How did you get married?

If it were not for very special reasons, most people would still choose to get married and have children, a path that ordinary people have been taking for thousands of years.

Although everyone in this passerby is walking, how to walk, how to walk, is this world, like a hundred flowers blooming, there are many different versions, leading to different endings. To sum up, it is probably like this:

First, I'm tired of playing, so I don't want to play.

An alumnus of my hometown, a boy, is very handsome and has heavy eyebrows. In that country, no matter how the sun shines, he is a white face and full of books. I wonder how many sisters and brothers fell in love with him. Many girls fell in love with him when he was young. He also enjoyed the feeling of "among flowers" and stepped into the society after graduation. Good-looking people also have more employment opportunities than ordinary people, but it is precisely because he is handsome that he thinks this is an eternal advantage, so he takes advantage of others' goodwill and takes ready-made easy jobs again and again, but it doesn't last long. After three to five months, they changed jobs. Everywhere he went, a group of girls surrounded him, caring for him, washing his clothes, and even living together to lead an emperor. Until one day I entered the pyramid scheme. After entering the pyramid scheme dens, he swore to his old father who had planted land in the countryside all his life: You give me this money and I will start a business. If I fail, I will follow your arrangement. You told me to go on a blind date, I got married, and you told me to have children. Anyway, I will listen to you. The old father is worried that the child is 27.8 years old and has not stabilized. Children of the same age are playing soy sauce. Now he suddenly said so obediently that he would obey the family arrangement, and when his face lit up, he took the money to gamble with him. As a result, he lost everything and he came back quietly. Blind date, marriage, having children, all at once. Stay quietly in the country, open a canteen, eat three meals a day and play small cards.

? The second is forced to get married and resign.

? In the first year of graduation, there was a colleague who had a low academic background and no skills, and was a little honest and simple. Although he is in a big city, his own conditions make it very unlikely that he will meet a good partner in the workplace. His family urges him badly, and it is unbearable to make a phone call every day, so he has to go through blind date. Everyone in my hometown knows everything, and the matchmaker blew it, both sides.

When he became a matchmaker and both parents met, he asked for leave to go back and see the rich domestic girl who was very satisfied with his parents. He doesn't have any warm-hearted thoughts, and he doesn't have any special antipathy. It seems that this is the case. But parents feel good, that's good. Let's put the wedding on the agenda. He nodded and agreed to live with the woman who had only met once and whose parents thought she could live a lifetime. Then he went back to work in a big city. Suddenly one day, his family called and said it was an auspicious day. On this day, he will register for marriage, and he will be very happy. He asked him to come back and get a marriage certificate. More than a decade ago, there was no high-speed rail and no bullet train, so ordinary wage earners would not choose to fly, only the train that made your legs numb, so he couldn't come back this auspicious day. He wants to persuade his parents to change the wedding date. Who knows? The final result was that the civil affairs department at that time was also lax in management, so his old father took on this responsibility and signed his name on the marriage certificate. Later, I was often laughed at by us: I didn't personally sign the once-in-a-lifetime thing. A few years ago, I went to Macau once, and I deliberately passed by the city where we worked together. Several old colleagues I haven't seen for n years met and saw that he had all the characteristics of a middle-aged man: a full beer belly and a receding hairline. Between talking and laughing, he showed a strong desire to have a son. He has given birth to two princesses, but he is unwilling, because he feels that he has no son and is sorry for his ancestors. This is nonsense. Your ancestors didn't need you to do this. I just feel a little sorry for his wife.

? Third, Fengzi married type.

China's marriage and love environment has changed from the form of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" to the form of free love, so marriage and love will no longer be so rigid. Young men and women are congenial and decide their own marital affairs. Parents' opinions are for reference only. When they decide to marry (marry) this person, parents generally don't interfere and object strongly.

? Therefore, the phenomenon of cohabitation before marriage is relatively common (few people try to get married without cohabitation before marriage), and cohabitation before marriage can easily lead to a result-pregnancy. What should I do if I am pregnant? Except for a few irresponsible people who choose to escape, most people will choose to have children and get married. Anyway, they are getting married. Now that they have children, let's get married. Parenting in a passive environment. This kind of marriage has become very common. A friend, who graduated from high school, 18.9 years old, went out to work with her puppy love boyfriend on campus. She got pregnant soon, came back to get married, and became a parent in her early twenties. Now the children are teenagers and divorced a few years ago. The reason is: personality incompatibility. Isn't that a little ridiculous? When I was young, I loved each other, but when I was old, I said that my personality didn't get along. Now, they have formed their own families, and their lives are ordinary and satisfying.

