What are the four boxes of gifts when you get married?

According to the marriage custom in China, the bride who has been married for three days is convenient for the groom to go back to her parents' home together, which is called three-day return. The bride's parents and elders attach great importance to the three-day return visit.

The things you need to prepare when you return home are as follows:

▲ Alcohol and tobacco

Maybe the woman's parents don't have the habit of smoking and drinking, but they should also express their feelings, because this is the traditional marriage custom. Don't think that if you don't smoke, you won't buy it. This is a taboo and will be regarded as impolite by your wife and parents.

▲ holiday gifts

If it happens to be a holiday, you need to buy holiday gifts, such as moon cakes in the Mid-Autumn Festival and zongzi in the Dragon Boat Festival.

▲ Fruit milk

You can bring some fruit and milk, which shows that you are very sensible. Although this gift is common, it also shows your intention.

After getting married in the countryside, the groom will accompany the bride back to her mother's house three days later. This is a rule handed down from a long time ago. We call this rule Huimen, which is a traditional marriage custom in China! Huimen was also called mothering in ancient times. The earliest statement came from The Book of Songs: Is it harmful to Huan? Motherly parents. Filial piety means going back to your mother's house! This kind of marriage custom is found all over the country, but the time of returning to the door is different in different regions, usually on the third day, the sixth day, the seventh day, the eighth day and the ninth day, but some return to the door the next day, and some return to the door after the full moon!

On the return trip, the groom will accompany the bride, so it is also called double return trip, which means in pairs. For the first time, I really went back to my parents' home to visit relatives! At this time, there are naturally corresponding etiquette. For example, when the groom meets the bride's parents, he should change his voice and call them parents, and the bride should put on the so-called back door outfit. The groom should also try to leave a good impression on the bride's parents at this time, so prepare gifts that parents-in-law like! My parents-in-law will also hold a luxurious banquet for the groom, called the back door banquet! However, the newlyweds must get back to the groom's house before sunset, because there is a saying that the new house can't be idle for a month, and it is easier to have a baby boy in some areas! If it is too far away from home, husband and wife should sleep in separate rooms to avoid rushing to their parents' home!

Huimen is a very traditional custom in our country, but it is not vulgar, but represents the yearning of married daughters for their parents and their concern for marrying abroad! Although the wedding ceremony has become more and more simple and some vulgar customs have been removed, Huimen is still an important part of our marriage!