Yongding wedding, Tomb-Sweeping Day Dragon Boat Festival, the custom of the Mid-Autumn Festival.

Hakka people attach importance to marriage customs. With the help of matchmakers, women who raised their children before liberation exchanged invitations on New Year's Eve when appropriate, and chose auspicious days and arranged marriages if they disagreed. When they get married, they need to make some routine customs. Two nights before marriage, there was a group of female companions in the women's boudoir as a foil, commonly known as "girls". Married women are very reluctant to tell their partners that their happy events are realized through traditional crying and singing. Some people have learned traditional lyrics very early, and those who can't sing will be taught by middle-aged women until they finish the training. If they don't sing, it is disrespectful or unlucky. This custom gradually disappeared after liberation, and today only women around the age of 80 can sing. Crying is different from singing folk songs. Crying and singing is joyful and boring, and there is no extension in singing and singing.

The wedding procession consists of men, four children holding colorful flags first, then the matchmaker leading the way, two sedan chair elders, wine carriers, six six-tone drummers, and several people carrying dowry. The wine delivery man was carried by a lucky man. Among the two baskets, there is an altar of wine, pork, eggs, big black salted fish, betel nut and other foods, as well as a round red wine tray with two cypress leaves and two sealed markets. The trumpeter passed by the village and played music to inform people of their interest. Go to the woman's house to play for a while, and then the bride will cry and sing: sweep the bottle in the upper hall and pick up the matchmaker in the lower hall; Sweep the door, put the sedan chair, sweep the eaves and hang colorful flags.

There is also a farce before bidding farewell to our ancestors, called "drag sister" (bride). Outside the door, middle-aged women forcibly entered the married woman's room and asked her to come out and get on the sedan chair, but they insisted on not letting in, pushing and pulling each other, and even spraying wine with their mouths to prevent problems. In order not to delay the bride's return to the man's house, the old escort finally dragged the bride out to bid farewell to her ancestors and cried and sang after paying homage to her parents.

The umbrella was opened by the bride's own brother, and those without brothers were replaced by other relatives. The umbrella opener stands on the left side of the gate. After opening the umbrella, the escort pulled the bride under it. Walking to the front of the sedan chair, the bride was a little reluctant to go in, even crying and singing, and even kicking the door of the sedan chair. She accompanied her mother to persuade her to get on the sedan chair with auspicious words of marrying a man and a woman or going back to have an early baby. Saying goodbye to our ancestors and getting into the sedan chair is really a crying song. Because I have lived with my parents for 10 years, I am deeply reluctant to leave suddenly. Why not let her cry and sing: I used to take advantage of the street with an umbrella, but today I take an umbrella to see my sister; It's hard for an elder sister to cry when she marries her brother. Take good care of your parents.

The sedan chair was given by men, women and children in the village. The mileage is usually about one mile, but you have to stop the sedan chair three times in the middle to show that you are reluctant to visit relatives. The bride also scattered some red envelopes in the sedan chair, and whoever found them would return them to him. After getting off the bus for the third time, I went back to the man's house and stopped crying and singing. The last two sentences: my brother sent the sedan chair to the river and went back to the house to ask for money; The fine guy sent the sedan chair on the road, went back to start a business and got married early.

At the door of in-laws' house, the man's wife and mother will say some auspicious words in front of the sedan chair, such as "Qi Mei with white hair, holding two in three years". Put a washbasin in front of the door in advance, fill it with a small amount of water, put a kitchen knife, a ruler, a handful of thatch and peach leaves, which means to drive away ghosts, and at the same time make a fire with a small bundle of hay, which means to go back to my husband's house cleanly. The bride, led by her mother, covered her head with a rice screen, first crossed the basin, then entered the new house with a small fire. After dinner, the groom invited the young men and women in the village to see the bride, commonly known as "disturbing the bride", and both entered the bridal chamber after seeing her off at night. The next morning, the bride, led by a guard, offered tea to her ancestors, grandparents and presented her with jewels and money.

Both men and women talk through the central media. If both sides are interested, they will agree on a time to "see their sister".

The two sides agreed to inform each other of their birthdays after writing the Geng post. When you go back, please ask the fortune teller to "check the eight characters". If the eight characters hit it off and don't collide with each other, write a Geng post (common name wedding list) and put it on the incense table. If there is no writing on the wall within three days, the marriage is settled (if the eight characters don't match, the man will return the Geng Tie to the woman's house).