? ? Fourth, stalking and beating.

? In love and marriage, people who like to entangle and fight are determined and thick-skinned, and generally have nothing to lose, and may even win back beautiful women.

A few years ago, I worked in a small company downtown. There is a director of a small department, from a minority in the depths of the mountains. He looks ordinary, and his Mandarin makes people know what he is talking about. As soon as he joined the work, his sister who came out of Bashu was targeted by him. The dark-looking male colleague didn't interest the female colleague at all. His income is not high, his appearance is average, and his hometown is deep in the mountains. He is over 30 years old, and he doesn't see any room for promotion in his career. If you follow him, you will either drift from place to place in a big city for a lifetime, or work at sunrise in the depths of the mountains, rest at sunset, have children, and eventually become husband and wife. So at first, no matter how the male colleague chased her, he ignored her and sent breakfast without eating; Send midnight snack, don't eat; Say hello to her, turn your head to one side ... Maybe it's "Where does Jincheng go? Where does the stone open?" Maybe it's that work and life are really boring, and there's nothing good after work, so I started to make do with watching movies together, eating a snack, going shopping and talking about 7788. It seems ok. Male colleagues try their best to please female colleagues, so please go out early and come back late, be caring and attentive. Before a group of our colleagues could react, suddenly one day, they took over, and the two of them were all smiles. Not long after, both of them resigned, saying that they were going to get married in their hometown. I don't know who is married. Anyway, it was not long before I saw them again. The little pink face in the stroller is sleeping soundly, and the inconvenient body of the female colleague also tells us that the second baby is ready to give birth. At that time, I was thinking: If this continues, how can China have an aging population? )

? Five? Small kindness and small benefit type

? There has always been an enduring topic on the Internet: the daughter must be raised well and let her see the world more. That she will be abducted by a plate of fried powder from a bad boy when she grows up.

What about this? Not rough. Many immature feelings begin with such small favors.

In Origin and Fate, girls who don't get much attention and love will be particularly eager to be concerned when they grow up, and they will mistake a little warmth of others for the whole of love, and then they will cling to the truth and think it is this person. Without considering all aspects of life.

There was a lovely female colleague in the company before, and two male colleagues were chasing her at the same time. Male colleague A is an honest Mu Na type and a real person. He thinks that life has just passed, slowly establishes feelings with his female colleague, and then naturally marries. Male colleague b is much more slick, and he is full of tricks all day long. From time to time, he spends a few dollars to buy an ice cream to amuse this female colleague, and then after he finishes his work, he eats a luxurious western food with her to make this girl run around. The most important thing is that after he paid his salary once, he bought a necklace for his female colleague as a birthday present in public, which was inherently lacking in care. At the same time, his vanity was satisfied. Needless to say, I got married after that. But this kind of marriage without emotional foundation and material foundation is easy to shake, and life is often a chicken feather. Not long ago, I heard from my colleagues that they didn't find the skills to make a living after returning to their hometown. They live a small life and have a hard time. Men, women and children in Chaoshan play Mark Six Lottery, but the young couple are not happy. If they win, they will have a big meal. If you lose, make a meal.

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In addition to the marriage methods summarized above, of course, there are many, such as falling in love and getting married seriously; And childhood friends. There are also people who fall in love online and rush headlong into it; .....

? In any case, marriage is a matter worth taking seriously. If you choose, you must manage and treat it carefully.

But not a necessity in life. It can be a choice. If you don't choose marriage, you can devote all your energy to your favorite life. You don't have to get married as long as you don't violate social morality and violate the law and discipline. You don't need to owe your family an explanation and confession, and you don't need to apologize to the society.

I hope you choose marriage because you love each other and are willing to spend your life together through thick and thin, instead of being kidnapped by public opinion and family expectations and choosing marriage. I wish you a happy marriage.

I hope you choose not to get married because you are highly responsible for yourself and don't want to be bound by secular traditions, not because you have to choose not to get married. May you be wonderful in your world.

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