What are the rules of engagement?

Engagement, first of all, is to propose. Marriage proposal includes the custom of "fixing age" Fixed age refers to the marriage contract concluded by parents for unborn children. "Agreed age" includes marriage and early marriage; After the proposal, if the woman's family agrees after listening to the details of the man, an engagement ceremony will be held, with a "small wine ceremony". The date of "small wine ceremony" should be reported to the woman's house after the man's house has chosen an auspicious day. The man bears all the expenses of the "small wine ceremony". The woman's grandparents, parents and uncle attended the funeral. The man has the best man, a suitor (some suitors don't go), two officials and an old man with the same birthday as the sacrificial rites go to the woman's house, and there is also a gift giver (toast). The date of the "big wine ceremony" was agreed at the banquet. The date of the big wine ceremony is decided by the man asking the Lama to choose an auspicious day. All expenses shall be borne by the man. After the banquet, the main figures of both sides set up special seats again and agreed to ask the man for the number and type of bride price. And initially agreed on the wedding date, the specific date please Lama or Mr. North Korea to choose. At the "big wine ceremony", the man, regardless of seniority, led the groom to toast in turn. After the toast, the girl's sister-in-law gave the groom the boots (mostly boots with shoes in summer) and purses made by the girl herself. At the end of the banquet, the woman's family should at least prepare towels, hada and other gifts in return for the man. And according to the number and types of bride price, the "big wine gift" is agreed. After the bride price is ready, the man, led by the matchmaker, goes to the woman's house with others to send the bride price. The woman's house is very hospitable. At the banquet, speakers from both sides entertained their speeches with humorous and praising songs to celebrate. Traditional engagement gift

1, universal gift

Cooked offerings: a broiler (a hen that is about to lay eggs but has not yet laid eggs), a fish, a piece of meat and an altar of rice wine, which symbolizes marriage and career, warns women of virtue and auspicious family, and expects to be a good wife and mother.

Four-color sugar: orange cake, winter melon sugar, rock sugar and candy, which symbolize sweetness, growing old together and infinite happiness.

Incense gun and candle gold: incense (boneless and green), firecrackers (big firecrackers and cannons) and candles (dragons and phoenixes in pairs are happy candles) are used to worship ancestors, wish each other good luck and peace, increase happiness, reunite the two families and revitalize the cause.

Fight for 2 meters: the man prepares glutinous rice 12 Jin, sugar 3 Jin 22 Liang, and makes red dumplings for the woman, which means round and beautiful.

Face line: it symbolizes the marriage of two surnames, a happy marriage, long-lasting blessings and endless happiness for future generations.

Fuyuan: longan and dried longan are used to bless the prosperity of future generations, which contains the meaning of dragon inheritance, complete happiness, handed down from generation to generation and endless life.

Top cloth: It's a gift from both men and women. The man has six kinds of gifts, and the woman returns 12 to 16. The selected gifts are essential for daily life, which means good luck and happiness.

2. Special gifts

Half-pig: Half-cooked pork or foreign ham (eighteen or thirty-six) to show rich and sincere respect.

Raw chickens: castrating six chickens means that the marriage foundation is permanent, peaceful inside and outside, and full of vitality.

3. Fresh fish: There are six rare fresh fish, which means that there is more than one head and one tail every year.

4. Good wine: 24 bottles, meaning 24 solar terms a year are safe and full of love.

Top line: indicates the length of the blessing newspaper.

3. * * * Bring gifts

Large-scale use: traditional banks pay attention to money and generally choose new banknotes wrapped in red paper. The gifts given by the man to the woman are: clothes, purses, shoes, belts, watches, bracelets, earrings, headdresses, cosmetics, bedding, headscarves, stockings, tea sets, sewing boxes, etc. The gifts the woman gives the man are shoes, belts and wallets.

Small order: select new banknotes circled on red paper, with large quantity and small order.

Gold ornaments: gold rings, bracelets, necklaces or diamond necklaces, diamond rings, etc.