Making a red list is also called "opening a red wedding post", or talking about bride price. The man's parents, clan relatives and matchmaker go to the woman's house together and draw out the bride price that the man wants to give to the woman's house. Some red lists should also include gifts for husbands, such as hats, silver flowers, clothes, shoes, socks and so on. In the process of opening a red bill, the two sides will bargain and finally finalize it through negotiation. After the red list is opened, men and women will exchange rings, handkerchiefs and other tokens. Finally, the man came to the woman's house and went back after lunch.

Engagement is also called "big marriage", that is, formally confirming marriage again. Young men and their parents are going to the woman's house to deliver pig's head, fish and meat. , as well as the woman's parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and grandparents will appear. After lunch, girls will come out to meet and call each other "parents" and "parents-in-law" and "mother".

Housekeeping means that the woman goes to the man's house to see the family, some before the "big tie" and some after the "big tie". Except girls and their parents, the woman's aunt and sister will go. A dozen people, big and small, don't bring gifts, even if they bring a little, the man is afraid to pick them up.

After the wedding date is set, the man should ask the fortune teller to choose the date to go home, including the date and time when the bride goes out and the time to go home. In addition, the date when the woman cuts the red skirt and the man makes the bed should also be chosen at the same time.

One or two days after the bride delivers the vegetables and brings the dowry, the man's family should ask the clan to send the bride price and the fish, meat, poultry, noodles and other things stipulated in the red list to the woman's family, and bring the bride price and furniture back to the man's family when they come back.

Wedding reception is also called picking up the bride or going through the door. On the day before the wedding, the man's family will go to the woman's house to pick up relatives, including a drummer band, firecrackers, a sedan chair, a censer (going to the woman's ancestral temple, temples and social workers to burn incense), a porter, a chicken guide (a male and a female) at one end, wine and Song Ming at the other end, and the woman will bring the clothes worn by the bride and a wooden basket.

When the parents arrive, they eat snacks first, and then they take them to the ancestral temple to burn incense to worship their ancestors. At noon or in the evening, the woman's family will hold a banquet.

The bride usually leaves at midnight or midnight. She is getting brighter and brighter, which symbolizes that she is moving towards the light. If she had gone out at night, she wouldn't have had such unlucky things as carrying a coffin. In front of the wedding procession are lanterns, followed by drummers, sedan chairs in the middle, and people who accept the wedding ceremony in the back.

When the bride arrives at the man's house, she will wait at the gate or the house next door if she hasn't arrived at the prescribed time. The introductions are usually at 7: 00 or 8: 00 in the morning, and some even have to wait until noon. When entering, the bride will kick open the door of the sedan chair, and the man's bridesmaid will lead the bride out of the sedan chair and then "cross the fire" at the gate. Before entering the gate, the bride will cross the fire with fir branches.

After the bride entered the hall with the sound of drums, she began to pay homage. There are incense tables in the hall, with parents and elders in the east, consorts in the west, relatives in the north and younger generations in the south. Before meeting the bride, the husband will hang red on the groom and cover him with a five-foot red cloth.

I read aloud: "I have five feet of red in my hand, and I only beat the groom, so that the groom can have a son and his son can be the champion." When visiting the church, the groom stands on the left and the bride stands on the right. Li Sheng said: One worships heaven and earth, the other worships ancestors, the third worships Gaotang, and the four couples respect each other as guests.

Finally, relatives meet and give the bride a red envelope. After the ceremony, the bridesmaid led the bride into the new house with red roses, and the bride and groom scattered wedding candy from the door to the hall with firecrackers. Then the bride and groom propose a toast. The maid of honor held a plate of chicken and said while drinking: "Round and round, beads on the wall" and "Guanyin gave birth to your son early"; Husband and wife make up and grow old together.

Hold a banquet at noon, eat a wedding banquet, invite guests with firecrackers, once every half hour, and let the banquet ring three times when you start sitting. Then, the gift students signed up for the table, and two people took the table. According to seniority and personal relationship, arrange them to sit at the table first, and then others can sit at the table casually. The male and female guests are seated separately, and the bride and groom want to propose a toast.

A noisy room is noisy in the lobby, a noisy room is in the new house, and a noisy room is in the lobby first and then in the new house. During the noisy period, firecrackers will be set off every few minutes until midnight.

The back door is also called "turnstile". Generally speaking, on the third or fifth day after marriage, the woman will send the bride's sisters and other women to invite the bride and groom to be guests, and the matchmaker and the bride and groom's sisters will also go. ***7- 14 people have lunch and come back the same day.

Send the full moon one month after the wedding, the bride's family will come to send the full moon and send chickens, vegetables, seeds, seeds and beans at the same time. It means that the grain is abundant and the fortune is prosperous.