How to worship your ancestors when you get married

1. ancestor worship procedures before marriage and parting

Marriage and ancestor worship are one of the important processes in China's traditional marriage customs, which most people attach importance to and observe.

This time-honored custom adds a bit of solemnity to people's festive and lively weddings. To sum up, there are three kinds of situations when you get married and worship your ancestors: First, the groom worships your ancestors.

In the old days, the night before the wedding (or the morning of the wedding day), the wedding host (the groom's father or elder) prepared incense, paper, wax and other sacrifices, and led the groom to the ancestral temple or ancestral grave to burn incense, burn paper and kowtow. The wedding host shouted: "If someone gets married, please let the ancestors go home to eat noodles and drink". In fact, this is also a wish to "pray for the ancestors to bless the marriage of future generations of this family."

During the Cultural Revolution, the ancestral temple was demolished. On the surface, this custom was abolished, but there were some families at that time, and their children secretly worshipped their ancestors at home on the wedding day, just not letting outsiders know. After the Cultural Revolution, especially since the reform and opening up, this custom gradually recovered. According to the old custom, some people go to ancestral graves to burn incense and kowtow to worship, while others bow to worship in front of genealogy or ancestor portraits.

Second, the groom worships the woman's ancestors. In the old days, on the morning of the wedding, the groom got married and came to the woman's house. Accompanied and guided by "welcoming guests with blankets" (the man) and "seeing them off" (the woman), he solemnly bowed down to the woman's genealogy or ancestral tablet.

As a "half child", the groom pays homage to the relatives of the woman's family, which not only shows that he has officially become the closest relative of the woman's family, but also shows respect and memory for the woman's ancestors, which is beyond reproach. Since the reform and opening up, although the old customs still exist, different villages have changed with the passage of time. Now, after entering the door, many grooms have changed from kowtowing with incense to "three bows".

Of course, whether the groom worships after entering the door depends on whether the woman's family is ready to worship. If there is, then worship, if not, then don't. The third is Shangxi's tomb.

The so-called "going to the West Tomb" means that on the night of the first wedding day, or on the morning of the wedding day, Lord xi leads the groom, carries red or pink sacrifices, presses red or pink paper on the grave of the deceased relatives, puts red incense on the grave, burns red or pink paper and "pours" red wine. In the area of Beigou and Daxindian in Penglai, some villages call this memorial ceremony "Shangxi Tomb".

Although the custom of sweeping graves is not common now, it can still be seen in rural areas. Like Tomb-Sweeping Day's grave-sweeping, it is not a feudal superstition, but an opportunity to cherish kinship ties and educate children not to forget "roots", which is completely reasonable and also a concrete manifestation of China's traditional filial piety culture in folk marriage customs.

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2. Ancestor worship procedures before marriage and parting

Marriage and ancestor worship are one of the important processes in China's traditional marriage customs, which most people attach importance to and observe. This time-honored custom adds a bit of solemnity to people's festive and lively weddings.

To sum up, there are three situations of marriage and ancestor worship:

First, the groom worships the family ancestors. In the old days, the night before the wedding (or the morning of the wedding day), the wedding host (the groom's father or elder) prepared incense, paper, wax and other sacrifices, and led the groom to the ancestral temple or ancestral grave to burn incense, burn paper and kowtow. The wedding host shouted: "If someone gets married, please let the ancestors go home to eat noodles and drink". In fact, this is also a wish to "pray for the ancestors to bless the marriage of future generations of this family." During the Cultural Revolution, the ancestral temple was demolished. On the surface, this custom was abolished, but there were some families at that time, and their children secretly worshipped their ancestors at home on the wedding day, just not letting outsiders know. After the Cultural Revolution, especially since the reform and opening up, this custom gradually recovered. According to the old custom, some people go to ancestral graves to burn incense and kowtow to worship, while others bow to worship in front of genealogy or ancestor portraits.

Second, the groom worships the woman's ancestors. In the old days, on the morning of the wedding, the groom got married and came to the woman's house. Accompanied and guided by "welcoming guests with blankets" (the man) and "seeing them off" (the woman), he solemnly bowed down to the woman's genealogy or ancestral tablet. As a "half child", the groom pays homage to the relatives of the woman's family, which not only shows that he has officially become the closest relative of the woman's family, but also shows respect and memory for the woman's ancestors, which is beyond reproach. Since the reform and opening up, although the old customs still exist, different villages have changed with the passage of time. Now, after entering the door, many grooms have changed from kowtowing with incense to "three bows". Of course, whether the groom worships after entering the door depends on whether the woman's family is ready to worship. If there is, then worship, if not, then don't.

