What do you mean by "three decisions and six rituals" that are still there today, but I have disappeared from the sand palace in those days?

The three covenants and six rites are still there today, but the significance of keeping the sand palace in those days was that in ancient times, when the man got married, the woman had to keep the sand to show that the woman was a virgin. Now the man has to pay a dowry when he marries a wife, but the woman has no palace sand (indicating that the woman is no longer a virgin).

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Steps to get married in ancient times:

1, Nacai

Na Cai is the first of the six gifts, which means that the man's family asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family, and the woman's family promises to propose marriage, and the man's family prepares gifts. When the man's family receives gifts, he should give the woman about 30 kinds of auspicious gifts.

Step 2 ask the name

The title is the second of the six rites, that is, after the woman's parents accept the proposal, the woman's family will bring her daughter's age eight characters back to the man's family, so that men and women can sit in the right place and predict good or bad luck in the future.

3. Najib

Naji, also known as Wen Ding, is the third of the six rites. After receiving Geng Tie, he will put Geng Tie in front of the gods or seek good or bad luck in the ancestral case to ensure that the characters of the two sides do not conflict. After learning that there are no signs of conflict between the two sides, they will prepare gifts to inform the woman's family and decide to get married.

4. Zheng Na

Levy, also called collecting money, is the fourth of the six gifts, that is, the man's family gives the letter of appointment and the gift book to the woman's family. One month to two weeks before the wedding, the man's family will ask two or four female relatives (must be Quanfu) to make an appointment with the matchmaker and bring the bride price, gift money and dowry to the woman's family; At this point, the woman needs to return the gift.

5. Please make a date

Invitation day, also known as notification day, is commonly known as choosing a date and the five of the six ceremonies, that is, the auspicious day when the man chooses to get married, preparing gifts to inform the woman's family and obtaining her consent.

Step 6 welcome in person

Kissing, also known as welcoming the bride, is the sixth of the six ceremonies, which means that on an auspicious wedding day, the groom will wear a dress and personally take the matchmaker, relatives and friends to the bride's house. Before the groom goes to the woman's house, he needs to go to the ancestral temple of the woman's house and then send the bride to the man's house in a sedan chair. After the ceremony of offering sacrifices to heaven, land and ancestors, the male family was sent to the bridal chamber.