Jiangxi marriage custom

The wedding customs in Jiangxi follow the traditional customs and habits, and the general process consists of seven aspects, namely, entrusting the media, exchanging posts, choosing an auspicious day, getting engaged, hiring people, and paying homage.

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In a family, the boy is about 20 years old and the girl is about 15 years old. Parents begin to arrange marriages for their children, and the matchmaker leads the red line so that men and women can't meet, let alone get to know each other. When you entrust the media, you have to pay the matchmaker in advance. This is called buying shoes (which means you need to go to find someone else). In the future, I will give a gift to the matchmaker and invite her to dinner. The matchmaker accepts the money to buy shoes, starts to perform the contract to find the right person, and participates in the whole marriage process until the bride is sent to the bridal chamber.

Exchange notes/cards with personal information such as the other party's name.

Parents of both sides exchange positions with their children's horoscope, which is also called "matching horoscope". The so-called eight-character, that is, according to the year, month, day and hour of birth displayed by heavenly stems and earthly branches in the old calendar, uses the five elements to calculate whether the eight-character of both sides are combined or gram. After the parents of both sides are satisfied with the preliminary understanding, they write down the eight characters of the man's birth in red posts, which are sent to the woman by the introducer, and the woman asks the fortune teller to "open and close" to see if the year, month, day and time collide with the woman.

Pick an auspicious day.

Every step of marriage, from successful changing of posts to engagement, engagement, wedding and meeting the bride, should ask the husband to choose a suitable date, commonly known as date. Besides auspicious days, Nanchang people also get married in Laba every year. It is said that this is a dry dragon that went down to the south of the Yangtze River. When they came to Nanchang, it was the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, and they performed an auspicious story. Since then, the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month has become an auspicious day, which has continued to this day. The eighth day of the twelfth lunar month is the Buddha's day of enlightenment. It is said that this day is too old to be idle, and there is no evil star in charge, which is an auspicious day for marriage. People say that "there is no need to choose a date for Laba's marriage", and many people hold happy events on this day.

be engaged in

After the wedding date is fixed, the man chooses an auspicious time to invite him to "bring wine from the east", also called betrothal wine. At the banquet, the man presented clothes, shoes, socks, towels and the like, invited the woman to "pull cloth" on the street, and sent the agreed bride price, gold and silver jewelry, money exchange, three generations and other gifts to the woman. The woman gave all her stickers to the man. After the banquet, the man will also ask the matchmaker to give the "dragon and phoenix stickers" to the woman, and the marriage will finally be settled here.

hire

Employment is also called talent. On the day of "gift-giving", the man's family carried the "box" and carried the burden, firing a gun and whistling all the way to give the bride a bride price. Gifts for the woman's family include: a pair of three animals, a male and a female, a pair of hoof flowers, a pair of carp, clothes and shoes for the bride, as well as exotic flowers, cloth, clothes, fish, meat, noodles and shoes. If the family is well-off, there should be hundreds of kinds of fish, meat, noodles and cakes, which are commonly known as "all kinds of meat and noodles". The woman returned shoes and socks, towels, handkerchiefs and other items and left the banquet enthusiastically. At the dinner table, men and women meet, and the man gives the woman a "meeting gift". After employment, the marriage relationship has been confirmed, and both men and women are generally not allowed to dissolve it without authorization. If the man changes, the woman may not be required to return the dowry; If the woman changes, the bride price must be returned to the man. After employment, the man prepares gifts for his father-in-law three times a year, which is called "sending festivals", and the woman also gives certain gifts in return.

ancestral temple

The day before the wedding, the woman should kowtow to her parents and the patriarch, and then tie her hair, also called sewing, that is, tie it up, make it into a bun and insert flowers. If the woman wants to open her face, she will cut off her hair with thread, and then put on a wedding dress and sit on the bed without going to the ground. The woman should hold a banquet at home to entertain relatives and friends. From this day on, the bride will not eat anything, only some thread powder, meatballs, longan, lotus seed soup and so on. The woman's mother wants to cry, and the longer she cries, the better, and the worse she cries. The longest crying wedding lasted 48 days. The time to cry is before dawn every day. I started crying on the first day and said "Open your mouth". Weeping wedding songs are very rich in content, teaching daughters to be filial to their parents-in-law, to respect their elders, to manage their families diligently, to get along with husband and wife, and so on. For example, "ten things to teach your mother, the first thing to keep in mind is to sweep your mother-in-law's room before sweeping the floor, and don't touch her."

On the wedding day, grandma in the room led the crying, mother and daughter cried, aunt cried, married sisters of the same generation cried, mother and daughter cried, and everyone cried together. Tears of parting, tears of mother's kindness and blessing, sincere tears of daughter's humble obedience to mother's instructions, tears of joy for everyone. There are no fixed lyrics for crying marriage. It is usually the mother of the bride who cries first and teaches her daughter how to behave.

