Help: Are there any specific customs and requirements for Bai people to marry their daughters?

Bai brides have to cry all the way to the man's house when they get married. When the bride enters the bridal chamber, she must be assisted by the groom and have a toast with Chili noodles. Eating Chili noodles means kissing each other and growing old together.

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The Bai people living by the lake in Jianchuan County have unique customs. The wedding here is grand, warm and full of charm.

Young men and women of Bai nationality have certain etiquette and complete wedding forms when they get married. Weddings usually last three days. On the first day, the man sent some wedding supplies and a table of "eight bowls" to the woman's house to show his concern for the bride. The next day's wedding is the climax of the whole marriage; The third day is the "back door", that is, the wedding is over.

On the wedding day, according to the traditional custom, the groom and the boys must get married on a big horse, and the bride must get married in a sedan chair. This custom has changed a lot now. This is the result of the economic development and the improvement of living standards in Bai areas in recent years.

After the bride marries back, she holds a wedding in accordance with the traditional habits of the Bai people, commonly known as "worshipping guests". When "visiting guests", according to the list of "visiting guests" drawn up by the man in advance, the bride and groom pay homage to their elders one by one, without any omission. After that, the bride will give presents to her family. According to custom, the bride's gift to her family must be her own embroidered pillow and cloth shoes. When eating, the bride and groom should accompany their relatives and friends to eat together. At this time, guests can ask the newlyweds some questions and perform programs. The room was filled with cheers and laughter.

In the evening, the groom's family once again invited the elders in the village to drink, sip tea and eat sugar. The yard was full of laughter and excitement. Children are often unwilling to be lonely, looking for the gap in the bridal chamber to light Chili powder and fan cigarettes desperately. So, with laughter and coughing, the new house sent out bags of candy, biscuits and melon seeds. ...

On the day of "returning to the door", the bride returned to her family early. In the evening, the husband's family sent a sister-in-law and an introducer to pick up the bride, and then the bride had to leave her family in tears. The bride's crying is generally carried out according to the unique crying cavity of Bai women. Her voice is sad, euphemistic and touching, pouring out the gratitude of her parents and the feelings between her brothers and sisters.

Interestingly, on the day of "returning home", the groom will invite more than a dozen relatives and friends to the woman's house, but he doesn't have to take his sister-in-law and references, and he doesn't have to touch the bride. According to the traditional customs of the Bai nationality, the groom and his relatives and friends can hide things at the banquet hosted by the woman's house. The woman's family also specially put an extra pair of chopsticks on the dining table for the groom to hide, which means: you have added people to your family, bring a pair of chopsticks back! When the groom and others hide things, it is the most lively moment at the bride's house. The clever answers in the hall are full of fun, adding a unique festive atmosphere to the wedding day by day. Relatives, friends and others can exchange hidden things for the bride's gifts when they return to the man's house. This custom not only adds strong national characteristics to the growing marriage, but also lays a good foundation for the bride to live in a new environment in the future.

Bai Wedding Someone once said in a word that attending the wedding of Bai people in Dali area can not only taste the famous special food and delicacies of Bai people, but also see colorful national costumes and experience a rare and interesting unique national customs.

The marriage of Bai nationality is monogamous. In the past, most marriages were arranged by parents, and the man had to pay an expensive bride price, and it cost a lot of money to hold a wedding. Although it has been greatly improved with the development of the times, it still retains the traditional and ancient customs.

After a man and a woman are freely in love or introduced, and have been engaged to determine the relationship, when they get married, the man should ask someone to set up a colorful shed before the wedding day. And the night before the wedding, people who can sing and act in the village should be invited to sing (commonly known as bench play, that is, one person plays the piano, several people play different roles as singers or ask people to sing tunes to congratulate (that is, suona accompaniment), Big Ben Zhong Xian and so on. People eat, drink and taste fruits and tea prepared by their hosts. Drinking and singing until midnight, all the people present, men, women and children, ate a bowl of Yuanxiao to celebrate this happy reunion in advance.