The third is Shangxi's tomb. The so-called "going to the West Tomb" means that on the night of the first wedding day, or on the morning of the wedding day, Lord xi leads the groom, carries red or pink sacrifices, presses red or pink paper on the grave of the deceased relatives, puts red incense on the grave, burns red or pink paper and "pours" red wine. In the area of Beigou and Daxindian in Penglai, some villages call this memorial ceremony "Shangxi Tomb". Although the custom of sweeping graves is not common now, it can still be seen in rural areas.

Like Tomb-Sweeping Day's grave-sweeping, it is not a feudal superstition, but an opportunity to cherish kinship ties and educate children not to forget "roots", which is completely reasonable and also a concrete manifestation of China's traditional filial piety culture in folk marriage customs.

3. How to worship ancestors on the wedding day

How do newlyweds worship their ancestors on their wedding day? What products should they prepare? About three animals, well-done pork, a chicken and a fish.

During the whole wedding process, we classified eight kinds of wedding ceremonies and customs according to local customs and habits, hoping that the younger generation will feel timid when they see them, so they are a good standard to follow and have accumulated thousands of years of life experience of our domestic people. (1) On the eve of the wedding: 1. Worship: the man's family should worship heaven and earth and ancestors the day before the wedding to inform the family that there is a happy event coming.

2, sleep in a new bed: the groom must find a man to sleep in a new bed, in order to have children early after marriage. (2) Wedding Day: 1, ancestor worship: The man has to worship his ancestors before he can go out to marry the bride.

2, wedding: the wedding car is even, especially the multiple of six. 3. Firecrackers: In order to celebrate the parade, firecrackers should be set off along the way.

4. Wedding Ceremony: When the limousine arrives at the woman's house, there will be a boy waiting for the groom with a tea tray (with melon seeds and candy on it). At this time, the groom will give the boy a red envelope when he gets off the bus. 5. Ancestor ceremony: offering incense and offering sacrifices to the woman's ancestors to talk about marriage.

6. Grateful ceremony: The bride and groom burn incense to worship their ancestors, and the bride has to bow down to her parents to say goodbye. The groom can only bow and salute. Usually, the bride will endure not to cry before leaving home, and the more she cries, the more sad she will be, and there will be a saying of happiness in the future. 7. Thanksgiving Ceremony: The bride and groom bow down to their parents, who first cover her with the "bride veil" and hold the bride and groom together.

8. admonition ceremony: before the bride gets married, her parents remind her daughter and encourage her son-in-law. 9. Going out: The bride should be escorted on the bus by a female elder with a bamboo curtain, because the bride's position is greater than anyone else on the wedding day and she can't see the sun. 10. Car: A bamboo or sugarcane from root to leaf should be hung in front of the car, and pork and red envelopes should be tied.

On one side of the roof, a bamboo or sugarcane hangs from root to leaf, tied with radish. There is a rice screen with Tai Chi and Eight Diagrams hanging on the back.

(stands for blessing, health and avoiding evil spirits). 1 1, fan worship: Before the bride gets on the limousine, the lucky boy in the zodiac holds a handful of fans (put them on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope as a gift.

12, Don't say goodbye: Never say goodbye to the woman's house when everyone has left. 13. Blessing ceremony: After the bride gets on the limousine, parents should splash a bowl of water, rice and white rice on the bride, indicating that her daughter spilled water, and wish her daughter food and clothing in the future.

14, throwing fans: When the limousine starts, the bride should throw the fans out of the window, which means not to bring her bad temper to her husband's house. 15. firecrackers: on the way to the woman's house, firecrackers will be set off along the road to celebrate. In case of crossing the bridge or another wedding parade, firecrackers will be set off.

When the car arrived at the man's house, the family burned [even guns] to celebrate the news. 16, wedding ceremony: the car arrived, and a child with two oranges greeted the couple. The bride should gently touch oranges and give them a red envelope as a gift. These two oranges should be peeled by the bride at night, which means that they can bring good luck [longevity].

17. Take the bride as an example: the groom pushed the fan on the roof three times and kicked the door three times. When the bride gets off the bus, the good girl or matchmaker will cover it with a rice screen or a black umbrella, drive the car out and help it to the mourning hall. 18, avoid stepping on the threshold: when entering the men's hall, you should step over the threshold and not step on it.

Because the threshold represents the facade, newcomers have to cross it. 19. Step on the tile across the brazier: After the bride enters the hall, she should step on the tile across the brazier.

Passing the brazier means "ward off evil spirits", while stepping on tiles means "the past time is like broken tiles". 20. ancestor worship ceremony: welcome to the ancestor worship ceremony after returning home.

