Xinghua marriage custom

The proposer asks the matchmaker to propose marriage, and the other party is interested; Or ask the matchmaker to form an even number with the consent of relatives and friends. The former is the "original media" and the latter is the "invited media".

Marriage is a "hidden metaphor", and women's birthdays are reported orally to male families through matchmakers. If the "eight characters match", the woman's family will be notified, which is "change of heart". The woman's family then sends the woman's post to the man's family, omitting the procedure of "replying" and doing it together with "posting", calling "a company" and asking a man to ask someone to "get married by fortune telling", which is called "for example".

After receiving the woman's wedding invitation, Xiaoding prepared two sets of clothes, cloud cakes and other gifts and sent them to her home. At this point, the engagement is complete. In the meantime, many parents secretly "visit relatives" and "get married". [Chasing Festival] Two or three years before marriage, the son-in-law chose to bring gifts to the Yue family for a few days in summer, which is called "summer break". From then on, every "three festivals" should give gifts to the Yue family to "chase the festival". Gifts for the Spring Festival should be boxed, that is, there are several pieces returned by the Yue family, usually one piece, such as pig's trotters, fish, wine and tea.

When the "day" is ready, please ask the matchmaker to negotiate with the woman and choose the right date to get married. The specific date is generally chosen in two days, Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday at most. If both parties are even in age, choose the third, fifth and ninth day. After the wedding ceremony is agreed, notify the bride's family with a red invitation ten days ago, only in advance, not later.

Before an auspicious day, the man's family will give the woman a "bride price" according to the agreed amount for the bride to buy clothes (wedding cloth) and jewelry. When getting married, the man's family buys a wooden bed, and the rest of the furniture is usually accompanied by the woman's family (this is called "whole house service"). No matter how poor a woman is, she must accompany a girl.

A few days before the ceremony, the dowry and the house will be sent to the man's house, dazzling and ostentatious. Decorate the new house the day before the wedding.

On the eve of the auspicious day of warm bed, the groom invites unmarried men from relatives and friends to share the bed, which is a good omen for having a son early.

On an auspicious morning, the groom accompanied Lang to the bride's house in a sedan chair. As soon as the sedan chair arrived, the woman's family greeted it with guns and fire, and then closed the door and asked for help. Take this cable to "open the door". When people with relatives come in, they will treat them with jiaozi, red dates and cloud cakes. I wish them a reunion, early birth and promotion. When the bride gets into the sedan chair, the mother will cry a few times to show her love for her daughter. In the play, it is said that the bride whose mother doesn't cry when she gets into a sedan chair will be mute in the future. There are also people in the female family who "send off their relatives." On the way, the bride's sedan chair will set off firecrackers at the corner of the river, bridge or road. When two sedan chairs meet, nosy people often get the upper hand. When the sedan chair arrived at the house, it was greeted by a cannon. And invited those who greeted and sent their loved ones away to eat jiaozi, red dates and cloud cakes. The following ceremonies include worshipping the church, sitting in wealth, holding rich candles and eating rich meals. When you return from the full moon, you must bring a two-color or four-color gift to the Yue family. Yue family will give back 100 palm seeds. Among them, the extra-large one is 1, which can be called "one in a hundred".

I hope that the relatives of the woman in the DPRK will visit her daughter at the man's house on the auspicious day during the honeymoon, and the man's house will be warmly entertained.

Xie Media will invite the matchmaker to the wedding banquet and send many gifts. Thanks for noodles and pork.

Birthday: The bride's first birthday after going through the door is celebrated by her family, which is called "birthday", and the subsequent birthdays are celebrated by her husband's family.