What do you mean, three days around the grave?

The three-day round grave, also known as "Shangliang", needs to be earthed for the new grave. Three poles are used, each pole is bent and inserted into the soil at a distance of about three equal parts, and the three poles are equally spaced. In the middle of the straw, tie the "pinch money" with a red cloth strip.

A circular tomb is a form of commemoration. On the third day of burial (that is, every other day), family members will go to the grave to worship for a round to cultivate the soil for the grave. It is also necessary to burn paper money and offer sacrifices. The grandchildren of the deceased (boys and girls) turn around the grave three times and turn three times, which is called "opening the door".

People think that after opening the door, they can communicate with the dead and express their feelings. The deceased can also receive sacrifices and money and food from the younger generation, and live a rich life in the underworld without worrying about money. After the round grave, the funeral basically ended.

The funeral customs in China since ancient times include: going to the cemetery three days after the funeral, that is, people buried in the cemetery need to go to the cemetery to beam, place offerings, burn incense, step on the yard, burn paper and other procedures. When the urn is stored in the funeral home, only offerings, incense and burning paper are placed.

After the round grave, the funeral basically ended. However, there were sacrifices on the 30th, 7th, 7th and 60th day after burial. On May 7th, the dutiful son will personally burn paper for the lottery. It is said that this can alleviate the sins of the deceased before his death. Burning paper sedan chairs on the 60 th is said to let the souls of the dead cross the mixed river. In addition, on the birthday of the deceased, the memorial day (the first anniversary is not allowed to go to the grave) and Tomb-Sweeping Day, the younger generation will go to the grave to pay homage. Almost all other ancestor worship activities are held in front of the spiritual tablet at home.

Expanding the data around the grave is a memorial service. It will be held on the third day after burial, and all family members will go to the grave for a ceremony to cultivate soil for the grave. It is also necessary to burn paper money and offer sacrifices. The grandchildren of the deceased (boys and girls) turn around the grave three times and turn three times, which is called "opening the door". People think that after opening the door, they can communicate with the dead and express their feelings. The deceased can also receive sacrifices and money and food from the younger generation, and live a rich life in the underworld without worrying about money.

Pile up the dirt, pile it up. It looks like a new grave. Then, put sacrifices in front of the monument to the dead. The so-called sacrifices vary from person to person, such as melon, pear, peach and jiaozi steamed bread snacks. And whether the dead can drink or not, always put a pot of wine, put a cup, fill it up and sprinkle a sacrifice. Dead people who smoke naturally have to provide a pack of cigarettes. If you have other special food hobbies, remember to give them.

Then, we will burn some yin coins and paper money in front of the grave, and introduce the family members who are still alive, such as the economic situation, how is life, who is married, who has children, who has babies, who is divorced, who is an official, and who has been admitted to college. In short, we will tell some reassuring words to the deceased.

People with fragile feelings will naturally be moved by the sight before them, and sadness will come from it, and they will burst into tears. Of course, those whose family economy went from bad to worse because of the death of the deceased cried even worse.

From the day of death, people burn paper once every seven days, seven times, seven classes and forty-nine days, which is called burning seven (also called seven or committing seven). Today, people often change the seven times to four times, namely: 17 (replaced by the three-day original grave), 37, 57, 77, (now only the odd number is burned, and the big seven is burned). According to the funeral custom, it was burned on July 17, 1977, mainly by the son of the deceased, and it was called: a head and a tail; Sanqi, mainly the daughter-in-law of the deceased; 57. Give priority to the daughter of the deceased (burn five pots of paper flowers). According to the funeral custom, burn seven (do seven).

There is also a special need to talk about the seven deadly sins. What is Article 7? According to the lunar calendar, from the date of death. If every seventh day falls on the seventh, seventeenth and twenty-seventh day of the seventh lunar month, it is called committing seven deadly sins. For example, the coincidence of Sanqi these days is committing Sanqi.

There is a saying: "The dead don't commit the seven deadly sins, and the living have no food to eat", which means that committing the seven deadly sins is beneficial to the living, but the dead will suffer. Therefore, in this case, the living need to eliminate disasters for the dead, that is, they need to go to the grave to shower seven showers for the dead.

Take Shanxi as an example, the specific method is: paper-cut people with hemp paper, the number is three more than the life span of the deceased, tied to straw, cut an umbrella, a ladder and a bridge. Surround these paper men in a circle, put them in front of the grave, put umbrellas, ladders and bridges in the middle, then pour water on the paper men with a colander of walnuts and dates, and piously read various words to remind the dead, such as sheltering from the rain, crossing the bridge, thundering and so on.

From the day of the death of the deceased, every seven days is a "seven" and "seven-seven". The dutiful son does not cut his hair or shave, which is called "prison seven". Every seventh day, we must go to the grave to burn paper money for the deceased, especially "March 7th", "May 7th" and "July 7th".

If more than one of the seven "seven" coincides with the "seven" in the lunar calendar, it is called "committing seven". If there is no "seven crimes", the dutiful son will have to ask 100 families for enough rice before "Fushan" to entertain relatives and friends who came to pay homage on the day of "Fushan".

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