2 1. Tea: The elders of the man's family introduce the bride to his family. This ceremony is to acknowledge that the bride is a member of the family. 22. Worship heaven and earth: the husband and wife worship heaven and earth, the two worship Gaotang, and the husband and wife worship each other and send them to the bridal chamber.

23. Entering the bridal chamber: The newlyweds sit on a bench with the groom's pants in advance, indicating that they will unite from now on and hope to have a son in the future. Then the groom lifts the bride's veil, and the two of them raise their glasses together and eat sweet soup made of black dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, symbolizing "early birth". 24, avoid sitting in a new bed: on the wedding day, no one can sit, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all year round.

25. Wedding reception: After the bride retires from the white gauze dress, she puts on the banquet customer service, makes a toast at a table, and raises a glass in front of relatives and friends. 26. Seeing the guests off: After the wedding banquet, the couple will see them off at the restaurant gate (if there is a water banquet, they will receive gifts and put their photos there), put cigarettes in the tea tray (when someone puts cigarettes in his mouth, the groom will help the other person light them), and like candy, when the guests leave, take them away and say something auspicious.

27. Eat tea: Generally, when the banquet guests leave, the relatives of the man's family who are older than the bride drink the bride's sweet tea and give them red envelopes. At the same time, they say some auspicious words or "four sweet words", such as "the tea tray is round, the sweet tea is sweet, the two surnames are married, and the twins are born at the end of winter", which would be better translated into "Cantonese". 28, make trouble in the bridal chamber: relatives and friends of both sides can make fun of each other, play some jokes or ask them to do something.

29. Door-to-door visit: After the woman's relatives and friends return home, the matchmaker should guide two new relatives into the new house, which is called "door-to-door visit". At this point, the couple stood up to salute the house seeker, and the groom gave the house seeker a big red envelope, and the wedding ended here.

This is the whole process of the wedding! ! ! I hope the above explanation can help you.

4. How to worship ancestors

Due to local customs, the forms of family sacrifices may be different. But the overall process and steps should be similar. Details are as follows:

1, Ji Fen Day

Generally speaking, it is that family members should worship their ancestors. There are many opportunities to worship ancestors, such as ancestors' birthdays, anniversaries, major festivals every year, and important days for future generations, such as birth, birthday, marriage, festivals and so on.

2. Determine the object of ancestor worship

Every day, for some big families, or some big families, there will be a grand ancestor worship ceremony. Speaking of large families, naturally many ancestors will be included in the worship scope. In addition to the rituals and procedures considered in ancestor worship, we can also consider the personality characteristics and preferences of ancestors. Like good wine?

Step 3 prepare sacrifices

Usually there are three cups of rice wine, red candles, chopsticks and spoons. Paper money uses silver paper, towels and clothes. Different places will also prepare local specialties due to different seasons. Such as: cakes, glutinous rice balls, tide cakes, zongzi, fruits, sacrifices, rice cakes, etc. With the times, we will also prepare some paper flowers, paper buildings, paper carts, paper computers and so on. It can be specially equipped according to the wishes of the ancestors.

4. Reasonable placement of sacrifices

Lamp-ancestral tablet-candlestick-sacrificial lamp-three sacrifices (from inside to outside). Ancestor tablets should not be higher than idols, and should not be placed in front of the sacred furnace. Because they belong to yin, they should be lowered and retired. If there are two memorial tablets, the main surname is on the left and the deputy surname is on the right, they should be separated from the incense burner with red silk thread. The number of bowls and chopsticks placed during ancestor worship should be decided by several ancestors, not too many. Scissors, medicine bottles and other sundries are not allowed on God's desk, nor are instruments.

5. Sacrificial ceremony

1) The owner got up early in the morning, including children and grandchildren living in other places and married daughters.

2) Keep the shrine clean and tidy.

3) Burn incense (seven incense for each person), offer tea fruits, and arrange sacrifices such as food, table and rice at noon.

4) The elders pay homage first, and then pay homage one by one in turn.

5) Say the words of sacrifice (old saying).

On a certain day and month of the lunar calendar, it is auspicious, peaceful, prosperous, full of Buddha's light and bright town houses, which will bless the whole family with all the best. Good health, help from noble people, rolling in financial resources, successful career of the whole family, and great achievements. I wish my family happiness, have a beautiful child and have a good time. )

6) finish reading; Pray silently and make a wish for one minute.

7) After the incense is over two-thirds, start to burn paper money, and burn paper money in the order of Da Shou Jin, Shou Jin, Jin Shu and Land Gong Jin.

8) comity and exit.