What do you mean by 19 engagement and 18 marriage?

After marriage and engagement, if both men and women reach the locally recognized marriage age, the man's parents will hold a banquet to invite the woman's parents and the matchmaker to choose the wedding date together.

Shouyang area is called "meeting election", and Datong and other places are called "choosing a day". Earlier, teachers of Yin and Yang were usually invited to see auspicious days of the zodiac in advance. Because people think that the wedding date is related to the lives of both men and women, they are very cautious. Parents often postpone their engagement for more than a year or even longer.