What's the custom of getting married there?

With the changes of the times, the custom of marriage has developed from parents' orders and matchmakers' words to free love now, but the traditional customs of marriage before marriage are more or less preserved or evolving, both in the traditional society and at present.

My hometown, Shihe District, Xinyang, is also a big export city for migrant workers. In recent years, because of the serious imbalance between men and women, many young people hope to find a wife by working outside the home, which can not only solve the single problem, but also save a lot of bride price. Many customs of other provinces may be omitted when it comes to working outside the home. I made an appointment to come back and find a gentleman to choose a wedding date and set a dozen tables, and the marriage will be married.

If it is introduced by our local acquaintances, there are many interesting processes. Let me analyze our local marriage customs for you.

One: Introduction

Through the introduction of acquaintances, the man will first talk to a matchmaker who is more or less related to the woman, and the woman's parents will more or less ask someone to inquire about the man's family background or family style. To put it bluntly, it depends on whether the boys in your man's family are lazy, gambling and unreasonable. If this is all right, the woman will also find a matchmaker, and then the matchmakers will exchange mobile phone numbers.

Second: housekeeping

It is agreed that the man's matchmaker will greet the woman's matchmaker and ask her when to look after the house. The appointed date of housekeeping is usually decided by women. On the day of housekeeping, the woman's aunt or second mother will come over to have lunch with the girl, and some will take her aunt's children. In the process of eating, we usually look at the performance of boys, such as whether they can speak, whether their eyesight is strong and so on. After lunch, they will chew. When they get up and go home, the man will hand out the red envelopes prepared in advance one by one. Adults and children will give them, usually an even number of 600 to 1000. For girls, it is usually10/0/00, which means one in a million. If the red envelope sealed in this process is stingy, I guess I will give you a cool song. Ha ha laugh

Three: the media.

Starting with the media, what is more common here is the media on the moon. What is the media on the moon? For example, starting from the media on the eighth day of August this month, then the wedding date is the eighth day of September. When you get to the man's side, it is generally agreed to find a gentleman and choose an auspicious day. When starting the media, the matchmaker and the boy will send the bride price and gifts here to the girl's home. The bride price is generally decided by the woman, 66,000, 88,000, colorful and so on. Gifts are even, six-color, eight-color and eight-color sixteen kinds. I remember there were fish, which were wrapped in red paper, and wedding cakes, large and small, which seemed to be many.

Four: take care of relatives

In some places, the groom doesn't go when he picks up the bride. At our place, the groom must go together. We need to prepare wedding candy, red envelopes and firecrackers. Usually six cars will be found to go together. When we get to the woman's house, we will light firecrackers. I think we should tell her that the team to pick up the bride is here. At the door of the woman's house, relatives and friends accompanied by the man will start throwing wedding candy red envelopes. If you don't throw it, you won't get in the door. The man will pass cigarettes to her elders over there. After greeting, the man carried the woman into the car. This process seems that the woman can't touch the ground. Then we will go to the man's house. When the wedding procession appears at the man's house, the man will light fireworks, which is also the climax of our wedding. After the car stops, the groom will help the bride enter the wedding room, and some peanuts, dates and longan will be sprinkled on the bed of the wedding room, which means early birth. The accompanying relatives and friends will carry the bride's dowry into the wedding room, and then turn over the red envelopes in the dowry items, big or small. When the bride is resting, there will be children who bring face washing water to the bride, and the bride will give the children red envelopes prepared in advance. The amount is not small, tea and hair are given red envelopes. After that, the bride and groom will kowtow to their ancestors' incense cards and then return to the wedding room. Then the party begins.

Five: make trouble in the bridal chamber

Wait for an hour or two after the party. When the chef brings the prepared fruit bowl dishes to the table, the groom will stand on the table with the bride, surrounded by relatives and friends, waiting for their teasing. They will hold long and short chopsticks prepared in advance for the bride and groom to smoke. When the length of chopsticks extracted by the bride and groom is the same, they can go to the next level together. At the next level, the groom will give the bride pickled uncut leeks. Without any strength, you will get a big pimple. The bride toasted cigarettes one by one and the groom toasted one by one, not a coward.

Six: Federal Gate

On the third day after marriage, the woman's uncle will pick up the bride and take her back to her family. If the man wants to go, he should prepare enough gifts. After all, it's outrageous to meet my father-in-law. That man will stay at his father-in-law's house for a few days, and we will call him Zhu Jiu there. I have to thank the media for coming back for a long time. I just prepared some gifts to go to the matchmaker's house to thank her for running away.