The next day, a happy day, the guests began to hold a banquet in the morning. When the guests began to taste fruit wine and enjoy delicious food, the groom, accompanied by the accompanying Lang, stepped on the music of "Longteng" played by suona and toasted the guests table by table. This kind of respect requires both hands to kneel on the tray to toast and drink (only a plate or a bowl of tea). In some places, the groom does not go to the wedding, and the accompanying lang and daughter are led by the matchmaker to attend the wedding in the sound of suona. At the door of the woman's house, the suona player had to play cheerful and enthusiastic music such as "Bees Crossing the River", "Line-up" and "Wedding Reception" for six times before several elderly male and female relatives came out to welcome the newcomers. However, interestingly, in some places, wedding guests were just about to enter the door when they were stopped by several old people in the woman's house, using several pairs (that is, couplets) or asking some unexpected questions, such as: "Where are you from?" "What did you meet on the road?" Let the matchmaker or groom answer. People call this custom "road test". This kind of question and answer should not only be resourceful, but also pay attention to decision-making. It is witty, interesting and knowledgeable. If either party can't respond immediately; It often causes a hearty and pleasant laugh. In some places, the groom had to attend the wedding, and he also met a "road test". People call it "uncle test" or "groom test".

After the wedding guests come in, four or six little boys will offer them bitter tea, sweet tea and sugar tea one by one. Then, the matchmaker (or groom) visits the bride's parents, siblings and elders, and the bride's parents dress the children in red. At this time, the newly-married bride (bride) is going to cry loudly. People call this kind of crying "crying marriage". Generally, you cry your parents first, then your brother, sister-in-law, elder and female companion. This cry is not only crying, but also singing the thoughts of parents' upbringing and brother and sister-in-law in segments. I don't know what to do with my sister-in-law's affection, my partner's friendship, and the care and care of my elders. If I have a disagreement with my sister-in-law, I will take this opportunity to cry, sing out my grievances with music, and then go out with the people who say hello. On the way to the groom's house, in some places, the bride takes a sedan chair or rides a horse and goes on her way to the cheerful and exciting music.

Before the wedding procession returned to the man's house, the elders of the man's house had already greeted him at the door. As soon as people enter the door, the new wife will go upstairs to dress up surrounded by bridesmaids and elders. While the bride is getting dressed, the person who is going to give the bride some pointers is already waiting at the necessary position under the stairs leading to the new house. It is said that this bride's custom has been handed down for happiness. Before the bride was dressed up and ready to enter the bridal chamber, I saw two boys aged about 65,438+00 holding torches lit by Song Ming and flying into the bridal chamber from the stairs with people's joy. Then the new wife, surrounded by two bridesmaids, strode into the bridal chamber, and people were scrambling to pinch the bride, laughing and laughing. There is a saddle on the threshold of the bridal chamber, a sieve on the door, and a mirror in it. There is a bow on the mirror, and three arrows are scattered side by side and fired forward. These mascots are to congratulate a couple for their efforts and courage in the future. A symbol of happiness. Shortly after the bride entered the bridal chamber, she began to hold a ceremony to worship heaven, earth and parents. In some places, before entering the bridal chamber, there are ceremonies to worship heaven, land and parents. In some places, when a couple enters a new house, they are both fighting for pillows, which is very interesting. It is said that whoever sits on the pillow first will be the future owner. However, this only adds joy to humor, and women often take the lead, and they also pursue and conform to the traditional habits of male dominance and female dominance. However, at this moment, I don't know who is running Chili noodles in the warm and prosperous charcoal fire. The pungent smell made the bride and groom cry, stopped sniffling and yawning from time to time, made the people inside and outside the bridal chamber laugh, and filled the bridal chamber with a unique exultation. After a burst of laughter, the spicy taste was choking, and the husband and wife drank a glass of wine to show mutual respect and love. At night, in some places, the new bride consists of two elders of the woman, several bridesmaids and several elders of the man's family, and eats a "witch seat" (that is, the bride seat). After the banquet, some places began to hold "worship ceremony" (that is, worship ceremony) in the cheerful spray. "Worship" means that the new wife worships the man's elders. Everyone who is worshipped by her will get a pair of cloth shoes made by herself. When the older generation takes over the shoes, they will give her a few dollars or a small gift. Finally, the younger generation of the bride and the children of the neighbors worship the bride together, and everyone will get a lucky money or a gift. At this time, the old man is smiling, the young man is in high spirits, and the onlookers often burst into happy laughter in the suona sound; This added a lot of joy and warm atmosphere to the wedding. After the "worship", young people crowded into the bridal chamber together, tasted the fruit brought by the new wife's house, and began to engage in funny activities in the bridal chamber with laughter.

The next day, the man's house saw XiShen off, and the woman's house picked up the couple, usually returning on the same day and staying at her parents' house for a long journey. At this point, the wedding is over.