriage, but since the sky-high bride price was born, even affection must be given up in the future.

The bride price is not enough, so we get nothing together.

The temple that speaks for love actually needs money to pave the way.

But will the sky-high bride price definitely make the marriage happier?

Not exactly.

20 18, official statistics of cities with high divorce rate in China, the top cities are Tianjin, Shanghai and Northeast China.

According to 20 17 national bride price ranking statistics, the amount of bride price in Tianjin, Shanghai and some northeastern provinces is actually in the forefront!

No one can tell whether the high bride price on the cusp is "honorable" to marriage or "derogatory" to emotion.

However, in all kinds of "bargaining" you come and go, a good thing becomes ugly.

The sky-high bride price not only failed to decorate the wedding, but also cut the relationship to 708.

And more and more people are beginning to wonder: "What is the bride price for?"

"Fortunately, I figured it out at that time."

The bride price has a long history, which was clearly recorded in the Western Zhou Dynasty.

The ancient book The Book of Rites. "Confused ceremony" uploaded: "People who confuse the ceremony must combine the interests of the two surnames and be the ancestors of the temple, while the next generation is the successor, so the gentleman values it. It is a faint gift. "

When the man intends to marry the woman, it is a bride price to show sincerity.

The earliest record began in the Spring and Autumn Period, and it was recorded that in order to make her daughter live well in her husband's family, the woman would also prepare rich objects as dowry.

Therefore, the bride price and dowry are essentially a kind of ceremony, or the preparation and blessing of the families of both sides to the "new home".

In other words, the bride price is based on the premise of "new home". Once we realize this, we will not break up a good thing because of the bride price.

Negotiating on an equal footing and doing what you can is the beginning of beauty.

Qiu Rong, Xi 'an's sister, was engaged once and spent three years.

After graduating from Qiurong University, she developed in Shanghai. On 20 15, she decided to get engaged to her boyfriend.

Unexpectedly, less than a week after receiving the call, the two old people rushed to Shanghai. After learning that the man couldn't afford to buy a real estate in Shanghai, Qiu Rong's parents kept talking like glue, not mentioning the word "agree", and kept cursing Qiu Rong:

"Are you silly? Why get married without a house? Living in a rented house with his wife and children and looking at other people's eyes? No money for his parents to find a way to go! "

In order to "convince" the unsuitable son-in-law, Qiu Rong's parents simply stayed in Shanghai and secretly asked friends to find boys with good conditions.

Unexpectedly, those who are local in Shanghai, well-off and even willing to transfer their property directly to Qiu Rong were rejected by her.

During the Spring Festival of 20 18, classmates and parents had a talk.

"Mom, marriage can't just talk about money. The economy can be won by two people, and it's useless to push it if others can't come up with so much. Don't we want our sister to be happy? "

Finally, Qiu Rong got engaged with her favorite boyfriend at the end of 20 18 after the parents met and communicated.

During the National Day, the young couple went back to Xi 'an to visit their parents with their dolls with a short full moon. By the way, they just got the hukou book in Shanghai through the down payment.

"Fortunately," Qiu Rong's parents secretly told my classmates afterwards, "fortunately, I figured it out at that time, otherwise I wouldn't have seen such a happy scene."

In fact, the questionnaire network has done a survey on everyone's views on bride price, and the results show that the largest proportion is that both parties reach an agreement, and the amount is not important.

Marriage is achieved after two people have devoted their true feelings and time to brewing. It includes past efforts and a beautiful vision for the future.

If you destroy these just because of the bride price, it is not only harmful, but also short-sighted.

No winner, all losers.

Emotion lost to argument and time lost to money. This account, however calculated, is a kind of compensation.

It is not too difficult to focus on emotions and the future. Unlocking the bride price is the correct posture.

And the essence of family is to move forward hand in hand. Creating a new life is its true meaning.

The appearance of happiness

When it comes to not getting a high price bride price, the love between Nick Cheung and Esther must be calculated.

When I met Nick Cheung, Esther was already the owner of TVB and Hua Dan and a well-deserved sister. And at that time, Nick Cheung is all some walk-on, full-time beaten.

The family circumstances of the two are even more different.

1995, Esther took Nick Cheung home. Just walked to the door, Nick Cheung was fragile to the point of collapse. Esther's house is 400 square meters, and his rental house is smaller than a bathroom there.

Imagine if Esther's parents ask Nick Cheung for a sky-high bride price, I'm afraid there will be one less fairy companion in this world.

In fact, Nick Cheung's acting career was not smooth, and Esther spent a long groping time with him.

She married Nick Cheung, who had nothing, slowed down her career and silently supported him.

When the cooperation between Nick Cheung and Jing Wong was unhappy, it was Esther who encouraged him to take on some decent roles, which contributed to the most critical and successful transformation of the latter.

What about Nick Cheung? Despite repeated failures, he kept putting down his heart to start over.

He worked hard day and night and vowed to get ahead and make some achievements.

When he finally held the Golden Horse Cup, Nick Cheung told about his wife's contribution to the whole stage, and the latter cried with joy.

Therefore, a happy marriage does not depend on the bride price. What does it depend on?

Nick Cheung, who has been a walk-on for more than ten years, is beaten into a dead body every day. Finally, when it was his turn to win the trophy, he said: 10 Even the best actors can't get Esther!

It turns out that long-term love, cooperation, understanding and dedication are what happiness looks like.

In the discussion of Douban Group about gift money, a netizen's point of view was highly praised:

Although the bride price is also a celebration, it is putting the cart before the horse if it threatens marriage.

I'm impressed.

Nash put forward a game theory problem: a cooperation can obviously see a win-win result, and it cannot be carried out just because mutual trust cannot be guaranteed.

Most parents who ask for sky-high bride price are also caught in this game dilemma.

They are too worried that their daughter's efforts in marriage will not be compensated. Based on this distrust, they hope to do it well in advance.

However, this idea seems to be good for the daughter, but in fact, the new family was sentenced to death in advance.

She denies that the new family will have love and responsibility, and she doesn't believe that her daughter will grow up in the new role and gain solid self-appreciation through family cooperation.

Putting the cart before the horse makes the sky-high bride price a "bad hand" to curb the wedding.

Marriage is a beautiful beginning, full of love and hope.

Gift money is a blessing, but it must not be the "executioner" who drags happiness into the water.

If sky-high prices are invisible shackles, it's time to untie them.

Lovers should be well-being, and places of love should be covered with blessings.