Marriage custom in Yunxian county, Shiyan

The etiquette and custom of Yunxian County-the wedding in Yunxian County, pays attention to rules and follows certain procedures.

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In the semi-colonial and semi-feudal society (the same was true in the early days of the founding of New China), men and women got married according to their parents' orders and matchmakers' words. Some men and women have never met each other from asking their names to getting married. When a man and a woman get married, they should go through the procedures of invitation, name, Kyrgyzstan, invitation, date of invitation and marriage. The main links for men and women to get married are eight characters (asking names), engagement (Najib) and marriage (getting married). 1952 After the first Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China was promulgated, the old customs were gradually abolished.

Before the promulgation of the Marriage Law, the matchmaker asked the date of birth of both men and women, and calculated the fate of both men and women (golden life, wooden life, water life, life fire and earth life) by matching the earth, water and fire in heavenly stems and earthly branches and Jin Mu. The fate of men and women is also six grams (such as wood and water, wood and soil, Jin Kemu, water and fire, etc.). ) to set up, propose, and talk hands-free. When the proposed couple are in harmony, put the matching eight-character (Geng Tie) under the incense burner on the god table of the man's house. Within three days or a month, both men and women (including families) will formally decide to get married. After the marriage law was promulgated, this practice gradually decreased. As long as both men and women love each other and conform to the provisions of the marriage law, they can get married.

After the engagement (Najib), the man should choose a good day to give gifts to the woman's house for engagement. After the engagement (or at the same time), give gifts to the woman's uncle, uncle and separated compatriot Gebei's family to recognize relatives. Usually there are at least four kinds of gifts in the basket, which are called four-color gifts and five-color gifts. No matter how many colors of gifts, hanging (pork) is essential. Relatives of the woman must give back "green rice" (mung beans, white rice, vegetables, onions, bamboo leaves, etc. ) to show that the girl is innocent and clean, and the relationship between the two relatives is long. This habit has not been abolished since the promulgation of the Marriage Law.

After marriage (marriage), both men and women and their parents agree to get married and choose an auspicious day. After the date is selected, the man's father should send the date list to the woman's home at least one month before his son gets married, such as a month-by-month date, and invite the immediate family members within three generations (drinking) and guests (emcee). After receiving the order, the woman's family should make a dowry (drawer table, wardrobe, box, washbasin, footbath, brazier, etc. ) meet (please) her uncle, sister-in-law, nephew, etc. Send her to get married. The number of people who visit Fujian depends on the amount of dowry, such as one for two, four for two, eight for four, and a girl's mistress delivers meals (usually jiaozi, commonly known as Yuanbao). The woman's family should also invite guests. On the first night of the girl's wedding, she gave a banquet to entertain the guests (the guests gave gifts and added boxes), because there was one person missing in the woman's house the next day, and she entertained the guests according to the free food (roasted seeds and nuts, dry rice and ten bowls of vegetables). After dinner, please ask uncle and others to agree on the next day's farewell, and then box it. When packing, my uncle, brother-in-law, elder sister-in-law and so on should add some money to the girl's box in addition to the married clothes (5 yuan, 10 yuan, 100 yuan). After the box is packed, the eldest sister-in-law will lock the dowry and can't open it again after locking it. The key is given to the person who has sent the guests the longest (called the lamp bearer). The day before, the man invited guests and other helpers to his home. After dinner, while the artillery (musical instrument team) warms the room in the husband and wife's room (playing musical instruments and singing auspicious songs), pedestrians (usually uncles or brothers-in-law) should count and pack gifts. On the wedding day, the man should put an abacus on the door, carry a bucket to show his luck, hang a mirror to show his evil, and put couplets on all the doors to show his happiness. The words "Get married, don't avoid children's words" are obliquely pasted on the wall of nave to prevent children from inadvertently saying unlucky things. During the Republic of China and the early days of the founding of New China, the groom embarked on the road of marrying the bride. During the Republic of China, the bride sat in a sedan chair. Before attending the ceremony, the two sides are not allowed to meet. After attending the ceremony, both of them entered the bridal chamber before meeting. After the promulgation of the Marriage Law, until the 1960s, the groom still married the bride, but the woman no longer took the sedan chair. The hostess and the ex-husband and ex-wife receive guests (one worships heaven and earth, the other worships parents, and the three couples worship each other). When the wedding is held, the pedestrians on the road are all odd, and when they come back, with the bride, it becomes even. On the way to the wedding, the musical instrument group should play all the time. Pedestrians should get cigarettes and candy. The woman's house should bolt the door after hearing the guns. When you marry a new wife, you have to hit the door three times (musical instruments three times, firecrackers three times, invitations three times), and the woman's house opens to welcome guests into nave. After pedestrians enter the house, they should blow three out and hit three out before braking the artillery. Then give gifts, worship the family god, and let the girl's sister-in-law count the gifts and give red envelopes (red envelopes). The woman's family entertained the pedestrians with good wine and rice, and the wedding guests had to blow out three blows in the nave before the pedestrians took out their dowry first. All pedestrians except the bride are forbidden to enter the boudoir. After the musical instrument rang three times, the daughter was carried into the sedan chair by her uncle, uncle or brother, so as to prevent her from stepping on the ground with her heel and taking away the wealth at home. Later, I talked and laughed all the way and was received by my husband's family. After arriving home, the bride stepped over the sedan chair, stepped on the red carpet, stepped over the saddle and entered the nave with the help of her mother. After the ceremony, both of them entered the bridal chamber. There is charcoal fire in the bridal chamber to show wealth, and there are dates and other things on the bed to show early birth. The bride's house keeps a certain distance from the bride's house on the road (subject to not hearing each other or seeing pedestrians). The man referred to the person who saw the guests off as "an elder relative". When relatives get home, they should be clear first, then thick, then excellent, and serve tea three times. Generally, water is boiled first, then tea, and then egg tea to show that relatives are getting closer and closer, and the girl's future life is getting sweeter every day. After drinking tea, my brother sent a seal to the man's cook, and then opened a table of rice. The man invited guests, uncles and aunts to accompany his brother. Shang Qin sat in the front seat, and all the other seats were individual passengers. During the dinner, the bride and groom should toast three times. After dinner, the man sets the coffee table in the bridal chamber to entertain his wife, who will say some kind words to her in-laws and give her the key. Tell me when to pick up the girl and come back. Then say goodbye and go home. When parents leave, the man will give everyone a package of gifts (sugar, cigarettes, etc.). There are also relatives who don't come back that day, but the rest must be arranged far from the bridal chamber.

On the night of the wedding, the man made a scene in the bridal chamber, joking or asking the bride and groom to do some seductive actions, but the person who asked the question wanted to drink. If there were any actions that were not pleasant to listen to or easy to complete in public, he would drink them twice. The next morning, the bride went to the kitchen to peel noodles, and chopsticks rolled on her face, indicating that she would be born soon. The bride will go home in three days. In addition, when you go back, pay attention to the fact that men live in eight and women live in seven (eight days after marriage, the family will take them back for seven days). In the future, I will pay a New Year call to my uncle, uncle and matchmaker in menstruation with a heavy gift (basket) for three years in a row, and send money to my family during the New Year. The third basket should be returned to the son-in-law After a woman gets married, every year, the fifteenth day of the first month, the Dragon Boat Festival in May and the fifteenth day of August will be taken to celebrate the festival.

In addition, before the founding of New China, it was customary to accept child brides. Child brides usually get married at the age of 16. If the husband dies when he is young and marries again, it is called a halfway couple. Husband and wife meet halfway (the man picks up relatives and waits for the woman halfway). After entering the 1990s, girls began to ride floats when they got married.