Kill the chicken to see the eyes of the Miao people

Although Miao people advocate free love, it is not that simple to enter the marriage hall.

Earlier, I talked about the love of Miao people and the responsibility of wizards at Miao weddings. There is still a door between love and wedding, otherwise even if they are forced together, they will not be recognized by both families, and they can only be a pair of floating duckweed couples.

If Miao's brother and sister fall in love, just like Han people, if they want to get married smoothly, they have to go through the "parental barrier". However, unlike the Han people, the Miao people's "parental clearance" depends on "God's will". They must hold a "man-god induction" ceremony and get God's blessing before they can hold a wedding, otherwise they will not be happy.

The so-called "telepathy between man and god" means "killing the goose that lays the golden egg".

In other words, the Miao family's marriage can be divided into "matching" and "recognition". If the young men and women of the Miao family fall in love privately while rushing to the scene, the elder brother will let their parents decide everything about their marriage by "matchmaking", which is called "matchmaking". As for "recognizing relatives", the Miao men and women did not go through "parents' permission and matchmaker's agreement". My brother took A-mei home directly and cooked her with uncooked rice. Therefore, in order to make a living in private, I must ask a respected person in the stockade to talk about this marriage within three days, otherwise the woman can criticize or even smash property in order to protect her family's face!

However, whether it is "matchmaking" or "recognizing relatives", a ceremony of "killing the chicken to see the eyes" should be held to pray for the gods.

Today, I mainly talk about "matchmaking".

My brother's family will choose an auspicious day, matchmaker and parents, and bring a hen or two chickens, one male and one female, to A-mei's house to talk about marriage.

As soon as the matchmaker enters the door, he will smile and say to the hostess, "Wu (a respectful name for the old woman in Miao language) has come to your house to find a drink." I heard that your wine is very mellow! "

As soon as the hostess saw the war situation, she twisted a big hen and knew that she was here as a matchmaker. She replied, "I'm afraid my wine is too weak for anyone to drink!" "

The matchmaker went on to say, "Nonsense! It is said that your wine is sweet and delicious, so I came here specially! "

At this point, all the words are code words. My brother's matchmaker and parents haven't come in yet.

At this point, A-mei's mother will come straight to the point and ask, "Which VIP wants to drink my light wine?"

The matchmaker will introduce the parents and family background of the man. As for how to say it, that is the level of the matchmaker.

All this, if there are clueless Han Chinese present, I'm afraid I really think it's the Miao people who have come to visit relatives. Someone heard a joke in Miaojiang: Two China businessmen came to Miaozhai, hungry and thirsty. It happened that their goods were exchanged for some local chickens and ducks, so they wanted to exchange local chickens for some drinks. They knocked on the door of a Miao family at random. It happens that there is a girl who is going to marry in this family. They have informed their parents that a matchmaker has come to the door in recent days. After several conversations between the two sides, the Han people thought that the Miao people were polite, so they repeatedly praised the good drinkers. Although there are some inappropriate places between words, they basically conform to the customs of the Miao family. The hostess disliked her when she saw that she was a Han Chinese. Because of my daughter's kindness, I let them in without asking about my family. It was not until we killed the chicken that the joke came out. The two were driven out of Miao village because they almost got married by mistake.

After talking for a long time, what does it mean to kill the goose that lays the golden egg?

This has to start with the matchmaker and his brother's parents entering the house. After listening to the man's family background, the hostess feels good and will say the word "where did she go", which shows that she is suitable. Then, she will invite the man and his party into the house and say that she will ask her ancestors what they mean. At this point, Miao Yuanyang's marriage has basically no obstacles. As long as he resigned himself to fate, everything will be fine.

Next is the highlight, kill chicken, roast chicken, look at the eyes. There are two ways to say this. One is that the man gives the big hen to the woman, and the woman kills and cooks the chicken, and then both sides watch; Second, the man killed and cooked the chicken in the woman's house, and the woman kept observing, and then the two sides looked at each other. After many inquiries and judgments, some people think that it is fair and just for the man to kill chickens and cook in the woman's house and the woman to supervise it.

Why, this process is completely operated by the woman or the man in private. If either the woman or the man does not fear the gods and artificially interferes with the eyes of the chicken during the process of killing or cooking the chicken, then the marriage is unclear.

Kill the chicken to see the eye, that is, after the chicken is cooked, under the witness of both men and women, pick up the head of the chicken and see the eye.

If the chicken's left and right eyes are opened or closed at the same time, and they are opened and closed symmetrically, it will be extremely lucky. The woman will promise the marriage face to face, and then the two sides agree on an auspicious day to get married and become a happy marriage. Auspicious days are usually set on "noon day" or "sub-day", which the Miao family thinks are auspicious days.

If the chicken's left and right eyes are open and closed, it is unlucky and the marriage is not blessed by God. In detail, if the left eye is closed, it is not good for the woman; The right eye is closed, which is not good for the man, just the opposite of the Han nationality's male left and female right. In this way, the hostess will not agree to this marriage, and will find reasons to politely decline.

If the left and right eyes of a chicken are high and deep, it is a sign of great evil. No matter which side, men and women, as long as they believe in Miao God, they will not be entangled. Immediately, the matchmaker left with the man's parents, and the woman did not say much about staying.

Of course, if things don't go well and both men and women don't want to give up this marriage, they can try again in some enlightened scenic spots, which is why they can bring "two chickens".

In other words, if the first hen's eyes are not open and closed properly, the woman can agree to kill the rooster again at the special request of the man. If the man does not bring a rooster, the rooster can be produced by the woman, but it is still killed by the man and observed by the woman.

If the second Coney elephant still doesn't work, and the marriage breaks down, both sides think it's fate, and God won't allow it.

If the second corn elephant opens and closes together, the marriage will still be blessed by the gods and recognized by the family, although there are twists and turns.

As for the "recognition" of cooked rice cooked with raw rice, the same is basically true. However, if you don't get Geely's eyes, A-mei has already entered someone else's house, and the woman is embarrassed by her face, then she will have to go to great lengths again ... If there is an opportunity, let's talk again.

Jiang Bin's Self-evaluation: Free Love or Divine Blessing? After all, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a result of love. Miao people advocate free love, but they are a people who believe in witchcraft and gods. They will inevitably encounter such "signs" on the road of love. Nowadays, there are not many people who can really "kill the chicken and see the wrong eye" in the Miao marriage. Like other kings, as long as you have the same temperament and get the blessing of your family, it is the best and greatest "revelation."