Pick up the bride

Two or three days before the wedding, relatives, friends and idle people came home to decorate the courtyard one after another. The whole house became a red world, with red lanterns hanging on the door and the word "Xi" hanging in the middle of the hall, red candles in pairs and incense in pairs. The day before the wedding, the man's relatives and friends all went to the man's house to congratulate and give gifts. The groom gets up in the morning, takes a shower and dresses up. Make the bed in the morning and let the "happy" people order bedding.

The husband's family takes the bride's adoption day as the positive period. That morning, the drummer came home to unveil the ceremony, then greeted the guests and said "congratulations".

(of the bride and groom) salute to heaven and earth.

The groom lifted the curtain, put his ring on the bride's hand, and took it off and put it on his hand. This is called "blind date". Someone threw tea on the sedan chair, calling it "breaking the evil spirit." Then, the sedan chair was carried to the wedding hall and the bride was led by her mother. The groom took off the red veil, and the bride, with the help of the bridesmaid, began the solemn ceremony of visiting the bride. Worship heaven and earth in the cheers of the master of ceremonies, first worship heaven and earth, second worship ancestors, third worship parents, and then, husband and wife worship each other. When the bride enters the bridal chamber, the groom is introduced into the bridal chamber by his mother-in-law or clan elders singing candle songs, which is called "entering the bridal chamber by lighting candles".

To enthrone

When the couple entered the bridal chamber, five men and two women sat on the bed. Teacher Wang sang "Colorful Words on the Bed" and threw red dates, peanuts, longan, melon seeds and other foods on the bed, and the children scrambled to eat them, indicating that they had a baby. After singing colorful words, they distributed a gift to every child sitting on the bed. Sitting on the bed and clapping, there are many words, such as: a pair of red candles beaming, watching new people enter the bridal chamber. The groom's mouth is smiling, and the bride's face is hibiscus. A handful of melon seeds scattered in the east will give birth to a good face; A handful of sugar is scattered in the south, and the children born respect their parents; If the west scatters a handful of fruits, the children born will read; A handful of fried beans are scattered in the north, and the children born have everything. Today's wedding night, tomorrow will be the same as the bald man. Husband and wife are more favored, and children compete for family happiness. Among them, there are a pair of gongs and drums, beating the bridal chamber and so on.

He Lang

In the evening, fireworks are lit, the band plays music, all the guests are seated, and the groom arranges a small table and two groomsmen. Each table has four dishes, braised pork, braised whole fish, tofu strips and bamboo shoots. At this time, the groom sat next to his mother's uncle. After the banquet, the kitchen handed the flowers to the hall and put them on the groom's table. Sing two He Lang songs on the groom's desk and pass them on. Each table must sing two He Lang songs. Whoever can't take turns singing will be fined. He Lang's songs are all about marriage. They are all pleasant words, auspicious and amusing.

An Xi

In Nanchang, taking a seat is one of the main procedures of He Lang. The groom can't sit down before he sits down. At the banquet, the groom wore red silk and a court hat. His mother-in-law personally lit six incense sticks, led the groom to worship heaven and earth first, inserted three incense sticks to the gate, and then worshipped his ancestors and inserted three incense sticks.

Hand over flowers

After being seated, the banquet officially began. Wrap a piece of dried beancurd with red paper or red silk in advance, insert a flower on the dried beancurd, put it in a flowerpot, and put the flowerpot in a wooden basin. At this time, a man was sent from the kitchen, holding a basin in his hand, singing a flower song and walking towards the hall. For example, a flower is happy, and the flower passes from the kitchen to the front hall. Relatives drank too much, which made He Xinlang feel hot.

(of relatives and friends) teasing the newlyweds on their wedding night.

New houses are made in various forms, all with the purpose of creating an intimate, auspicious, lively and cheerful atmosphere. This is also the need of parents at that time, the words of the matchmaker. Neither men nor women have kissed Ni before. The bridal chamber is too much, impolite and noisy. Before making trouble, choose two people who are heavy drinkers as "night emperor" and "night emperor empress" respectively, and give the bride and groom "questions", and paint the bottom of the pot on their faces.

San Chao hui men

On the third day of marriage, the bride's brother went to her husband's house to pick up her sister and brother-in-law and went back to her mother's house, calling it "Huimen", and her mother's house would host a banquet. The groom should also bring gifts and call his son-in-law a "new guest". The couple can stay a few more days this time, but they can't share the same bed. When the bride returns to her parents' home, she must also prepare "wedding packages", some of which will be given to the next generation of siblings and nephews.