How to determine the engagement of Miao nationality in Xiangxi?

After the wine was sung, two wine lovers withdrew from the karaoke bar, and the newlyweds entered the bridal chamber to get married.

Miao Marriage Custom-Moving at Midnight

The marriage of Miao young men and women is mainly independent marriage, which is determined by sociality and romance. Social activities are mostly held on the day of the show or the market. The form is that young men and girls sing, get to know each other's situation and exchange feelings. If the two parties are in love, the man's parents will invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to make peace. Marriage is usually when the bride goes to her husband's house without paying homage. But in some areas, you can take a sedan chair or ride a horse. Xuan En took the bride to her husband's house. You must enter the bridal chamber from the side door, and the "bridesmaid" will toast the bride and groom to show solidarity. The bride in southern Sichuan will enter her husband's house from the east, saying that it is to commemorate the ancestors who came from the east. In some areas of southeastern Guizhou, the husband's family will prepare a pair of cooked carp for the bride, which means that they have become the husband's family. Among some Miao people in Songtao, Tianzhu, Qinglong, eastern Sichuan and Guizhou, the bride will live in her husband's family after marriage. In other areas, I go back to my parents' house on the wedding day or the next day, and then take it for a while during holidays, busy farming seasons or when the Yao family gets married, so I will live in my husband's house for a long time after a few years.

pluck

Guangxi Miao boys pursue the right person, insert a beautiful pheasant feather on the Lusheng, and blow a beautiful tune to the girl. The young man waved the reed and let the pheasant's hair brush the girl's cheek. If the girl is interested, she will dial off the pheasant hair on the lusheng; Otherwise, turn around and walk away.

"Catch relatives" halfway

This custom is popular in Miao areas in western Hunan. When the girl got married, six young girls and a middle-aged woman in her forties formed a farewell party. The wedding procession consists of six boys and two girls. The two teams set out opposite each other at 5 o'clock in the morning. After the meeting, the wedding procession handed the picked glutinous rice to the eldest sister-in-law, who handed the bride's bamboo basket to the wedding girl, and then distributed the glutinous rice to everyone. At this moment, a girl who is getting married said, "Mother-in-law, who is my sister-in-law?" The voice declined, and the girl who saw the bride off tightly surrounded the bride and protected her. Married young men and women tried to "catch" the bride. In the end, the bride was "caught" and the people who saw her off completed the task. The wedding party took the bride away and said goodbye.

Related articles: The wedding date is mostly decided by the man's family, and then the matchmaker is appointed to inform the woman's family several months in advance. As the wedding day approaches, all the girls in the woman's village or the whole family get together for dinner and show off the bride, which is called a "friend banquet". On the wedding day, the woman's family needs to send three kinds of relatives: one is a friend of the bride, an unmarried girl aged 13- 16, who needs to dress up and go with the bride; Second, the bride's brother and 9- 15 young men go with the bride; Thirdly, there are 3-4 men aged around 15 who escort the bride to the vicinity of the man's village. The bride goes to her husband's house for a few days and then goes back to her parents' house. She didn't come to her husband's house until the following February. After two or three years of repetition, a "cooking" ceremony was held. Since then, she can no longer touch her parents' cookstoves and live in her parents' home.

Free love among Miao people is very common. In the process of free love, both parties fall in love and get engaged. On the wedding day, it is up to their parents to decide.

