What are the traditional rules for Suzhou people to get married?

There are many "flower heads" in Suzhou (2009-04-07

12: 14: 10) Label: Hehe Erxian

dowry

bridesmaid

Suzhou

culture

Classification: self-cultivation

Ancient and modern customs are the same.

○ Reporter Yan Hui

Intern Qiu Lei

When couples get married, every place has its own wedding customs. Suzhou people's traditional custom of wearing many "flower heads" in marriage has not disappeared because of time, and many wedding customs have been completely passed down. Shen Jiandong, a researcher at Suzhou Folk Museum, said, for example, the wedding date must be a "good day" and the bride should choose an "auspicious time" to go out. At present, even if it is a modern wedding that combines Chinese and Western cultures and blends the old with the new, Suzhou's traditional marriage customs still permeate the whole wedding process.

Dowry Dowry is a necessary condition for a girl to get married. The more dowry, the better. In old Suzhou, the wedding custom was that the daily necessities were arranged by the woman. Up to now, dowry is mainly daily necessities and household appliances, but it is basically an "old doorway" passed down from ancient times. Some things in the dowry are very important: the bucket of the children and grandchildren who receive the dowry is essential. Generally, the bride's brother or younger brother is the first to enter the new house, but this household item, which was originally used for living, has now been miniaturized into a decoration several times smaller than in the past; In addition, the wishful bowls and chopsticks in the new house are essential. The bowls must be filled with rice, longan, red dates and peanuts, which means happiness and is a sincere blessing from the elders to the newcomers. A pair of sugar cane tied with HongLing at the end also symbolizes the rising life and career of new people.

In ancient times, it was called "getting married", which meant that the groom rode a burly horse to meet the bride in person, which was very imposing. There are Jiangnan Sizhu and other bands in the wedding procession, playing and beating all the way to the bride's house. When the bride's family heard the music, they knew that the groom's official would arrive immediately and make preparations in time. The wedding hostess who specially arranges the wedding will point out when and when the sedan chair should stop at the "Happy God Square" and where to splash the washing water after the bride is dressed up ... This is how the saying of "splashing water on a married woman" came about, and "splashing water" is still preserved as a traditional wedding custom in many parts of Suzhou.

When the groom arrived at the bride's house, the bride's house quickly closed, and relatives and friends asked the matchmaker and the bride to "ask for money" and candy to win the lottery; The groom's official should prepare hoofs, round cakes, carp and other gifts and bring them to the bride's house with the wedding procession to honor her parents-in-law.

Although there are no marooned and bamboo bands, wedding motorcades, firecrackers, relatives and friends begging for red envelopes at the door and so on. It also makes the atmosphere of the wedding banquet lively.

When the bride goes out, her feet can't touch the ground. When going out, her father carries her out, or she just wears her father's shoes to the door and then puts on her own shoes. In some places, there is a saying that brides can't bow their heads and change their shoes. She can put a pair of her father's shoes over her shoes and take them off at the door.

Welcome the bride and groom, take the bride back to the man's house and invite him.

Worship parents, heaven and earth, and harmony two immortals, among which harmony two immortals is a unique custom in Suzhou. According to legend, the two immortals of Harmony are the eminent monks of Hanshan Temple, who are in charge of harmony. In the eyes of the older generation, they are Suzhou's "God of Love". Now it is generally simplified as the bride's greeting to the groom's parents and elders.

In the bridal chamber of old Guang Chen, after the banquet, the bride and groom were escorted to the bridal chamber and began to enjoy themselves. "Sit" is exquisite, and whoever sits first will be under pressure. Nowadays, men are all "gentlemanly" and always sit alone, which has become a reality.

"No wonder Suzhou men are afraid of their wives"

The origin of jokes.

Making trouble in the bridal chamber is the highlight of Suzhou people's marriage. At this time, you can come up with all kinds of tricks for the couple to make trouble. Suzhou has always had a noisy bridal chamber "three days without size", which can be noisy for all ages. It is said that there is also a saying that the bridal chamber is not noisy.

It turns out that the traditional bride returns home on the second or third day after the wedding, and the Soviet-style wedding is coming to an end. But now most of them return home on the wedding day, that is, before the bride and groom go to the hotel.