There is also the custom of singing wine songs at Miao weddings. At wedding celebrations, the Miao people's wine songs are often sung in sets. A set of wine songs sung by Miao people in marriage etiquette takes eight or nine hours to finish, sometimes staying up all night. At the wedding, both men and women should send singers to sing wine songs, and the chosen singer is called Grant. Each set of wine songs is divided into nine parts: the first part is the road blocking song (also called the door blocking song). The man's singer came to the woman's thatched cottage, and the woman gathered singers to sing at the intersection of thatched cottage, which was called the road song. The man should skillfully cooperate with the woman's singing, and once he answers the other person's questions, let him go to the cottage. The second part is called "Ten Cut", that is, male and female singers each sing ten songs, reflecting the local conditions and customs of their villages. The third part is called Ye Gong Entering the Ground, which mainly sings about the origin and steep process of ancestors of both men and women. The fourth part is called "The Road to Marriage", which sings the formation and form of ancient marriage etiquette for men and women. The fifth part is called "Three Generations Foundation", that is, both men and women sing the basic information of the father, grandfather and great-grandfather of the newlyweds, so as to deepen the mutual understanding of their in-laws and families. The sixth part is called "Qin Feng". Ge Lang used songs to introduce the love experiences of men and women before marriage, such as how they met, similar to reporting love stories for the groom. The seventh part is called "overdetermination", which represents the elders of both men and women singing their expectations and blessings to the newlyweds. The eighth part is called "thanking the host's family", and the man Ge Lang thanked the woman's in-laws on behalf of the man. The ninth part is called Dragon Boat Song, which is the climax of the whole set of wine songs. Singers from both sides should compete to win or lose in the form of duet, and the singers from both sides will pull the duck while singing duet. The winner will be the Miao people who live in southern Yunnan. There is an interesting activity of kicking shuttlecock among young men and women. Shuttlecock is the kind that people in China use to kick. Badminton board is similar to table tennis bat. When young men and women fight, the losing side should let the winning side "rub its ears", and it is not allowed to resist, but it can run. If the winners and losers don't like each other and it's purely a game, then the winner will rub the other's ears hard until the other's ears are hot. If the fighting men and women love each other, the losing party will take the initiative to let the winning party rub their ears, but the winning party will not rub them hard, but touch each other's ears with a red face. Some people run away when they lose, and pretend to catch up when they win. The two of them ran to an empty place and poured out their hearts.

During the traditional Huashan Festival, young Miao people from Jinping came to Huashan field. This kind-hearted host has already prepared several sets of "earth telephones" for young people, which are made by putting a bamboo tube on oiled paper and then threading the thread into it. Men and women express their feelings in the form of duets, and ask about each other's situation on the "earth phone". When it comes to singing, the young man will give the "microphone" to his partner on one side and peek at the girl himself. If you don't like each other, the song is over. If both sides are satisfied, continue the duet and agree on the place to meet next time.

Miao youth in Rongshui, Guangxi are very popular in the communication activity of "planting peanuts". When going to the village, the boys invited the girls. After the time and place are determined, the girls will come to the boys' village according to the time. They brought farm tools and fertilizers and planted peanuts in the mountains. During the period, young men and women talked and laughed, sang folk songs while working, and contacted each other to explore. After sowing peanut seeds, when the seedlings grow taller, the two sides will organize another fertilization and weeding activity, in fact, in order to create an opportunity to meet. At this time, everyone began to find someone to fall in love with. The third time is when peanuts are harvested in autumn. Everyone invited them to gather peanuts, eat together and whisper together. Those who haven't met yet should seize this last chance.

Marriage of Miao people is generally divided into arranged marriage and free marriage. Arranged marriage is the matchmaker of parents, who are often people who know each other or relatives of each other. When the woman learns about the man, she asks her daughter for advice. When the matchmaker comes back, she will explain whether she agrees or not. If the woman agrees, agree on "bride price money" and engagement date; The man prepares things to go to the woman's house, and the woman's house prepares wine and meat to entertain, which is called "eating new wine". When the male guests leave, the female gives everyone chicken, glutinous rice and a "pepper cloth" belt. Miao girls in western Hunan go out for the first time to make friends with their boyfriends, which is called "behave" or "sneaking around". The direct translation is "Let the eagle fly" and "Pick fruits and seeds". Making friends with girls is called "helping chains and rules" or "sneaking around", which translates directly into "shooting birds and birds" and "climbing flowers and picking flowers"

There are also signs and codes for Miao youth trysts in western Hunan, which are "initiations". As long as the two sides see the grass sign, they will know their whereabouts. When meeting for the first time, if the woman arrives at the appointment place first, she must first leave an initial at the intersection of the appointment place. The meaning of this cursive script is only known to couples who go on a date. It is as magical as a password. But there are also cursive symbols that most people can understand. A knot in one's heart on a handful of grass, a knot in one's heart on the tip of grass, and the grass roots are in the direction of tryst, suggesting that one party will arrive first and the other party will come quickly. When the latter sees this draft, he will leave a knotted draft in the middle of the grass. A draft behind this suggests that passers-by have a lover tryst in the mountains. Please take the main road. When pedestrians see such grass signs, they usually avoid them so as not to bump into other people's seclusion.